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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 You are old enough to know not to waste people's time. Act like it.
-Frank
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 September 2008):
 This irritates me, their are plenty of people with REAL problems...waste of time.
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reader, Aunty Em  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 The misunderstanding over how everyone (quite innocently) assumed the poster was involved in the scenario she spoke about was rather amusing! I suggested you make the post more clear next time :).
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reader, BabyGurl27 +, writes (30 August 2008):
BabyGurl27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey! its not me i'm not the one who married my brother, i just ask a question about it. I heard it on the radio station(Steave Harvey Morning Show) and wanted to no what would you do about it. Thats all
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): Your marriage isn't valid if you unknowingly marry someone who you're not allowed to marry. I do feel very sorry to hear of your situation. Are you sure you are related? It isn't just rumours about a man who might have fathered you both? Unless you're certain maybe you should just forget about this and get on with your marriage. If you do know you are related and want children you strictly should have blood testing to see if they are likely to have genetic defects, but even then, the chance won't be that much higher [same as it is for first cousin couples] and it would certainly be better if they never had to know.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 August 2008):
This sounds like a Lifetime channel movie I saw awhile back. Sorry but I can't remember how it ended. And I too would like to know how you found out he is your Half-brother?
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (29 August 2008):
 How did you find he is your half brother?
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reader, abbeymom +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Okay this might sound harsh but men are sperm donors, women egg harvesters... okay we are all more than that but you get my point. You didn't grow up as brother or sister, with that sibling feeling. I would discover if you are truly indeed linked blood wise. And even if you are I agree with everyone else if you can work past it, the fact you have the same father, see doctors on the idea of kids though I wouldn't advise having kids because it only complicates things further, adoption is always an option. Enjoy your life.If it's too strange now that you both know that is something you will have to discover.I feel for your situation and wish you both the best!~ Abbeymom
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): For starters find out if you really are brother and sister. Heresay isn't enough.
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (29 August 2008):
First, see a family lawyer as there may be laws in the area you live in which may force you to annul the marriage.
Now, if the marriage is legal, THEN decide if you want to stay together, and if so, factor in the doctor's opinion about children.
My guess is that your marriage may not be a legal one.
Good Luck.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, BabyGurl27 +, writes (29 August 2008):
BabyGurl27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo kids involve, just 2 years of marrage
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reader, julie ann  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 It was an honest mistake babyGurl. You still have time to correct it... Tough decision, but i'll choose the latter.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (29 August 2008):
 If you are happily married then I see no reason you can not continue with the marriage. If this news upsets you to the point where it is affecting your marriage then I think the two of you need to have a heavy conversation. Remember that this information was not known up front.
It is possible that your kids may have some genetic issues but unlikely. You could talk to your DR about that.
Personally, if I had a solid marriage and we both agreed to continue as husband and wife I would stay married and think "wow, I have a very unique bond with my husband."
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reader, baybeegurl_x +, writes (29 August 2008):
 you know what, you obviously love him to of got married to him, it's a really big commitment just to call it off especially because you've been together for years!
if it doesn't freak you out, or him out, then there really shouldnt be any problem unless family members don't like it. you should always follow your heart.
if it was me and i was in love with the guy i'd stay with him. :) because it wasnt a problem when you didnt know about it, so why should it be in the way now? hope you stay together!
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