He's been asked to travel again for his work, for 3 months this time, he said he wouldn't go again but now he wants to - for the money. I want to break up over this, what do you think?
Q. Hi I hope you can help me. I have been with my partner for over 3 years now. We've had our differences but we love each other very much. His job involves alot of travel, but its normally in the same country so he is normally home at weekends...
A. 23 September 2008: Okay men are from mars women are from venus. Men like to provide. They like to make sure they can take holidays, buy toys, have things and give to their families. They aren't all jerks.
However, if I were you in this situation I could co... (read in full...)
Me, my girlfriend, and her husband... How do I sort this out?
Q. Im in love with a girl whos married, we all live in the same house. She has 5 kids with her husband, and she is pregnant with my child, the baby is due in late may 09. At first we all was happy but then my g/f and her h/b split up becuz h/b sed he...
A. 23 September 2008: No judgement here. People do what motivates them and what they feel that is what makes us human.
Okay I'm not going to lie you are in a tough situation. I can see how you must be feeling. Do you let her go on with her husband and let him rais... (read in full...)
He almost called me his ex-wife's name... Help!
Q. In a long distance relationship for 5 months with a male who has been divorced a little over a year. Felt uncomfortable to visit him as she spends time visiting their cats at his home twice a week. I am told they have an amicable relationship ...
A. 23 September 2008: Okay don't get upset. It's okay. When we've been with someone we loved deeply, for a long time, shared the good and bad with. It's not easy to move on. That doesn't mean he hasn't. It is just that sometimes we can be thinking of that person, ... (read in full...)
I know he's just playing with me, but I don't know how to get over him.
Q. a year ago i was with this guy,that i really loved but he started changing day after day..and finaly we broke up.it was the hardest thing i could ever do and it still hurts(wrote about it over here and everyone said that i will get over him but that ...
A. 23 September 2008: Time does heal honey, but the memory last forever. At least until you are old and will to forget everything LOL.
I am married to a wonderful man, five years with two beautiful children, only one of which is from him. I was with my ex 12 years. ... (read in full...)
I know he's just playing with me, but I don't know how to get over him.
Q. a year ago i was with this guy,that i really loved but he started changing day after day..and finaly we broke up.it was the hardest thing i could ever do and it still hurts(wrote about it over here and everyone said that i will get over him but that ...
A. 23 September 2008: Time does heal honey, but the memory last forever. At least until you are old and will to forget everything LOL.
I am married to a wonderful man, five years with two beautiful children, only one of which is from him. I was with my ex 12 years. ... (read in full...)
My best friend is not talking to me much since she has a boyfriend, it seems that he prefers him more than me!
Q. me and my friend have been best friends since last year, we are like sisters or so i thought. it all started like 3 weeks ago wen she got a bf. i kno that they need time and blah blah. we used to talk everyday on the phone(most of the time i was ...
A. 23 September 2008: Oh boy! I've been there done that. All I can say is that after being friends with my best friend now over twenty years every since we were thirteen. Life changes people. As we grow and mature and meet people and find new loves, sometimes we can ... (read in full...)
What exactly happens when a guy reaches orgasm or ejaculates? Can you describe this please?
Q. I've never felt it when my bf ejaculates but i know that he does. He never makes any noises or anything. I would sometimes feel him hold me tight and goes deeper inside during sex. But i'm not really sure if is that the time when he is ejaculating. ...
A. 23 September 2008: It is different for all men, how much they go, how they feel and how they react. Some men make noise. Some growl. Some hold you tight and some say nothing at all before or after.
As you become more aware of your body and how it feels when you... (read in full...)
How can I separate my eldest son and his aunty?
Q. I am the mother of three teenaged boys and also have a recently divorced sister with two teenaged girls. There has always been frequent contact between our families, and my boys have always been regular visitors to my sister. A while ago, my two y...
A. 6 September 2008: Play on your sister and not your son. What I mean by this is the more you try to separate him from her the more it will only drive him to her. Talk to her. Tell her your fears. Explain to her that if this did happen how wrong it is. That you ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my height after a comment by this girl?
Q. I went on a few dates with a girl but nothing really picked up. A friend of mine ran into the girl randomly at a party and asked her what she thought of me. She said that I was a good person and a lot of fun but not what she was looking for. My ...
A. 6 September 2008: DON'T! Snap yourself out of it, hold your head up high and understand you DO NOT want to go out with someone who is so superficial as to not like someone because they aren't tall enough.
Truth is young people always think looks are importan... (read in full...)
He held my hand? What can this mean?
Q. i need ur help... there's this guy i like very much, and i THINK he likes me back, since he recently started playing with my hair as a bunch of us were over a friend's house... and another time as we were giving a girl a ride home, me and 2 other ...
A. 6 September 2008: Okay so to be clear you are worried he did those things just because you are friends and that's all he wants?
I'm going to say he likes you. Those physical gestures are key to liking someone, especially playing with their hair and holding ... (read in full...)
Why do I have such a high libido?
Q. it took my boyfriend 5days to try anyhing sexual with me...Anyway, i've never been extreemly horny in my life, after 5days of Vincent no trying anything i went nuts, yeah we had sex but he leaves me wanting more! i dont understand, Why am i like ...
A. 3 September 2008: Okay well all you can do is tell him this...
It's normal for a woman to bleed during sex, especially if it's rough a bit. It depends on her cervix and it's size. Foreplay can help alleviate this as the lubrication can make a difference if the f... (read in full...)
Is it so wrong for me to want him to see the truth?
Q. Hi I have a psychological question. I think. First is it a mistake to try and make someone see things about them selves? If they aren't ready? They deny it totally? I am trying to prove to a very imature friend that he is a mommas boy. And he has ...
A. 3 September 2008: Reply to your second post...
You really are doing the right thing and I'm glad you can see that. It's not nice to even think about hurting someone we care about. I am the type who absolutely hates hurting anyone. I'd rather beg forgiven... (read in full...)
I had sex with my wife's sister and now she's driving me crazy! What do I do about such a weird situation?
Q. About 2 years ago I had the best sex ever with my wifes sister. I have always wanted her and in fact, when i met my wife my intention was to hook up with the sister but it didn't happen. Anyway we ended up in bed together just having the best sex ...
A. 3 September 2008: This is in reply to your second post which I read. Okay bottom line you need to end the relationship, move out and apply for visitation rights to see your son. Your feelings for the sister don't really matter (though to you they do) I understand, ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my sister to stop wearing this bikini?
Q. My cute younger sister (she's 16) hangs around the public pool wearing a thong bikini. From behind, it looks as though she is totally naked. The boys there gather around her, many whispering, all staring, some spreading the word. If I ask her to ...
A. 29 August 2008: It's hard being a brother or sister and worrying about your sibling. Truth is what she is wearing has no bearing on who she is or what she is doing. Unfortunately she will find out and hopefully not the hard way that kind of attention can lead to ... (read in full...)
I found texts on her phone that say 'hon' and 'babe' and that he tells her he'll dream about her!
Q. I have a girlfriend who has a very good best friend. They do everything together and hang out all the time. I'm alright with this and I understand. She is a texter and is constantly texting a lot of people. Normally she lets me grab her phone ...
A. 29 August 2008: Part of being in an loving, caring and communicative relationship means just that. Speaking the truth. If you don't like it tell her. You don't have to accuse her, or say you don't trust her or get upset over their friendship.
You can use the ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my wife's sister and now she's driving me crazy! What do I do about such a weird situation?
Q. About 2 years ago I had the best sex ever with my wifes sister. I have always wanted her and in fact, when i met my wife my intention was to hook up with the sister but it didn't happen. Anyway we ended up in bed together just having the best sex ...
A. 29 August 2008: Are you serious? Be a man and grow up. Think of your son. Divorce your wife and let her be happy instead of causing her the most unimaginable pain ever by sleeping with her sister and not telling her. Or have you told her? I suppose I shouldn't ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend was not a virgin when I had sex with her and I don't know what to do!
Q. my girlfriend was having two boy friends at her past . i think she must have sex wih them because when i had sex with her there was no bleeding and my penis got easily entered her vagina and i hav heared that for the first time sex its just ...
A. 29 August 2008: Okay first let's clarify not all women are tight because they are nervous. Some woman have a small cervix and are just born this way. But it's true some women bleed and some women don't and it all depends on just not being nervous, but size of the ... (read in full...)
My 4 year old son is hard to handle!
Q. My son is 4 years old and he is very hard to handle, he doesnt listen at all and fights with his sister all of the time. My husband is a stay at home Dad but he yells all of the time. It is nerve racking for me. It is not very effective with my ...
A. 29 August 2008: Hi there! First off dad needs to stop the yelling. Men don't always have the same patience women do when dealing with kids. Your son is only acting and reacting the way he's been taught. Dad yells so I will not listen and I will fight too.
... (read in full...)
My 3-month old is acting hungry but wont eat Why???
Q. My 3 month old hasnt eaten but maybe 6-10 ounces today. SHe normally eats around 30-40 oz. per day. SHe is crying and acting like she is hungry (rooting) but she just sits there with the bottle in her mouth. Any ideas? ...
A. 29 August 2008: I agree with Serinity, she could be gassy. The baby massage will help. What type of bottle is she using? Sometimes the nipple and air flow and how much milk comes out has an affect. Playtex drop in liner bottles are great because it reduces the ... (read in full...)
Can you REALLY spoil an Infant????
Q. Everyone i have met says you cannot spoil a baby, and all the magazines say it too. But the only way i can get my 3 monht old daughter to stop crying is to hold her. If i let her cry she falls asleep after an hour or two (i check on her every 5-10 ...
A. 29 August 2008: I know this situation can create a lot of anxious feelings. But babies that young you have to remember were soothed by the sound of your heartbeat, and the comfort and closeness of your womb.
My son who is now 2 always wanted snuggles to fall asl... (read in full...)
Years after our marriage I find out he's my half-brother!
Q. What would you do if you met a guy started going out with him than years later you got married to him and found out that you had the same dad....... What would you do? stay together? seperate? or see each other as brother and sister? ...
A. 29 August 2008: Okay this might sound harsh but men are sperm donors, women egg harvesters... okay we are all more than that but you get my point. You didn't grow up as brother or sister, with that sibling feeling. I would discover if you are truly indeed lin... (read in full...)
"Stand By Your Man" should also apply for women!
Q. I really need to know if I'm right in this case because if not, I do want to apologize to my husband and his friend. Basically, his best friend, we'll call him D, lived with us when we were first married. Actually, my husband owned the house an...
A. 29 August 2008: You tell him exactly what you told us. "I was raised by strong men who stand by their partners and don't allow others to step on them." Your husband might be feeling because you sound like a strong woman yourself you can handle yourself... (read in full...)
Does My Teacher Like Me Back?
Q. I'm not his student anymore but he comes and helps out at my high school in the summer sometimes and I see him there. Anyways I've liked him since I met him which was 6 years ago. I found myself staring at him when he was around and a lot of the t...
A. 29 August 2008: So are you saying you basically liked him since you were uhhh 10 years old? Wow. Umm heed the previous posters advice. Acting on impulse because you have a crush or feel he might like you could ruin his life. I know that sounds harsh but there ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me being pregnant?
Q. Alright. So me and my boyfirend (long term) have been havign sex, everything is fine. But i think i may have gotten pregnant. We had sex the past 3 days a few times he finished off inside me. And a few times we used a condom and then after we used a ...
A. 29 August 2008: Go to the store. Buy a pregnancy and you will have your answer. The tests they have now are highly effective giving you results like days after if you are or not. Don't wait and keep stressing yourself out. Find out for sure and only then can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has changed, he is not as loving as he had been, I want my old boyfriend back, what do I do now?
Q. After telling my boyfriend about my lack of selfesteem things haven't been the same... he's not affectionate when he texts me or talks 2 me on the phone... Things dnt seem the same and I miss us and my heart is beakin apart... I love him so m...
A. 29 August 2008: I agree with cookie. You need to simple speak it straight. "I feel like every since I told you about my insecurities you've sort of held yourself back from me. I hope you don't think it's you. I love you. I just felt I needed to share ... (read in full...)
Is it so wrong for me to want him to see the truth?
Q. Hi I have a psychological question. I think. First is it a mistake to try and make someone see things about them selves? If they aren't ready? They deny it totally? I am trying to prove to a very imature friend that he is a mommas boy. And he has ...
A. 29 August 2008: We don't try to change people we wish to love. And I don't get the feeling you love him, sorry. I understand you care. But it sounded more to me and I might be wrong as though you were being condescending to him, treating him as though you know ... (read in full...)
I don't know if should stay or just leave him. I don't trust him anymore!
Q. Ive known my husband for 15 yrs and married for 6. He went to Ohio 2 weeks ago for work. I knew something was different when I talked to him. He came home told me he didnt love me, wanted to be alone, etc. I was in shock it came out of no where. I...
A. 29 August 2008: MIDLIFE!!! Okay don't laugh but yes both men and women face midlife and no that's not an excuse. My parents were married for and have been married for going on 36 years. A few years back after my mom had a heart attack my dad lost his mind. ... (read in full...)
He wants me to give him an incredible orgasm, but I have to put my finger in a certain place...
Q. My boyfriend asked me if I ever wanted to try anal sex. I'm not interested in puttig anything up my hiney. Exit only please! He mentioned that one of the biggest and best orgasms he ever had was with an ex who fingered him in the anus during sex. ...
A. 29 August 2008: Lazy guy has it right. I'd simple say you are willing to consider what turns him on and makes him happy as having a fullfilling sexual relationship and intimate relationship is based on telling each other yours thoughts, needs and wishes. Howe... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man who has a healthy sex life to watch porn?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other very much and have a healthy sex life. I found out today that he watches porn sometimes. He told me without hesitation and I did not ask. We some how got on the topic of porn. H...
A. 29 August 2008: It's even better if you watch it with him LOL! Okay joking aside. It's normal. Hubby and I watch SexTV together. Sometimes apart. It's also normal for a man who is having great sex to masturbate as with women to do the same and not because ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt anyone. I don't love my husband, and I want a guy who has a girlfriend. I don't know what to do!
Q. My husband says he loves me, I believed him. I thought I felt the same. When I got pregnant with our child thats when he proposed to me. I said yes. I was going to wait till after the baby was born to get married but everybody kept asking me why ...
A. 29 August 2008: You know it's very normal for woman who is pregnant to look at the man in her life and question everything... is he good enough for me...? Do I love him...? Did I ever love him...? I think what you are feeling for this co-worker who by the way i... (read in full...)
Do I abandon work and give up my rights to the t-shirt business? And should I confront my business partner and crush about what's in his head?
Q. M and J are best friends from college who are total opposites. I started dating M nine years ago. My son was 5 when we moved in together. Our relationship was loving but dysfunctional. We could not agree on how to handle my son or our finances. We ...
A. 29 August 2008: No you don't. Plain and simple. You are still sleeping with M friends with benefits or not, you also have a child who whether you realize it or is witnessing these interactions between you and M and J.
M has made it clear he's sleeping with you... (read in full...)
Help, I don't I've squirted until after!
Q. help? I get so relaxed, I don't know I've squirted until after (since forever). I have asked my husband to 'stop and watch' but, I never know when it's coming out, until after (my orgas.) continues through the squirting...and continues until my ...
A. 29 August 2008: Explain because I'm a little lost. How do you know what it tastes like? I'm also unclear on what you need help with and some more information might help. Are you saying you don't know when you are about to have an orgasm? You can't feeling it ... (read in full...)
How do I stay gone from him once I'm gone?? I keep coming back to him as I miss the good things that have been.
Q. I have been in an mostly emotional- sometimes physically abusive relationship for 7 years. We have 3 kids together- I have left this man at least once a year b/c I get to the point where I am so sick of being called a b____ and fat____ or dumb or ...
A. 29 August 2008: You get the strength to stay gone by getting up everyday, looking at your kids, but mostly yourself and saying to yourself (okay strange but aloud) "I'm beautiful... I deserve to be loved... I don't deserve to be treated this way... I deserve... (read in full...)
I have 4 children but want more, my hubby's done a vasectomy, please help me accept this, and my saddness?
Q. I have 4 children and in my heart I still want more. My husband had a vasectomy nearly 2 years ago as he doesn't want any more. I haven't been able to get past this and our relationship is about to end. Can anyone help me find a way to accept and be ...
A. 29 August 2008: Awww I didn't mean to make you cry. I just understand how you feel. I'm not fond of pregnancy either, but having a child with someone you love is amazing and I'd love more. Five... six... seven would be good. It's hard when your heart has m... (read in full...)
Why do I have such a high libido?
Q. it took my boyfriend 5days to try anyhing sexual with me...Anyway, i've never been extreemly horny in my life, after 5days of Vincent no trying anything i went nuts, yeah we had sex but he leaves me wanting more! i dont understand, Why am i like ...
A. 29 August 2008: Well masturbation always works. It might even lift him up a bit so to speak. Men fantasize and love to watch their partner masturbate (for the most part) See if that sparks his imagination and fixes his lack of libido as yours is strong and in ... (read in full...)
Can my ex just throw him out?!
Q. Im a mother of 3 children - 1 boy 15 who has lived with his father for the past 12 months, and 2 daughters age 12 and 6. My son who lives with father has thrown him out and now wants to live with us but unfortunately there is no bedroom space and ...
A. 27 August 2008: I agree with Fade878. She is right the father just can't do that. However you are responsible as well, new hubby or not, teenage problems or not for your son's welfare. We don't get married and suddenly have no room for our kids. When they... (read in full...)
How do I stay gone from him once I'm gone?? I keep coming back to him as I miss the good things that have been.
Q. I have been in an mostly emotional- sometimes physically abusive relationship for 7 years. We have 3 kids together- I have left this man at least once a year b/c I get to the point where I am so sick of being called a b____ and fat____ or dumb or ...
A. 27 August 2008: You know it's not easy when you spend so much time in what you think is a loving for the most of the time relationship. My ex husband was abusive physically and emotionally for years. So I know where you are coming from.
I hated him and yet when... (read in full...)
I have 4 children but want more, my hubby's done a vasectomy, please help me accept this, and my saddness?
Q. I have 4 children and in my heart I still want more. My husband had a vasectomy nearly 2 years ago as he doesn't want any more. I haven't been able to get past this and our relationship is about to end. Can anyone help me find a way to accept and be ...
A. 27 August 2008: Oh hun I feel your pain. This is a tough situation. I know what it is like. My husband got the procedure done two months after our first child together was born. He was born with complications and his reasons for doing it wasn't because of just ... (read in full...)
What is this going to look like to people when he comes back to me again?
Q. A few years back I had a relationship with an ex teacher of mine, which eventually we called off. we still talk to each other at least twice a week, and sometimes meet up. Anyway, today he visited me, and one thing led to another, and we had sex. ...
A. 27 August 2008: Okay my honest answer to this question is if it were me I'd be less worries about what people think and more worried he cheated on his girlfriend with me.
Comittment and honest in a relationship are important (at least to me) Knowing the guy I lo... (read in full...)
How can I find senior women and make them attracted to me?
Q. I'm 19 I am attracted almost exclusively to older women. And by older, I mean at least 55 and up. But I'm scared to talk to them cause why would they want to date someone younger? How can I find senior women and make them attracted to me?...
A. 27 August 2008: You can't. You also shouldn't. You are young and you do not have the maturity to be in a relationship with a woman who is 55 years old. Even if you make a woman feel good by being yourself and friendly, there will always be obstacles in the way ... (read in full...)
Why do I have such a high libido?
Q. it took my boyfriend 5days to try anyhing sexual with me...Anyway, i've never been extreemly horny in my life, after 5days of Vincent no trying anything i went nuts, yeah we had sex but he leaves me wanting more! i dont understand, Why am i like ...
A. 27 August 2008: Ahhh to be 18 again! I remember when I was 18 and I first started having sex. After, and we did it a lot. I was ready to go again. I use to think I was like a sex maniac. No lie. But as I got older I realized changes in the libido o... (read in full...)
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