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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 December 2014):
 are the married male friends men you used to have a casual sexual relationship with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2014): I have male friends who i hang out with. I didn't see it as that odd. Clearly he had no intention of going to the movies anyway.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 December 2014):
doesn't it strike you as ODD that a recently married man wants to go to the movies with a friend and NOT HIS WIFE?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2014): OP here.
I know what you're saying. The guy's always been a flirt so that's why I tried to laugh off his advances. I thought that we could genuinely be friends. It wouldn't have been a movie "date". He said there were some good things on at the cinema and we could go and see something. I honestly wasn't looking for anything other than friendship. If I was I would have agreed to him coming over to mine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2014): Such a nice guy to have around you...someone who will out right ask for sex whilst married...he's really a friend worth hanging onto isn't he...
Please, respect yourself more and refuse to be in touch with such a complete asshole. Also, you say you're in a serious relationship, I suggest if you care about your partner you don't rekindle friendships that have a sexual history it's just disrespectful to your new partner.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (30 December 2014):
Two people, one married and one in a serious relationship, one of them begging the other to have sex and the other making movie dates, both presumably without the knowledge of their partners?
Yeah, what on EARTH is wrong with that?
*Rolls eyes*
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 December 2014):
 Remember that game called "Hot Potato" we played as kids? I bet you thought it was tons of fun. Someday when you are married, and find out your husband is cheating, you may change your opinion.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (30 December 2014):
So he sent you a smiley text. So? What are you going to do?
My guess is you'll ignore the advice and keep carrying on with this married man.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 December 2014):
you ignore the scum bag.
he's just trying to get a lit bit of "somethin' somethin' on the side" as we say here.
he's not a friend at all.
I would ignore him from now on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2014): OP here.
He's literally just sent me a reply now saying "hey :-) " like nothing happened.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (30 December 2014):
What are toy doing trying to make a movie date with a guy who is married, who has made it clear he wants to have sex with you, when you yourself are in a relationship? Did you tell your guy you were going on a movie date with a guy who is married and begging you for sex?
This is so inappropriate I can barely wrap my mind around it. You are clearly flattered by the attention and wanting more of it.
My advice: don't contact him again, and dont respond if he contacts you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 December 2014):
 Ignore him, block him of all media and phone.
The dude was NOT being a FRIEND, he was JUST trying to get laid. He's out looking for someone else, since you turned him down.
What a sleaze. I think I'd make him disappear completely from my life. Why keep such a cheating man-skank around?
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