In love with an actor and it is affecting my real life relationship??
Q. okay, so i am in love with an actor, ryan reynolds. the guy from the proposal, okay? its getting in the way of mine and my boyfriend's relationship. but ryan is so so so so so so so so hot. i have a poster of him in my room. and look at videos of ...
A. 27 November 2009: I'm a guy and even I love Ryan Reynolds, but if it's interfering with your actual relationship then you've got a problem.
Snap out of it. You're being silly.... (read in full...)
We seemed to get along so well. Why is he ignoring me now?
Q. so me n this guy are best friends. we liked each other alot over halloween and before. we had kissed multiple times and he kept on saying he was gonna ask me out but he never did. so last week i started going out with this guy. and now he wont text ...
A. 27 November 2009: Perhaps he was too shy to actually call you up and ask you out. You've replaced him, of course he's upset.... (read in full...)
Is it real? Or just an illusion?
Q. Hey guys, i'v been dateing my girlfriend for about 4-5 weeks. She seems like a really nice girl and she really looks like she loves me. She is always so sweet to me, and says stuff like "your the best boyfriend i ever had" and "your everything...
A. 27 November 2009: Nobody here can possibly know if it's real. Sounds to me like you're asking an obvious question here. She really likes you, you really like her. Stop being so insecure and just let it be. Don't let previous experiences control you.
Also, asking h... (read in full...)
What should I do about my parents rule?
Q. ok so im 16 and my bf is 19 and i love him more than anything but my parents have this 2 year rule that i cant date anyone that is more than 2 years older than me but they wont even meet him and give him a chance he is a great guy nd ive been wit ...
A. 27 November 2009: Here's what you do. You lie.
Pretend you're not seeing the 19 year old anymore, and then in a month tell them you want them to meet your new 18 year old boyfriend.... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love over the internet. The problem is that it's making me sick!
Q. I have been talking to a girl over the internet for years. I have always had a very big soft spot for her, and she has always had one for me. It has always been inevitable that we would meet at some stage. After talking over the mic a couple times ...
A. 16 September 2009: Your positive words are very helpful. Thank you. But you must understand, I have this butterfly feeling ALL the time. It's going to kill me if I have to live with this feeling for more than a month. I'd be perfectly fine with it if tomorrow... (read in full...)
Addicted to lying: how do I stop?
Q. I seem to have a problem lying. I'm a bad liar. You can totally tell when I'm lying. I want to stop and have tried multiple times but in the end I always cycle back. It's not even about big things, it could be something small like I didn't lock the ...
A. 16 September 2009: I've known several compulsive lairs in my life, and they have all had one thing in common.. they all liked to lie to make themselves appear cooler.
Not lying is all about understanding the value of truth.
I cannot help you, because I cannot... (read in full...)
At the end of our trip, he pushed me out of his room and closed the door in my face!
Q. we were just friends through the internet and he came to my country. we met and traveled together for couple of days. while we were together he tried to have sex with me. i was shocked, why he wanted to have sex with me although he don't like me or ...
A. 16 September 2009: Guy sounds like a complete asshole. Break _all_ contact with him and forget about him. Do not ever feel tempted to talk to him.... (read in full...)
He ripped out my heart and now I feel ruined! Please help me.
Q. I am so sad, feel like such a fool, so angry, and so hopeless, and alone. I met jeremy 10 mths ago. We clicked right away. same taste in music, movies, books, and more. Same sense of humor, views on life. We became best friends and were in ...
A. 16 September 2009: that's terrible! No wonder you feel like crap. It goes without saying that you're better without him. But unfortunately, truly convincing yourself of this and letting go of the horrible things you must feel will not be as easy as acknowledging th... (read in full...)
How do I convince my parents that my boyfriend is a decent guy?
Q. My parents forbid me from my boyfriend and his friends. I had two parties at my house one weekend while they were gone but my aunt was watching me and was aware of what was going on, plus my mom gave me permission to have people over. But that tha...
A. 16 September 2009: So you thought that lying about the party and instead saying you lost your virginity and left the condom on your lawn would be better than just owning up? I don't even know where to begin to respond to that.... (read in full...)
How soon into a relationship should I reveal I'm a virgin?
Q. Hi cupid people, I know another 40 year old virginity rant but ah well - tis unique cos its all about me this time :) Basically I am a 24 (and 3 quarters) year old virgin although I'm not terrible looking and I have had ex's who have offered to ...
A. 16 September 2009: If you're worried about your secret getting out, then tell him when it becomes relevant.
Otherwise I see no reason to withhold the information.... (read in full...)
My ex is sleeping with his cousin how can they get away with this?
Q. i fingerd out my ex is sleeping with his 1st cousion. i woz goin out with him till i found out but i cant seem to be able to get it out of my head. his whole family thinks im sick and then to just act like thay wouldnt do that in front of every1. ...
A. 16 September 2009: It really doesn't sound like it's any of your business.
It's also entirely possible that they are deliberately messing with you.... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to have a relationship with an older guy?
Q. Im 16 going to be 17 in the spring and ive always had "a thing" for this guy whos about 23 24.hes no stranger.My mom and his mom are bestfriends and known each other forever and ive known him since i was in like middle school.we've never really hung ...
A. 16 September 2009: I don't think it's wrong, as long as he's a good guy.... (read in full...)
"Dearest" in an email.... what does this mean?
Q. My Husband was exchanging some fishy emails with a female co worker a while ago, we sorted that out eventually and he promised he will stop that, just yesterday I found an email from her addressing him with "dearest", what's this, what does that ...
A. 22 May 2009: Sounds like youre snooping in your husbands business. It's not his fault if you get the wrong end of the stick.... (read in full...)
Why is the guy I'm sharing a bed with touching me?
Q. I have a problem. I have been living in a house for 8 months now and recently moved out. But the there was a guy in my old house who me and my roomie became real good friends with, and even though we have moved out now, we visit the old place very ...
A. 22 May 2009: I agree with ThatOtherGuy. Quit being so dramatic.
He's a guy, you're a girl, you get along and you're in his bed... to assume that he would only want to be friends is naive at best, but to act all confused when he makes a move is moronic.... (read in full...)
I don't know whether I should tell him and explain why I did it, or keep it hidden.
Q. Little advice here please! I had an abortion last year and only told my best friend, and sister. They encouraged me to have the abortion, and at the time I thought it was for the best. I was in the middle of exams and just weren't ready for a baby. ...
A. 10 March 2009: I aint exactly for abortion, but I wouldn't want a person who I deeply cared about to keep it from me. I'd understand.
You ought to just tell him.... (read in full...)
Had baby with 1st cousin..no one knows
Q. ok this is hard i havent told anyone-my son is 2 1/2mo's old i got prego by my first cousin nobody no's who the father is its been a hard secret to keep for a year .in the past when i was 14 he was 19 we got caught doing it in a car he went to ...
A. 10 March 2009: Find a way to make it work. Better for your kid to have a father than to live in fear of people finding out what really isn't that much of a horrible secret.... (read in full...)
What do you think of dating your step brother/sister?
Q. What do you think of dating your step brother/sister? I'm not doing it or anyone else that I know of, I've just been thinking about it for a while and wanted to see what other people thought. I do and don't approve of it. ...
A. 10 March 2009: I think you shouldn't worry about what other people think, no matter what your age is. If you both like each other, then it's not like you're thinking of each other like brother and sister is it?.. more of a good friends type arrangement... (read in full...)
He's shy, how can I get him to ask me out?
Q. My friend has these roomates and one night, I had a makeout session with one of them. He wanted to have sex but I said no and left. Even though I like him, I found out that he is a complete manwhore so it will go nowhere. I have been talking to my ...
A. 5 March 2009: So wait.. you're flat out admitting that you're interested in a guy who "smokes weed all the time" ? I think you're old enough to be hanging around more mature people who don't need to be doing drugs all the time.. don't you?
That aside, I recomm... (read in full...)
I'm 24, she's 16. Can I go for it now or should I wait?
Q. I am 24 years old. There this girl that is 16 years old that I am attracted to. Part of me want to see if there is a chance to see if they is a chance at us hooking up, but part of me says we are too different. There is the age difference a...
A. 4 February 2009: If she's keen then go for it man. Depending on the state you live in, it may be illegal to do anything sexual with her.. so just be aware of that and don't go turning into a criminal. I'll assuming there are good reasons for you being interested... (read in full...)
Should I go ahead and do it?
Q. There is this guy and I want to have sex with him but I'm a virgin and he is not. Should I go ahead do it or should I wait, by the way he is 3 years older than me....
A. 4 February 2009: agreed with orangejuice24 ^... (read in full...)
I'm suspicious of my uncles and sister's relationship.
Q. I have a suspicion there is something more than normal going on between my sister(22) and our uncle (36). This suspicion is shared by a handful of other people close to both me and my sister. My biggest concern is the fact they are sharing a be...
A. 3 February 2009: Yeah, you have to do something man. Even if you're wrong, you can't take that chance. You sound like a caring brother, so I'm sure you will find some way to help.... (read in full...)
What can a 25 year old female do to meet guys?
Q. Okay, I know you guys are going to be like "boy, her life is soooo sad" and I'll be the first one to agree with you. That's why I'm hoping people could offer me tips on what to do. I am a 25 virgin. I have only had one "technical" boyfriend and th...
A. 2 February 2009: I'm a 25yr old male virgin living in New Zealand, and apparently I'm just like you. I wish you werent posting anonymously so that I could message you privately. We could bounce some ideas off of eachother :)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend drooled over this girl at a bar?
Q. Me and my boyfriend walked into this bar/club/seedy place.. Boy you should of seen the guys staring at me I felt like a movie star!! So any-way we go upto the bar order our drink, his talking to his friends we are all having a great time until these ...
A. 2 February 2009: Tbh it sounds like you weren't drunk enough.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks hes a three year old!
Q. Hey all, Well here's the basics im seventeen been with my boyfriend a year, everything has been great until around the end of november. When "the baby voice" came into my relationship. Out of no where my boyfriend started speaking like a baby, it ...
A. 1 February 2009: Sounds to me like he's doing it because he knows it ticks you off. If it's as frequent as you say, then no wonder you're getting pissed off! By him continuing to do it after you have asked him not to is disrespectful and it sounds like it is serio... (read in full...)
Sh'es gained weight & I don't want sex
Q. I really and truly love my wife and she is also my best friend and i'm not a jerk but over the past few years she has put on some weight enough to shut down my sex drive i would never tell her to lose weight and i would never stray but i am also wor...
A. 1 February 2009: How much weight are we talking here? You didn't say she was greatly overweight, so I'm assuming the problem can't be that bad... Is the weight just something you're using as an excuse? If she's obese then I doubt she's happy about it, and she woul... (read in full...)
Touched by my cousin and don't know what to do...?
Q. Okay so tonight I was at my aunties and uncles house, and I'm really close with my cousins. So me and my cousin were watching a film in the front room but I was on the side of his chair so I could go on the computer, he put is arms round my waist ...
A. 1 February 2009: I agree with ellababesx. Just stay away from him.. completely.
It sounds to me like you werent very resistant, so in his mind he probably hasn't done anything terribly wrong.
Just stay away.... (read in full...)
I asked her if she was my girlfriend--did I blow it?
Q. Me and my girl have been dating for about 3months we go out to eat a lot and she usually kisses me when I take her home. Or just when she feels like it, when we first met she was all over me and we had sex. But she said she didn't want a relation...
A. 1 February 2009: You didn't blow anything. It sounds like the girl has issues.
Sounds to me like you'd like her to be your official girlfriend, but if things are good between you two then just keep doing what you're doing :)... (read in full...)
Bullied in college, what to do?
Q. recently in college a girl has began bullying me, making comments about things i have posted on myspace and saying awful things about me i had talked to her a couple of times before and we seemed to get on quite well but now shes just attackin...
A. 1 February 2009: Honestly.. this will seem like the hardest thing to do.. but perhaps you could just ask her to leave you alone, and tell her you'll do the same.... (read in full...)
I'm scared shitless in case I don't come up to her standards re sex!
Q. Ok this is the problem I'm in, I've been with a girl for 1 year since I was 15. Well now I'm 16 and gonna join the army etc. Well my girlfriend wants to take our relationship up to he next level by having intercourse. I've done the minor stuff ...
A. 31 January 2009: Maybe you wont live up to her standards. Maybe she doesnt have very high standards. Maybe she wont live up to yours. Maybe you'll perform exceptionally well. Point is - If she wants it, you're eventually going to have to do it :) Drink some alcoh... (read in full...)
When should I tell him about my past?
Q. I'd like your advice and i'd be grateful if any male could also give me advice and women :). i'm curently chattin with a guy hes 24 i'm 18. its been nearly a month and we have had lots of arguments mostly my fault and we always make up....but its ...
A. 31 January 2009: Just wait until the time is right... no need to force it. Especially not over email.. that's a silly idea :) If you guys are the real deal then it's going to come out eventually.... (read in full...)
To shave? Or leave it?
Q. Hi...im a 14 year old girl and i have my first boyfriend now and we have been going out for a couple of months and i think he wants to have sex! i dont know what to do,do i shave off all my pubic hair?? please help...:)x ...
A. 31 January 2009: Pubic shaving is an art that takes years to master. If you think this boyfriend of yours will be attracted to a pimply/bumpy/red/itchy/swolen crotch, then by all means, do it. + You are a 14 year old girl, not a porn star. There is absolutely no... (read in full...)
My b/f didn't call me because he said he was emotionally drained
Q. Yesterday, my boyfriend and i made tentative plans to get together. His parents were in town so he was not sure if he would actually get a chance to see me but he told me he would call me when he knew for sure if he could. well, he ends up not ...
A. 31 January 2009: He's sick and probably feeling sorry for himself like a little baby. It's ok, we all act childish sometimes. If it happens again under different circumstances, get angry.... (read in full...)
She doesn' t like older guys, if I express my feelings I think she'll cut me off
Q. I am 40 year old single male. I live in a duplex. My neighbor is a 21 year old very attractive female. She is sassy, fun, and spontaneous. She doesnt have a washer and dryer, so this is how we started to get acquainted. We have a good friendship....
A. 31 January 2009: Dude. You need to just come out and tell her. That jealousy will consume you. Whether it's intentional or not, she's screwing with your head. Just do it man. DO IT.... (read in full...)
Did I just experience an orgasm?
Q. I need your help girls. I need to know if this was an orgasm or not... when my bf would finger me on my clitoris I would start getting short breaths and making noises and breathing heavily and very very fast and I would grasp him very very tight... ...
A. 31 January 2009: Im a 25 year old male virgin, but that doesn't sound like an orgasm to me.... (read in full...)
Help me to stop hating my dad
Q. It's gotten to the point that sometimes I wish he'd get terminally ill and just die. If he did, I'd finally feel free. I am so sick of him putting me down all the time, saying I am pathetic, worthless, he even said that he'd never want a daug...
A. 31 January 2009: Reality check - A lot of adults don't particularly like their parents. If you are in fact 20+ then it's time to start looking for a new place.... (read in full...)
Do guys know if you're a virgin when you have sex for the first time?
Q. When you have sex for the first time, is there a different feeling for guys like do they feel you a virgin or the feeling is the same to when you are not one? Like how people say I'm tight and you loose? Is that really true?...
A. 31 January 2009: What I would like to know is - why is this important to you? Are you ashamed of your virginity? Any guy who fails to respect and cherish a virgin girlfriend is completely undeserving.... (read in full...)
I've been seeing my daughter's father's boyfriend for awhile now, and my daughter doesn't approve. What should I do?
Q. My daughter is 17 years old, her boyfriend is 18 and they have been seeing each other for over a year. I met her boyfriend father 3 months after they met, we went out and one thing lead to another. We tried talking both our children and they forbid ...
A. 31 January 2009: What are you crazy? There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. The kids need to get over it and let their parents be happy. What do you mean the relationship will have to stop if your daughter moves in with her boyfriend? That makes absolutely... (read in full...)
I offered to have sex with my gay friend to "turn him straight"! What now?
Q. I'm going to be 16 soon. I've known this gay friend for years now and we're really good friends. I tell him everything and vice versa. A while ago, he was really depressed because the guy he likes for a long time finally decided to tell him the ...
A. 31 January 2009: If you don't want a relationship with him then you ought to just tell him so. You are only 16 so you're not expected to handle this like an adult, but if you let him know that nothing else can happen then both parties will be a lot happier in t... (read in full...)
25 year old virgin who's never been in a relationship
Q. I'm a 25 yr old English bloke who is a virgin and has never been in a relationship with a girl. As I get older, I suffer bouts of anxiety and depression, whereby I fixate on a girl and fantasize about asking her out. Then a voice in my head laugh...
A. 31 January 2009: I am also a 25 year old virgin. I know your pain.... (read in full...)
Do I go after girls my own age or girls the same age as I look?
Q. I'm 24 years old but I look like I'm 15. Never had a serious relationship. My question is, who am I supposed to be targeting as a potential partner here? Girls my own age aren't interested because I look like a kid. Girls who are my age but ...
A. 10 November 2008: Thank you Danielepew for that much needed injection of the obvious.... (read in full...)
Do I go after girls my own age or girls the same age as I look?
Q. I'm 24 years old but I look like I'm 15. Never had a serious relationship. My question is, who am I supposed to be targeting as a potential partner here? Girls my own age aren't interested because I look like a kid. Girls who are my age but ...
A. 8 November 2008: I don't know what gave you the impression I looked 15 when I was 15. When I was 15 I probably looked about 12 or something. I am very slow in the growth department.
Asians are just as superficial as everyone else, they dont want to be with a k... (read in full...)
Do I go after girls my own age or girls the same age as I look?
Q. I'm 24 years old but I look like I'm 15. Never had a serious relationship. My question is, who am I supposed to be targeting as a potential partner here? Girls my own age aren't interested because I look like a kid. Girls who are my age but ...
A. 7 November 2008: 16 is the legal age in New Zealand - where I live.... (read in full...)
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