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Archived questions from: September, 2016 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

How do I help my partner become a better parent to his 8-year-old? Right now he spoils her and shares too much information about our relationship

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2963 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - How do I help my really good man become an amazing man and father? We've been together 4 years and couldn't be closer.( or could we?) We do everything together and plan on getting married soon. There's a small nuisance and it has to do with hi...

Had a bad last day at work and my boyfriend just made jokes about it instead of listening. Would a good partner react this way?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

30 September 2016 (F) - Hi members. I think my boyfriend is selfish and not understanding in this situation I will write about. What do you guys think? Would a good boyfriend react this way?? It was the last day of my job today and after telling him I had a bad day at...

How can I overcome my anxiety around women?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3012 days ago

28 September 2016 (M) - I suffer from anxiety near women. I try to avoid women as best I can in social settings. Not in a malicious way but nervously. I had some bad experiences growing up and it's made me wary around women. Growing up girls were particularly mea...

How does forgiveness start?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3014 days ago

27 September 2016 (M) - There is so much to be sorry about but my ex has done so much towards me purposely to hurt me. I want to say sorry and just talk but do not want to be together at all. How does this all start? How does forgiveness start?...

I can't stop wondering about her

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3013 days ago

27 September 2016 (M) - Everything my logical brain thinks of says DO NOT CONTACT HER, yet I still want to know how she's doing. I want to know if she is doing well. Obviously this is about my ex'. Im curious and hoping she's doing well. I can list a number a of reas...

Why can't he find more time for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3013 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) - I am dating a divorced man with two children of 12 and 13 he has shared custody with them and it's amicable and settled. I haven't met the children yet as we have only been dating two months but plan to in time and he wants me to. He also works away ...

Is it possible that there actually isn't anyone out there for you?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3015 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - Is it possible that there actually isn't anyone out there for you? I can't imagine finding anyone who suits my needs, I rarely see anyone who I would like to date. There must come a time when you finally meet someone who is trustworthy and ...

What do I wear to this event?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3016 days ago

24 September 2016 (F) - I am going to an opening of an art exhibition soon. I am not sure what to wear. I have a black dress, a grey dress, and a pink blouse that I could wear with black trousers. I also have a white bolero that I could wear with any of the outfits. Which ...

Am I expecting too much for my friend to care?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

21 September 2016 (F) - Is it wrong to want a friend to ask how you are if you've been in hospital? I always ask! Friend or colleague, family etc its nice to be asked, makes you feel like someone cares even a little If you got home from an over night hospital stay your...

Missed chance, did I do the right thing letting him go

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

20 September 2016 (F) - I was in love with someone for 2 years in high school but he wasn't single. When I was 21, 3 years after we left he contacted me but I wasn't single. I let him go as my feelings were no longer as strong. I stayed with my boyfriend as I wasn't going ...

What's her problem with me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3021 days ago

19 September 2016 (F) - This woman that has lived in the same village as my partner for years. My partner fixes her car. At first he wanted us to become friends together because I am new to the village and he wanted me to make friends here. However, she seems to come ...

Dating-site guy left me puzzled

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

15 September 2016 (F) - Hi, so now divorced for 9 months, feeling ready to move on, missing companionship, laughter, cuddles, and everything that comes with relationships. So I joined a dating site, and met up with a couple of nice guys but no spark there. Until I met, who ...

At 47 am I too short, or too big, or not pretty enough to ever be asked out by a guy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

14 September 2016 (F) - I am in my 40s I never thought I was pretty or good enough to date any guys. I had never went on date before, no guys ever ask me out Sometimes I think there something wrong with me I guess I am pretty enough for any guys to ask me out, or smart...

Is it really wrong to pay for sex

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3019 days ago

13 September 2016 (M) - I have reading the many posts on dearcupid from men who are contemplating paying for sex. I see that most people are against it, like it is the lowest a guy can go. I am at the lowest point in my life now and it will only get worse. I have Marfan ...

Is he busy or just not interested any longer?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

13 September 2016 (?) - So, I've been seeing a new guy for around one month. Since our first time meeting he's been very open to talking and texting pretty much on a daily basis and initiates much of the conversation. I've seen him about 6 times during this month. He's ...

I know my boyfriend is fed up with my working hours but does that excuse the fact that he's making stuff up and playing silly mind games?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3026 days ago

12 September 2016 (F) - I'm having a bizarre argument with my boyfriend and I wonder if I should stay with him because of what he's said. I work unsociable hours in a job I really don't like but as I live by myself I have to work even if I don't particularly lov...

How do you balance being true to your own vision with implementing advice from others?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3029 days ago

12 September 2016 (M) - How do we figure out the importance of being true to your own vision versus what is actually best for you. The only way I feel I have grown as a person is by listening selectively to people to see how they think I can improve also combined wi...

When does an age gap become too big?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3025 days ago

11 September 2016 (F) - How big do you think age gaps in relationships should be? In all kinds of relationships: friendships, romantic relationships, sex buddies. Do generational differences get in the way? When does an age gap become too much to relate to someone in ...

How can I better control my emotions when I'm hurt during tae kwon do tournaments?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3026 days ago

11 September 2016 (F) - Hi, i need help with stopping myself from crying when i get hurt. I was doing a taekwando tournament, i am a white belt and the person i was sparring with was a black tag. She battered me and punhed me in the face and head till i fell to the floor. ...

I have nothing in common with my work colleagues. How do I get out of spending time with them? Any coping strategies that might help?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3029 days ago

10 September 2016 (F) - I'm a fairly new member on this forum but thought I would post as there seem to be some people who talk a lot of sense when posting on here. I would be interested to hear your views on my situation.(Apologies in advance for the length of the post...

Can people tell when they're "the mutton dressed as the lamb"?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3030 days ago

9 September 2016 (F) - Just in case people are not familiar with the term “mutton dressed as lamb" - it refers to older people who try to appear younger (and usually fail dismally). And it's most often applied to women who wear clothes that are aimed at a much younger ...

Feeling robbed, hoodwinked and conned. my wife clearly doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. what are my options?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3029 days ago

8 September 2016 (M) - Hi, I suspect this might be an old chestnut but its new to me so please bear with me. In a sentence...my wife clearly doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. On the rare occasions we do, it feels like she is being contrived, dutiful and fra...

Somewhere along the way I got lost and upset her. Is our relationship over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3030 days ago

8 September 2016 (M) - Hi, I have been living and dating my partner since January this year. We have done a lot together in this time and also share a family pet. i have a lot of stress from work related matters and been off work temporary with a back problem. Over ...

I dream of becoming a writer but need a push to take the next step

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3034 days ago

7 September 2016 (F) - I wrote an article for an international blog and i was commended on my work. I remained anonymous though; and its still grossingba lot of views. I have always wanted to write but even with this i still dont believe i am a good writer even thou...

Why? All my life people have taken an instant dislike towards me and I don't know why. What needs to change?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - All through my life I have struggled getting people to like me, people take an instant dislike to me and I don't know why. I'm not rude, I'm polite, I can be painfully shy at times and I think people mistake this as being rude or stuck up. Been ...

How can I stop ruining every prospective relationship with anxiety?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3035 days ago

6 September 2016 (F) - I have been single for nearly a year now. In that time through one reason or another I have spoken to and got to know 3 different men (romantically) that I have began to like. It always starts off well in that they are attracted to me, we have a g...

I don't feel comfortable with who I am. How do I turn my life around and find contentment and satisfaction ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3033 days ago

6 September 2016 (M) - So just a week ago I turned 33 years old. By now, a lot of people would know about my previous posts in regards to dysfunction in my marriage. But I want to change focus to think about my own personal development. Perhaps I am being too hard on ...

Are women turned off by men who are inferior to them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3034 days ago

6 September 2016 (M) - Is a man who can't turn a woman on sexually a man who she can defeat in every way? Eg. intelligence, height, size, financial earnings, etc, etc, etc. If yes, does this mean a man should try to be better in every area, without directly competi...

How the people around us influence our emotional growth

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3036 days ago

5 September 2016 (M) - How important is who you surround yourself with? I firmly have always been influenced by who my friends are and who is around me. I obviously hold on to the friends that matter and I continue to connect with. But is keep friends who you had prev...

Is it possible to change who who we are?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3036 days ago

5 September 2016 (M) - My friend has a theory that people never change, he says he thinks that people have this illusion that they change but actually your core stays the exact same. Another thinks people can make small changes in who they are. I believe someone can chan...

How do we find a healthy balance between sound judgment and judgmental?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3032 days ago

5 September 2016 (M) - My question is regarding generalising and friends of friends, and friends partners. I have a problem that when i see someone or a friend dating someone who I find to be unpleasant/ unkind/ judgemental/ rude, I start to view the friend dating the ...

My volunteer group organizer keeps flirting with me, but I'm not interested. How do I turn him down nicely but stay part of the group?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3030 days ago

3 September 2016 (F) - I am in a very awkward situation at the moment. I am part of a voluntary organisation that I enjoy very much, being a part of, however, I feel that one of the organizers of the group has taken a particular interest in me, he is the main organize...

Pregnancy dilemma

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3037 days ago

3 September 2016 (F) - Okay let's see so I dated this guy for about 6 months and we broke up 3 weeks ago due to the fact that he didn't trust me and always thought I was cheating on him and it just put a huge strain on our relationship so we ended it. Two days ago I went ...

Mixed messages online

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3035 days ago

3 September 2016 (F) - I am in the process of leaving my son's father. We're not married. Things haven't been good between us in over a year. I am basically living here until I have a place for my son and me to go. I recently got on one of the online chat apps just to ...

I can't work out his sexuality

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3039 days ago

2 September 2016 (F) - Hello. I am curious or rather confused about my friend's sexuality. I don't know whether he is gay or bisexual. When he is around me, he acts very masculine and straight. I catch him staring at women when we hang out. I am 25, he is 32 and married ...

I just found out that the LDR guy I'd been dating is married and has a kid. I've blocked him but should I give him a chance to explain?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3036 days ago

2 September 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid, I found out yesterday that the guy I’m with is married and has a child. I blocked him in wechat and whatsapp. It was such a disastrous feeling with I saw his Facebook of his wife and the child’s photos and not forgetting his we...

Does this woman have stalker tendencies?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3035 days ago

1 September 2016 (M) - I'll get straight to it. I have had the same woman pop up at my apartment because she couldn't reach me via phone, deny me the previously enjoyed privilege of caressing her butt and after months of no communication, send me a birthday text. ...

After 15 years why now are they behaving like this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3040 days ago

1 September 2016 (F) - Hello friends, Need your suggestion. I have been working in a private company from past 15 years. I have done a lot for this company. 15 years back, I joined in IT department but due to company problems I worked for them alone for almost all r...

He's married. Wondering why he acted like that? Was he testing me, or was he seeing me as a potential client?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3037 days ago

1 September 2016 (F) - Hi, I just wanted to hear others opinion about this scenario. I'm single mom, professional and attractive as others say. I am not dating and not interested in dating even after 3 years of my divorce. I always get attention and I don't care about...