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writes:Is being friends with my ex too cruel if she's still in love with me after 5 months broken up?
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reader, Senate_78  +, writes (13 November 2009):
You need to let her go. It's easier to friends with an ex, when both parties have completely let go. If she's still in love with you, she's always going to hold out hope that you'll get back together. It's easier for you as you've already let all of it go.
She won't be able to move on, I think you guys should stop talking for awhile and let herself get sorted and then see if you can actually be friends again in a few months.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): Hi,
I think you answered the question yourself my friend.
She doesn't want to be your friend, she WANTS YOU...
I'm in love with my ex girlfriend and she knows it, but she now treats me like a friend, it kills me..
The sad thing about these situations, is the fact that your ex like me, knows that all we are doing is hurting ourselfs..
If my ex told me to F off i may get the hint..
I'm not telling you to be cruel, but there has to be an in between...
If you cant be kind, be honest...
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reader, anonymous_jp +, writes (12 November 2009):
anonymous_jp is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthat really is a tough one, we let each other completely into one another's lives and were the closest possible, then hated each other for about 4 months now we are on friendly terms and shes still in love with me. she does mean a lot just not in the way she wants. its not my fault nor hers. ive given her space like when we hated each other for 4 months, we never talked. im worried she might not get over me for ages.
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reader, ritalee  +, writes (12 November 2009):
i dont know if its cruel or not. The fact is that if you be friends with someone that loves you romanticly, even without knowing, you are going to be giving her hope. So, it might be worse for you, because you like having her as a friend, but staying away from her is the best for her. Not being friends is the best you can do for her until she falls in love with someone else!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): i have told her, and she knows, that i am in love with somebody else. she went out with one of my best mates which i didnt like too much but broke up because she was still in love with me. i feel sorry for her but i dont know how to talk to her about her still being in love with me. she seems to want to keep my as close as possible so obviously shes holding on. i dont lead her on but i do go along with things like txt her back and on msn and chill sometimes but i dont think theres much wrong with that.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 November 2009):
Not cruel, but sad. Sad because no matter how much you like her as a friend, you'll never be her love and she's just going to be stuck. I think you need to have a heart to heart with her and suggest you meet and see other people. She won't be able to move on otherwise.
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