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writes:HelloCan i can some peoples opinions please! ok I'll try keep it as short as poss, just wandered HONEST if i have completely ruined all hope!!! I don't know what it is with people i like but i either can't say 2 words to them or i just babble on and on about rubbish!! here goes .... ok sexy man works in building next to me, have seen him around prob last month or so, if he saw me outside would always say a polite hello/morning and smile then the other week he stopped his car outside and asked me my name what i do etc, he is uber cool and confident sat there in his sunnys, so i just talk say what i do etc, then i ask him if he's just not long started next door as not really seen him around, he said he's worked there 2 years and had seen me for about 2 years and sometimes i'd ignored him. So anyway me not be able to stay calm and confident like him leaves the situation and says bye. Next time I see him, he stops again and asks how i am just little chat which was fine. The time after that i saw him outside and again just babbled on, oh i cringe!!! he just stands there smiling. he asked what i was doing at the weekend and i told him what i was doing and why and who with and blah blah blah. I can never think of anything witty, he comes out with funnier little one liners. I must seem like i have no sense of humour at all as he gets me all nervous! Then the last time I saw him he looked like he couldnt get away fast enough, saw him before work we had a little chat then he was like ooh must get into work now, bye. Have i ruined all hope with this man?? how can i not stay as cool and confident as him?? i am making myself look like an idiot and need to stop!!! I can talk to anyone else normal apart from people i like! Any advice out there????? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): You don't know much about this guy, so don't get all excited yet. You seem to be judging yourself before judging him. You have chemistry for him so you are questioning and nervy, but you don't know him and he may be horrible and you wasted all your energy. You are talking a lot, I think, without knowing you, because you are nervous. I prefer to have guys chasing me or give it a mess. I like them stumbling around and not me. I like them liking me and I have no issues. Just chat as you are doing and let him make the moves. But ask all the right questions to find out who he is, and listen, don't be ruled by chemicals.
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reader, anonymous_jp  +, writes (17 August 2009):
i think babbling is cute in chicks, if he doesnt like it and like who you are then forget him :)
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reader, deafguy +, writes (17 August 2009):
How come you being blah blah? Are you nervous? Did you tell him that you been nervous and sorry for blah blah.
Be yourself and tell him it is not that normal and you are interested to become his friend, want to go out etc
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Ask him out.
If you like the guy ask him out , well done you hes obviously interested, go for it
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