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writes:I have been friends with a girl for the past ten years. She has been there through lots of ups and downs in my life and I know she see's me like a brother or cousin and has mentioned jokingly that there is no way anything would ever happen between us...We have gotten alot closer in the past 2 years and I have recently (over the past 6 months) begun to have sexual thoughts about her and I don't know what I should do. I feel guilty, and worried that I'll lose her as a friend.Any advise?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): Well iv also had this same problem, you need to just think about this carefully as it could go sour.
These feelings are natural as you seem to have a close friendship and seem to care alot for her, i think the best thing to do is just sit back and see how things go you might find the feelings go away with time and this was just a little stage throughout your friendship.
But if these feeling do not go then you need to sit her down and explain your feelings and if she is that much of a good friend to you she will understand and support you during this might even be able to help stop the feelings or she may feel the same way.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): If she said this jokingly it could mean she has realised you like her, or maybe she likes you. But if you never tell her you will never find out. Even if she wants to just be friends, your honesty will improve your friendship.
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reader, anonymous_jp +, writes (20 May 2009):
do you have feelings for her or just sexual thoughts? if its just sexual thoughts it doesnt seem worth a friendship.
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