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Archived questions from: December, 2014 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My daughter wont let him in the house, and my parents say to leave him

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3610 days ago

31 December 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm 43 been in a relationship over a year and a half I love him but he cheated on me with his ex, we got back together and I fell pregnant all my family are telling me to have an abortion and get rid of him I love him it's over between him and his ex but can he be trusted dong ... (186 words)

Should we postpone our wedding until we have a house?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3365 days ago

31 December 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I have applied for a house with my boyfriend which is supposed to be completed in 2018. However, since we are both 30 this year, we thought of the idea of getting married first and living separately until our house comes. Another option is to stay over at each others hous... (130 words)

Why is he INNITIATING texts if he HATES talking to me?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

31 December 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - A guy I like and will start dating soon (after the holidays) always randomly texts, then IMMEDIATELY ends our conversations abrutly, with a "good night". We hardly talk now, if at all it is probably about once a week or twice at the most. As opposed to the interesting, lon... (345 words)

How do I make my personality more positive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

31 December 2014 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey guys I am 18 and I always feel that something bad will happen I always have negative thinking all the time. It is affecting my behaviour and my social life and I am really getting tensed because of this. Somedays back I went for my friend (girl) birthday to a club we had ... (126 words)

A dear friend turned hostile

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

31 December 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupids; Let me start by setting the scene (I'll try to keep it to the point). I was raised in a large, strict and very religious household. I am one of 29 grandchildren (soon to be 30) and the only one who is gay. My family did not react well to my coming out, ther... (487 words)

She thinks this is funny. How can I get her to understand that I don't like that she when we make love she lets off wind? Why does this happen?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

31 December 2014 (M)

age - I have what I call a severe prob;em with my partner in that when we make love she lets off wind and never does do anything to stop it and when I said something about it she thought it was funny and laughed at me and wonder if I should end it with her and think that I need to ... (78 words)

He will not commit but have I put up with this for too long? Should I stay or go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

31 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been friends with this guy for years I have met his mom and sisters they all know about me. He practically shares everything with me even personal stuff like his habits bank details etc. I literally am his first point of call whenever he needs to make a decision... (347 words)

I want my ex take an HIV and STD before rekindling our relationship. What if he refuses to do so?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

31 December 2014 (F) age 51-59 - Dear Cupid,I haven't been with my ex for over ten years we are talking long distance now and have hopes of rekindling our relationship, but I am in fear of having sex with him . I want him to take an HIV and STD test before I give myself to him again. And I don't have a pro... (105 words)

Should I give up on Prince Charming? Says he won't marry me unless I agree to become a swinger with him

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3370 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a very attractive, tall, successful, and fun-loving 25-year-old young woman. I am deeply and truly in love with the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. Our sex is amazing, and the adventures we have together are truly unreal. He's my very best friend and I don... (283 words)

He wouldn't commit so I ended it and bought a house. Now we might be getting back together...

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years, and for the last year I have been unhappy with the progress we've been making. He asked me to move into his home a while back but point blank refused to commit to/discuss any more of a future than that, so it ended up not ... (403 words)

How do I move away from this friendship when we also work together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been friends with this person for over 5 years now , we both work together. I used to trust this person and she and i have both been there for each other. I have doing alot of self growth over the last year or so as i have been in a bad place due to alot of things. This ... (477 words)

I snooped on my boyfriend's Facebook account because I no longer trust him - is it time to break up?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3610 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Basically, I've caught him lying to me a couple of times in the last few weeks and I was shocked. I never believed he had it in him and it's taken a lot of begging on his part for me to agree to give him another chance. I've always had an idea what his Facebook password was but ... (134 words)

Why do people cheat instead of just ending their relationship first?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - This isn't happening to me (I hope) currently and I hope it doesn't, because I truly love my BF and would be absolutely devastated. However, I was cheated on in the past and it has made fearful it could happen again although I try to trust my BF as much as possible. Two peopl... (147 words)

Is it possible my husband does NOT understand respect?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been with my husband 4 years. He is extremely outgoing and friendly with everyone. There are times when he has no idea what boundaries or respect are. Three examples: 1)he has put one of my intoxicated friends in bed with me but climbs in, in the middle 2)has gone to bar ... (253 words)

I've lost my confidence. How do I become the man I want to be?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

30 December 2014 (M)

age 26-29 - hey guys i am 18 and i really need help! I am really shy person. I dont have confidence. I don't know what to talk to people especially girls and if i make friends i don't know how to maintain friendship what to talk after sometime. How can i turn myself into fun loving guy. I ... (132 words)

Why am I like this? I just feel my whole life has been unlucky in love - when everyone else seems to find happiness.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - All through my life I have avoided relationships and getting close to guys. When I was a teenager I was quite plain so never got any male attention. However as I grew older I blossomed and had a few men wanting to get close - but never the ones I wanted, so I turned t... (188 words)

I've developed feelings for a friend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3613 days ago

30 December 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - My situation is quite complicated.. When I was 19 this girl really liked me a lot but I didn't like her at all.. I was very shallow when I was young and I regret it. As time passed rby we remained friends.. Eventually she became my best friend. The problem was that recentl... (229 words)

I verbally abuse my boyfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I verbally abuse my boyfriend and I am aware that it is wrong. However, I do it so he can pay attention to me. This time I did it while visiting his job. He ask me for a hug and I told him that I did not want to hug him. Then, I proceeded to tell him that we are over and I hope ... (137 words)

Have I ruined my chance of turning this FWB into something more?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so I've had a fwb recently and it was all pretty normal like only texting to talk times unless last week I went to a party where he was there as well as my ex boyfriend (we went out years ago and now we're pretty close friends as he was a girlfriend so there's no weirdness) ... (303 words)

Married friend wanted sex, I refused and said I could only offer friendship and now he's conveniently disappeared!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi. I'd like some advice about something that I think I already know the answer to. Recently a guy friend, who is now married, got in touch and asked if I'd like to meet up over the holidays. I'm also now in a relationship and told him this. He's been hinting about se... (232 words)

Seeing a Filipino guy; is he genuine?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently I met a Filipino guy in the place in a bar where he works. He’s in his early twenties like me. I feel like this has been a weird journey of many misunderstandings on my part and I’ve probably said some things that must have been cultural misunderstandings... It w... (615 words)

Loves me, loves me not. Then wants to see me again. Am I expecting too much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm not sure about what should I do now. I've been with my bf for 5 years and he's going to marry me next year. We used to be so connected and compatible. Our relationship was great. He made surprises and seriously trying hard to make me happy. Since this year our relatio... (573 words)

I'm not given a chance. why do I self sabotage and why are women so picky with friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3613 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Its like I unconsciously sometimes ( not always) want to fail or make people not want to want to get to know me..as in the past Ive not been accepted, sadly women are cliquey at times and despite efforts ive been cold shouldered or dismissed. like I may hint that im quiet, t... (265 words)

What's going on? What should I do? He manipulated me into ending our relationship two days before New Year

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I wrote a few weeks ago because my new boyfriend, who had showered me with attention, flowers, dinners, mix tapes, texts, at the start, had gone a bit quiet with me. The first time I stayed over his house (and the first time we had sex), he had acted very strange and off with... (473 words)

Should I study business jointly with a language? Then where to work and live successfully as a gay man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

30 December 2014 (M)

age 26-29 - Since I am completely uncertain of what I should do, I was hoping for someones help. If i succeed in my exams this July I'll hopefully be off for university when summer ends. I have submitted and received offers from all of my university choices but I keep having doubts ab... (510 words)

I feel cheap doing what he asks. Will I lose my fiance if I stop agreeing to his requests to skype while undressed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3611 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm in a LDR relationship in which we have met recently and have hadsexual relationships. Everything is well except this man loves sex a lot. He's asked me to undress on Skype and arouse him to masturbate every other night. I've done it twice now and I must say I hate it. It'... (97 words)

I said "yes" to a proposal but I was not ready

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - OP's original title ** Call me crazy but I just accepted a proposal from my LDR boyfriend of 6mths. The problem is ever since then there are things about him that I know I won't be able to cope with. I get angry when trying to communicate with him so I don't know if this can... (256 words)

What did his email mean? Does he not want to meet up any more?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

30 December 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi! I have a question about what this guy meant in an email. I'm on an online dating site and have been communicating with a few people. One guy in particular wanted to meet up, so he sent an email to ask about meeting up that week (Christmas week). I responded that I... (256 words)

A long time friendship is suddenly feeling like something more..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

30 December 2014 (F) age 30-35 - I've been friends with a guy for years I've known him since he was born(our parents lived next door) he's been in and out of my life due to him having feelings for me since adolescent. I never had these feelings as I couldn't get past the brother feeling. After being away from ... (163 words)

My girlfriend ignores my calls and only calls back when she needs something

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been with my girlfriend over 4year now since then she have been doing some wrong thing in which I just let it go ,but now I can't take it any more she hot my feeling that sometime I feel like crying If call her and she saw the missed calls, she will not finish or call ... (170 words)

My mom is having a hard time dealing with a death in the family and is venting all her pent up emotions on me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear cupids, This is not a relationship question but more something ive been needing help with in terms of my mother. My aunt passed away a few months ago, and both my mum and i were really close to her. Obviously this has affected my mum massively and she doesnt really k... (245 words)

I feel I can't do any better than him and will never settle down

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (F) age 41-50 - Plz help, I'm so down, and before I go any further information do have a two year old and know I'm lucky to have her.anyway... Everywhere I go my closest friends all seen to b having babies or getting married or even just very happy with the partners. Wheres there's me I want a... (159 words)

Which path should I go down for myself and my daughter?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear cupid, I have a daughter I'd like to provide for. The problem is that I can't decide on how to go about it. At first, I decided to join the military, but once I realized that my personality doesn't match the lifestyle I changed my mind and decided to go to school. ... (297 words)

I am married with 3 kids and secretly sleeping with men

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

29 December 2014 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello. I am a 34 year old married man, i have 3 wonderful children, and a wife who loves me very much, the only problem is that I have been secretly sleeping with other men, I do feel guilty about it, but I feel so free and happy when I am with another man, I do love my wife ... (109 words)

My boyfriend despises my best friend and her husband!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a real problem on my hands. My boyfriend of 1 year is absolutely despises my best friend from my childhood and her husband. With New year celebration that he is hosting in his house where I just moved in he blankly refuses to invite my girfriend and her husband.... (880 words)

My best friend wants me to change our wedding date

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - My best friend is not talking to me and giving me the silent treatment because she wants me to change my wedding date, because she has some exams coming up on the week of my wedding. I really can't do anything about it, we really struggled till we got a perfect date in the ... (65 words)

How do I wipe away memories of bad ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I keep having vivid dreams every night lately, mostly just random dreams but so vivid they are like movies, I can wake crying/laughing/in shock. Last night I dreamt about a man from my past, who I can only label as a sociopath. I spent a good year pining for him and wast... (278 words)

I broke up with boyfriend because if his behavior but now he is changing.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my bf a few days back because I felt our personalities were not compatible. Time and again we argue over his flirtations with other girls and him constantly texting them (everyday) and them sending him their selfies. I have mentioned to him how it makes me feel ... (145 words)

Should my b/f have told hix ex why I blocked ber on facebook?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3613 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of six months has a really hot ex girlfriend. I have spent a lot of time looking at photos of her on Facebook and feeling jealous. She dumped him after a few years together and he was heartbroken. I decided to block her on Facebook so I could no longer obsess over ... (117 words)

Is my desire to be bitten weird?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - hello everyone i wold like to thank anyone in advance if you answer this question, i has been bothering me for sometime now. my question is, is it weird that i like to be bitten? now let me fully explain. when my husband and i are lets say, in the bedroom and things s... (263 words)

With my boyfriend but want to know more about his friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our relationship is doom now. We argue a lot and I feel unconnected with him anymore. We don't have same interest and seems like being in different opinion on many things. I admit that we both feel comfortable with each other as we've ... (301 words)

I think my husband is financially abusing me, please advise

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I think my husband is financially abusing me, he is in a different country at the moment staying with his family. He has told me he has not got my savings back which he gave to a family member to invest in some company. I told him not to send them there in the first place. ... (244 words)

Why can't I just end all ties with my ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3615 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid,I am still in love with my daughter's father even though went up and down in are relationship We broke up many times because of pass issues such as cheating it was on both of us but we always wind us be back together.Everybody has flaws there is not one perfect ... (97 words)

Where can I go to meet girls appropriate for my age?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3612 days ago

29 December 2014 (M)

age 26-29 - Can't login because my email "isn't in the right format". But whatever... I've been feeling a bit isolated since I left my high school during my sophomore year to go to school online. Long story short (well, not really short), it's gotten kind of bad. I don't really have any ... (195 words)

Why does he keep me on Facebook if he doesn't want to be with me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1916 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi. After having a brief fling with a guy who I met, I called it off as he was losing interest in me and he has moved onto someone else now instead. The thing is - even though we don't have contact like we used to - we are still friends on Facebook and I sent him a best wis... (125 words)

He asked me not to email or text while he's abroad, because his sisters might see?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

29 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, please see the other question for brief background info as i was already feeling nervous about where i stood. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/when-im-with-him-i-feel-loved-i.html bf of three months, i love him , he doesn't love me yet says need to get to know me ... (346 words)

I need help - I feel like a fool

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3615 days ago

28 December 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. Need help! I really liked this friend of mine and he knew about it. We met a couple of times but he started behaving strangely later on. Stopped responding to my texts and every time it was me initiating a conversation and ending up feeling like a fool. I let this happen so ... (215 words)

Is there some way to tell if he's ready for a girl friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3615 days ago

28 December 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I met this guy in 2013 (he's 45, I'm 42) and we've stayed in touch, texting back and forth. When I met him, he was going through his first year of separation, waiting to be divorced. We met at the worst possible time. This year in Aug-Sept, we started dating and I sle... (536 words)

I am forced to leave the love of my life for the love of my parents

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

28 December 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I am forced to leave the love of my life for the love for my parents. We have been in love for past 4years.he has made my life as wonderful as a fairy tale. Not all fairy tales have happy ending. My parents are against marriage. We are from different religion. We tried a lot to... (116 words)

Moving on from FWB -- do you think he'll understand?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3614 days ago

28 December 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I sent a goodbye email to a guy in my life that is not healthy for me. We have known each other for 4 years but never had relationship. We only had physical only FWB. I caught feelings he didn't so we decided not to be physical or talk anymore. He contacted on Valentines ... (171 words)