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writes: I've been friends with a guy for years I've known him since he was born(our parents lived next door) he's been in and out of my life due to him having feelings for me since adolescent. I never had these feelings as I couldn't get past the brother feeling. After being away from each other and dating (he hasn't) I'm finding new feelings, after two years we've met up gone out as friends I'm wondering things like holding his hand, he held on last time he hugged me and it didn't feel like a brother thing for me anymore but something new. Its different and new for me. Thing is I dont know what to make of these feelings they appear out the blue then I shake my head and think 'noo' were friends. I dont want to discuss this with my parents as they are best friends with his, and I dislike anything being decided for me despite being 24. Any advice?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 December 2014):
 Why not discuss it with him?
"I wonder if you are feeling a change in our friendship lately like I am?"
see where it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2014): You obviously like him. Just go for it. Date him. See what it's like. Since your guys are best friends or whatever your relationship should flourish into something beautiful. Trust me. I dated my best friend that was a guy and now we are happily married with two kids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2014): Where is the harm in talking to your parents for their OPINION?! At 24 they are not going to be deciding your life for you, but neither should you feel you have to make every decision alone.
Have a chat to them and see what they think, what they would advise. They've know the man all his life too and can offer you some other perspectives or maybe encourage you to go for it.
Why not have some dates with him, outline clearly at the start that if things don't work then staying as friends is a must because if your parents close friendships.
The worst that can happen is actually, you find you don't want to date him. Potentially, you have someone literally on your doorstep who cares seriously about you, knows you well and wants to make you happy.
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