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My girlfriend is asking questions about my past that I don't know how to answer without causing upset!
Q. As per the title my gf likes to try and find out about my past. It sometimes catches up with me, one of her friends is going out with someone who i used to know. Small world. Anyway, my gf has asked me "if i have ever had more than one gf at t...
A. 6 August 2013: Ok, I have asked her again where this question came from.
her response was that she was talking to her friend about it, he had 2 girls on the go at once, she didnt want to date him because of that. she would have done otherwise.
I had asked w... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me finding a man who has never had a one night stand or casual sex?
Q. What are the chances of me finding a man who has never had a one night stand or casual sex? No offence to anyone here but I find that kind of behaviour revolting and it makes me see them as a lesser. I'm 26 now and this worries me. I was appalled ...
A. 5 August 2013: Unfortunatly those types of men are not very easy to find, i would try joining a club such as karate etc, i tend to find the sort of people you are looking for at those sorts of places. Its something i look for in a woman and unfortunatly thats ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is snooping on me via google!
Q. not sure what to do here, but my gf had found out about an abortion approx 4-5 years ago in a previous relationship she got upset at me because its something important i failed to tell jer, she said she wasnt checking up on me, but googled my n...
A. 31 July 2012: hi all, OP here, thanks for the replies... the information was freely available via a forum discussion, my online username is linked to my facebook account under "aliases" which i didnt know i had done. thanks cerb (this one is different) wh... (read in full...)
My ex is pregnant by another man! How should I feel?
Q. I barely every get on these forums, and I dont think I ever posted a question, but I have one now. I'm a 21 year old male, and I go to college in Philadelphia. My ex-girlfriend and I dated for 4.5 years until she broke up with me at the end of Ma...
A. 16 August 2011: the method of control? it is that shes staying on your thoughts by calling, and trying to keep in touch with you, shes keeping you on the sidelines, this is manipulation aka control
you need to cut contact with her to move on, or if you feel up ... (read in full...)
My ex is pregnant by another man! How should I feel?
Q. I barely every get on these forums, and I dont think I ever posted a question, but I have one now. I'm a 21 year old male, and I go to college in Philadelphia. My ex-girlfriend and I dated for 4.5 years until she broke up with me at the end of Ma...
A. 16 August 2011: I know its hard, and its horrible to know that she is in need and its because of someone else....you havent fully detatched your heart strings from her...why are you still in communication? why did you break up?
It is my personal opinion that she... (read in full...)
Do I try meeting someone in person or online?
Q. Hi guys n gals, I have been entertaining the thought of internet dating since becomming single...my friend suggests i wait a while and just meet someone naturally, they think internet dating is a bad thing to do, its mistly destined to fail...
A. 10 August 2011: so far you all think i should use internet dating as a dating enhancer?
does it sound bad if you introduce your new partner as someone you met online?
i know money is not everything, but feeling like i should take her out, go to the pub, or c... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me but still wants to be friends. I can't because I'm still in love with him
Q. Why wont my ex boyfriend let us part ways? he wont let me go:(? My ex bf dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship. He broke my heart. I loved him so much. Is been 4months now and he won't leave me alone. No matter how long we go ...
A. 10 August 2011: just tell him outright, that you cannot be friends with him because you still love him and that it would hurt too much, just to be friends, and that you do not want him contacting you anymore... (read in full...)
Why am I getting myself hung up on this?
Q. Hi guys, I have connected with a girl i met through scouts network (18-25 portion)shes 19 and really intelligent, clever, into similar stuff to me. iv known her for about 2 months now. I only really started talking to her when i said i would fix her ...
A. 18 May 2011: i got a text earlier :( - "look I've been thinking about exams and uni and stuff and atm i really don't think i have the time to see you its just that these exams are really really important and i can't let myself get distracted, plus i have 2 jobs, ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy jealous or do I have a right to question my girlfriend?
Q. I have been dating this girl on and off for 5 years. I love her more than anything in the world but our relationship is makes me nuts. Im not good with conflict at all and she knows this and from what I can see takes advantage of it. We have ...
A. 23 March 2011: iv been in this situation, if it dosent make you happy, pull yourself out of it, i learned the hard way, and had a girl who was like that. you need to sit her down and talk to her without exploding, but she'll be of the mindset "im not doing an... (read in full...)
How can I make my boyfriend realize he has made a mistake?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. For the first three months after the break we still saw a lot of each other, as friends, but we were still very close. I've just found out that he has been sleeping with someone since we broke up ...
A. 10 November 2010: ps thewalkin'dude's answer is a very good answer and she sounds like that is the most likely answer if its anything like the situation i mentioned about myself.... (read in full...)
How can I make my boyfriend realize he has made a mistake?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. For the first three months after the break we still saw a lot of each other, as friends, but we were still very close. I've just found out that he has been sleeping with someone since we broke up ...
A. 10 November 2010: sorry to be so harsh but
1) you dumped him, he may still be hurt
2) he's single, and can go off with whoever he likes - she may be a rebound - his way of getting over you?
why did you dump him if he was your world? think about the reasons yo... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 26 October 2010: thank you again tisha-1,
I fergot to say...she is a middle child with 2 sisters, not that it matters anymore, after the rant and the promise of being quiet n waiting for me to contact her, she sends a text in the middle of a date saying 'you hav... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: she is 23, and 3 weeks approximatly.
Minimal contact is something she uses on her exes when they annoy her, she tells them she dosent want to hear from them but keeps them on ms and her facebook etc, so comminication channels are open still, b... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: iv given in to her request for a phone chat before minimal contact...she says shes upset etc blah blah blas, have the balles to tell her that i want no contact in person blah blah...i really am feeling apathetic towards her now.
as soon as i sen... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: i will do exactly that :) ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: thank you tisha-1
i will use my backbone, as hard as it is, she has just text me saying "im not the only one holding things back n no i havent got a bf or slept with anyone else, i think we should have a chat x"
im going to struggle to say ... (read in full...)
What does the average girl measure in fingers?
Q. I was wondring if an average guy is 6in. What is an average girl n male fingers? Also, what r the male veiws on the diff sizes? How dramatic is the dif. Btween a girl with and without kids?...
A. 19 October 2010: i think i know what you are asking here...the girth your vagina should be....it stretches as much as it needs to, that hole down there is elastic..you guys push babies outta there!
at normal sizes it would be around 1-2 fingers girth without ... (read in full...)
Is this just coincidence or some supernatural force?
Q. Every time I'm on facebook, his name pops up or his picture pops up. Like whatever I click on, even if it has nothing to do with him, his name is either on the side of "tagged pictures" or whatever or a picture. And everywhere I go, his name is ...
A. 17 October 2010: does he have a lot of pictures? i dont have a lot of friends and my ex's photos ome up quite alot in the little box, i try to ignore it but its hard :( she had something like 500 photos that shes been tagged in and the rest of my friends are in like ... (read in full...)
Ask her what went wrong, did I do it right?
Q. Heya guys and gals, sorry to keep on about my breakup, its been a difficult couple of weeks for me. my parents and sister is away on holiday, so iv got an empty house and a great deal of loneliness, iv not been able to get a great deal of sleep my...
A. 15 October 2010: hiya thank you for your reply
she did reply with:
"I'm not listing anything. I am not going to create anymore bad feelings between us, because I would like us to remain friends. You are welcome to pop in after work, maybe we can play some pool or... (read in full...)
Was losing your virginity as you expected it to be?
Q. Was losing your Virginity as you expected it to be and would you change your mind if you could go back?...
A. 15 October 2010: i would have to be in the same category as dirtball hehe it was good but regret who it was with... (read in full...)
What was your best first date? I need ideas!
Q. what was the best first date you ever had? what made it so great and did you end up together? im just curious and looking for great date ideas!...
A. 14 October 2010: my dates arent that creative, but say alot about who i am - down to earth...the usual dates end up at pubs, cafe's or shopping centres...the ones at pubs and quiet bars tend to be the more successful first meets and from then on :) ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is confused whether he loves me or his ex-girlfriend
Q. my boyfriend is confused whether he loves me or his ex-girlfriend - we are dating for a month now but he can't seem to get over his EX-girlfriend... they were in a relationship for 6 years n after that she has left him for another guy... i...
A. 12 October 2010: be understanding about what he is going through and say to him that shes dumped him for another man, she may do it again, he will live in constant fear of her leaving if he was to go back to her. however if you start trying to convince him too much ... (read in full...)
We split because she said we didn't do anything specal together. Any advice?
Q. me and my gf split on amicable terms...i thought things where on the mend and improving she says she split because we didnt do anything special, i spoilt her too much and we spent too much time together...she also got tired of my anxiety disorder...
A. 1 October 2010: i will keep this in mind.
she cancelled out on seeing me last night which we had planned before the breakup..that annoyed me so im just going to wait for her to contact me now and try and keep it to just friends...
i have written out a li... (read in full...)
We split because she said we didn't do anything specal together. Any advice?
Q. me and my gf split on amicable terms...i thought things where on the mend and improving she says she split because we didnt do anything special, i spoilt her too much and we spent too much time together...she also got tired of my anxiety disorder...
A. 30 September 2010: you are probably right, im most likely blinded by infatuation, love and the pain of splitting up...although i dont feel too upset right now, i will do in the future? im in self denial about her actually ending it forever atm...but you never know ... (read in full...)
She says we're not having enough fun
Q. help, my GF is considering leaving me, she thinks we are incompatable because i dont do enough fun things with her and do enough nice things for her....i feel shes borderline taking me for granted. shes been out to see her ex and came h...
A. 28 September 2010: shes decided its best to part ways, we are still going to be friends though... (read in full...)
She says we're not having enough fun
Q. help, my GF is considering leaving me, she thinks we are incompatable because i dont do enough fun things with her and do enough nice things for her....i feel shes borderline taking me for granted. shes been out to see her ex and came h...
A. 28 September 2010: she's blown me off again tonight, shes seeing another ex. iv pretty much given upand am withdrawing my feelings...i do love her and want to give one more blast of effort, but probably not worth it.
and no, im not in the "blokes" or A$$ class ty... (read in full...)
Is this boy normal, and should he date my daughter?
Q. I am worried about my daughters new relatonship. My daughter is 17, she is a great kid , we are very lucky that we have never really had any trouble with her. Normally I don"t judge the people she chooses to date but I am a little concerned with her ...
A. 27 September 2010: i am a bit like this in general, i can only relax with my friends and my gf. i am socially anxious and blame this on my very strict upbringing...my gf hates that i cannot relax in public, but its something that is deep in my sub-concious...perhaps ... (read in full...)
He said he didn't love me and I was just a "sex thing"
Q. i have a big promblem ive been seeing a guy im in love with he's been treating me me very very poorly he used me for sex he wanted his friends to make out with me. ive told him lately that i love him he said he doesnt love me and he doesnt have ...
A. 9 September 2010: surely isnt it a good thing that he never wants to see you again?
think about how unhappy he's made you, with all the sex and making out with his friends, take some time out for youself and find a decent bloke who wont solicit youaround his frie... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he said "it was just like talking to an old friend"?
Q. Hello all, I've been chatting to this guy online for a few weeks now. We've had very good chats etc. On Monday we spoke on the phone for the first time for about 2h. I then got the following email: Hello.. going to bed but thought I should say goo...
A. 4 August 2010: well its good that he says this, not neccessarily a bad thing, but it could mean one of two things:
he likes you as a friend, or he is genuinely interested in you :)
its still early days so dont worry mucha bout it, and if you do get into a re... (read in full...)
Ever get jealous of people that get engaged or are married?
Q. I see on facebook how people I know from the past are getting married or just recently engaged. I'm a 24 year old single dude, and I get down when I see this. I feel happy for them, but I get a little sad. I had this one relationship (I liked this ...
A. 4 August 2010: my girlfriend gets broody and she does get jealous, although she wont admit it, she always brings up people she knows getting married or getting flats and moving in together, she gets frustrated at me for not being in the same position lol
I mus... (read in full...)
Wait for what I want or settle for the guys who want me?
Q. I am 21 years old girl and i have never had a boyfriend but i would love to have one. There are a few guys that i know are interested in me but none of them are the kind of guy i am attracted to. But my question is, should i continue waiting un...
A. 3 August 2010: i dont think it is fair to do that to them, just settling for someone is not the best option, you cannot give 100% to the relationship that way and eventually you may regret your decision.
you might also have high standards? what do you wantbin ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wont move out with me...
Q. hi aunts and uncles, I have a problem, something thats caused lots of arguments and some ill feelings about the topic, he thinks im being unreasonable, so iv come here to get a second opinion. My bf will not move out with me, i want to move...
A. 29 July 2010: Hi there Fem Anon
It seems you are in the wrong for pushing him, and have you actually considered the cost of living these days?
you havent taken into account food bills, electricity, gas and council tax, your boyfreind is right in the fac... (read in full...)
Severe Pain after having sex twice, what is this?
Q. Yesterday was the first time my boyfriend and I were able to have sex for a few weeks. Yesterday we had sex once and then a few hours later we had sex again. Except the second time it started to hurt me. So we went really slow. Once it was over and ...
A. 26 May 2010: Hiya there,
This sounds like Urinary trackt Infection
you have a feeling of needing to pee, but cant, symptom 1
pain from vajajay to stomach, symptom 2
lastly you upped the amount of sex you had in a day, not necessarily a bad thing,... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been accused of cheating, who do I believe without any proof?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 14 months, over this period there have accusations made against his fidelity by quite a few people, some unreliable but also some reliable sources. There has never been any proof but in my mind i'm not able to ...
A. 1 February 2010: i would do as caring-guy said, then also take these sorces tp your man and confront him together in a peacefull manner?... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't mind me flirting with other men, has he fallen out of love with me?
Q. My husband doesn't mind me flirting with other men, has he fallen out of love with me? I feel as though he is pushing me away. When I mention so and so, he jokes around and says "are you flirting with him again" laughingly as if he were my friend ...
A. 29 January 2010: from this post i get the impression you are just flirting to test him? there should be no tests in a relationship, also why are you flirting with other people and not your husband?
if this is not the case i can only agree with caring guy in that ... (read in full...)
Since getting back together, he's made no effort to reassure me--and he's the one who cheated!
Q. My ex and I were together four years (lived together/wedding booked). he cheated on me and started going with this other girl (I didnt know), he split up with me but maintained we were on a break. Treated me really badly - didn't say sorry and said ...
A. 19 January 2010: I think your effort and energy is being wasted on this guy, hes not showing his 100% devotion or that he truely regrets being sorry, if he is feeling sorry and punishing himself for it inside (if he is that sort of person) then he should do it alone ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not wanting my 22 year old daugther to bring boys home?
Q. Im a 49 year old divorcee and have a boyfriend. We get on well and my 22 year-old daughter also accepts him. My daughter never has a boyfriend until recently she starts asking a boy at work out for a drink. She said they are just friends he is ...
A. 16 December 2009: my other half is 22, still lives at home, like you her mother openly objects to the idea of her daughter bringing boys home, dating or anything like that, she feels that 22 she should be out partying innocently just making friends. her mum sticks... (read in full...)
Facebook ruins relationships?
Q. I have decided that things like facebook and myspace are definate relationship problems... I was just on fb, and I decided to send a comment to my boyfriend, because we've not really spoken today, and I saw that he'd commented on a girl's photo. ...
A. 11 December 2009: Facebook can do, just depends how you view it and if you can humor your partner enough to keep them happy.
facebook lets everyone see what others have written on your wall, sometimes you cant have controll over what they say really. could be... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned that my girlfriend wants an STD test? And how can I stop my girlfriend's mum interfering so much?
Q. Hi guys, I have 2 issues in this one 1st off, last night my GF said she was thinking about getting tested for chlamidya(sp?) why now all of a sudden after being with me for the last 9 months, she said she has done one since she slept with her e...
A. 11 December 2009: to female reader annonymous
I am not living alone, i am still with my parents, i like the idea of living on my own, and that is an idea i have explored, unfortunatly, i fall a ittle short when it comes to having money to move out, i can pay for ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to push the subject until she deals with the problem?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. Everything has been going smoothly until as of late. First, her parents, even after years, still invite her ex over to their house. When I say how much this bothers me, they don't care. They...
A. 2 December 2009: ur in a very similar situation to me, my GF is still speaking to her ex, keeps us 2 at a distance, she says she'll never get back with him because she wont trust him.
i hope that what she says is true, and will probably show in time, it does mak... (read in full...)
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