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writes:Hello right I have a mega mega problem. I am 1000000000000000000000% in love with my teacher and have been for 2 and a half years but I'm 13 he's 40 he's married and has a kid. So there is no way on earth that we will ever be together. And I'm only in year 8 but I'm a bit worried in case he retires sometime soon because before he / I leave school I would like to have my picture taken with him and get his email address , do you think he will be okay with this? Also to make it worse he isn't my teacher anymore but he still talks to me. And he's constantly staring at me, and he remembers my first and second name witch I'm very happy about! Also as its the Easter holidays I am missing him soooooooo much so if anyone could private message me so I can get my feelings out and talk about him I would be very happy!... Someone that's in the same situation. Thanks anyway xxx
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (16 April 2011):
OP, please read this article, it was specifically written for girls in your situation: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/crushes-on-teachers.html
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reader, lonelygirl11 +, writes (16 April 2011):
Its ok to ask for picture with him as i have pics of me with my teacher, taken on my last day with him. I dont think your teacher would mind havin his pic taken with you but you could say its for you memories as he is your fave teacher. I would love to have my teachers email but dont. It would be wrong to ask for his email while you are still in the school but maybe you could ask him when he/you leave the school, just tell him you would like to keep in touch and that you really appreciate him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): Hey, i was in the same situation as you, im 17 and i was inlove with my maths teacher since i was 14, i talked about him non stop, dreamt about him etc .. but seriously m`dear this feeling will start to go away as you get older trust me only this year i have come to realise its never gonna happen, no matter how much you think it will (my maths teacher is married about 34, & has kids) All you can do is dream .. but never make it a reality, i know this because a girl in my year had a relationship with another maths teacher and she also was inlove with the maths teacher i loved .. i remember she gave him a love letter on th last day of 2nd year .. and he was freaked out! Never act on this feeling ! Your only gonna end up hurt and feel ridiculous!! & You`ll look back and think how the hell did i even like this guy!!!!
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reader, Jackalus +, writes (16 April 2011):
Hey this sounds like a big emotional problem for you. I don't know how you feel but I can think of the stress you are having to deal with. My advice would be to try and avoid him because it otherwise your lust is just going to grow. Don't ask for his email but do have a pic taken with him. Having a students email address or having them on facebook or msn is illegal in the uk. Just tell him that he is you're favourite teacher ever and when you leave at the end of year 11 tell him that you will never forger him. I will private message you as I am in yr 10 in the uk. :)
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reader, anonymous_jp  +, writes (16 April 2011):
guys can be weak and wont miss any sexual opportunity. if hes staring at you. thats kind of creepy and says to me he wouldnt pass a sexual opportunity up. so dont try anything please, im sure your future boyfriend (someone not the teacher) would appreciate it HEAPS.
a photo is harmless but his email address is going a bit far with a student and teacher relationship. you can always day dream about him and have fun with it that way.
good luck :) too many girls get used in this world, dont end up another one. promise me!
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reader, Eilish +, writes (16 April 2011):
 Truth is here I think you're living in a bit of a fantasy world.
He's old enough to be his father. I don't think a teacher would risk everything he's been through to fulfill this career for a girl as young as yourself. Look in the real world, he has a wife and a kid. I'm sorry to say he does not like you. You are only a kid yourself. You have to stop trying to convince yourself by saying he knows your first and last name and keeps staring at you. It only gets your hopes up. Also think of the consequenes if this man did cross that line. He would lose his career, his family, and be more than likely jailed for some time. Truth is, he is your teacher, and thats all it will ever be.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (16 April 2011):
 I dont want to have to say this but you need to hear it..
Your teacher doesnt like you.
He wont give you any private contact information.
"He knows my first and second name!" - He's a teacher at your school, so isnt he supposed to?!
You are 13 - you're a child. Dont you think it would be a bit sick if he did have feelings for you?
Men who like kids your age are called peodophiles and get put in jail and are placed on the sex-offenders register for life if they act on their feelings.
You're not in love, you are infatuated.
How do I know this? Because I was in your situaton when I was your age, as were many other girls in my year. We enjoyed our "fancyings" from afar and would never dream of acting on it, becuase we knew it was rediculous.
I'm now 21, have been in a serious relationship for 2.5 years so I know what real love is.
Enjoy your fantasy, leave it as that, dont talk to that teacher unless it is about something academic and in a few years time you can look back on this and laugh.
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reader, love is in the air +, writes (16 April 2011):
love is in the air is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay thank you
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 April 2011):
I'm not the the same situation. But I do know a girl who was, as she was in my class.
She was 14, and fell for a teacher. She made a move, and he responded. He got fired, jailed and put on the sex offender's register. She was expelled and had to move away.
That's basically why he can't really give you his e-mail address. Whilst he's not your teacher, he is still in a position of trust, and that makes it illegal for him to be anything other than a responsible adult.
Enjoy him from afar, but please be very respectful of the fact that you could get him into a huge amount of trouble, which I'm sure you don't want.
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