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writes:I have a problem. I have been living in a house for 8 months now and recently moved out. But the there was a guy in my old house who me and my roomie became real good friends with, and even though we have moved out now, we visit the old place very often. The problem is, since I've moved out, and been visiting him, we stay over and stuff...and because we used to live together and watched movies till late in the previous house, I share a bed with him when I go over to stay (as friends). but recently he has been making gestures..and touches me, I feel that isnt a friendly move. I partly dont mind, at the same time I feel real weird in the morning and I dont go back for like a week ..and again it happens when I stay over again. I dont know what this means and what I need to do next? Majorly confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): a lot of things happen to a lot of people when they are where they are not supposed to be. You are in control of this situation. Don't sleep in his bed!Be responsible to yourself!It's like the guy that goes to the doctor and says everytime I drink coffee I get a pain in my eye- and the doctor says next time take the spoon out of the cup first.So if things or people are where they should be ( ie not in the bed, not in the cup) then the touching /pain won't happen.
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reader, 24yeahright  +, writes (22 May 2009):
I agree with ThatOtherGuy. Quit being so dramatic.
He's a guy, you're a girl, you get along and you're in his bed... to assume that he would only want to be friends is naive at best, but to act all confused when he makes a move is moronic. He's not trying to molest you, he just wants to have some good healthy sex with you.
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reader, ThatOtherGuy  +, writes (21 May 2009):
...stop being a big tease and don't sleep in the same bed with him. In my opinion there is now such thing as "Sleeping in the same bed (as friends)" unless you're both the same sex.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (21 May 2009):
 If you're in the same bed with a guy, he might get ideas... you're pretty accessible there. So if you don't want him to get the wrong ideas, simply don't share a bed with him. He might think that you want him to make a move if you're not telling him otherwise. So either tell him firmly not to touch you or cut that awkward conversation by moving to another room.
Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): It means he wants sex and if you are uncomfortable with it, sleep on the couch. It's not that confusing.
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