Vicious cycle: I swore I wouldn't let him in again!
Q. Some advice would be great guys. Until April this year i thought i had control of the situation with my ex. He would ring me, intitate the convrsation etc i never put myself in a painful position after he changed his mind about getting back tog...
A. 21 October 2008:
Hi, Right well this is a bit confusing, but i get what you're sayin. It's hard to guage what's goin on here cos i would need more facts, but i could suggest a few things.
I think maybe you need to be a bit more assertive basically and just cut... (read in full...)
Should I move away?
Q. I really need some help. I cant handle it that Ive been dumped for another woman by a man who I'm hopelessly still in love with. This happened 6 weeks ago and I still feel as much hurt now as I did when I found out. Initially, I did cry loads an...
A. 29 September 2008: Hi, It seems you're lookin for some answers for comfort, but really there is nothin that a person can say that will take the pain away. I know it's all predictable and that everyone always says time is the best healer, but the reason why people s... (read in full...)
All he wants is oral sex to satisfy himself - what should I do?
Q. been with my partner for close on ten years ,i have always had to ask for sex and all he wants is oral sex to satisfy himself ,he drinks far to much and we just shout and scream at each other ,i want to leave but my problem is we have property ...
A. 29 September 2008:
Hi, Well it's really sad that a mature woman like you is being treated in this way, the older you are the less you should be havin these sorts of problems, well in theory anyway.
It is sad though and i'm gonna tell you what i think and be as ho... (read in full...)
I keep finding myself at the bottom of the hierarchy at work over and over again! I'm tired of feeling like that 'worthless nothing'!
Q. Hi, I'm feeling very confused right now and was hoping any of you out there who have been in a similar situation, could give me some advice. I'm 25 and have been working in various fulltime office jobs over the past 10 years. I have one of ...
A. 26 September 2008:
Hi, For a Question like this and the eloquent way in which you wrote it you deserve a much longer answer than i'm going to give. However, I have been in a similar situation as you not regarding manipulative work colleagues as such, but feel... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father that I'm pregnant? He has absolutely zero empathy and worries more about money than anything else!
Q. Hello All, I would like some tips or advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. Here is a little info: I am 26 years old and in a stable relationship. I have told my mother, sister, brother, and all my friends. Everyone seems to be ex...
A. 26 September 2008:
Hi, Well what can you say about a man like that. Someone like that should never have had kids in the first place, disgraceful!!
The fact is love is you are not a silly little teenager, you're a grown woman, who cares what your dad thinks i... (read in full...)
My best friends are bullying me!
Q. Hey My Name Is Amy. Basicaly (im sorry if you get confused, it is quite confusing) i met two friends years ago called kai and joss and they were the nicest boys ever. At the time i also had a friend called gwen. Gwen introduced me to her friend am...
A. 25 September 2008:
Hi, Woah There!! Take it easy and stop talkin all that suicidal stuff you're young and got your whole life ahead of you. Obviously, you seem to be the one being left out from the bunch and you didn't want to feel left out (i know how that feel... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend while drunk, the "other guy" agreed to forget but is dropping hints to people, I'ma fraid teh truth will come out?
Q. Hi. This might be long, sorry. I have been with my boyfriend on and off for 2 years. Last month i was extremely drunk when camping with some friends, and i cheated on him with a guy my friend (Lucy) knows. i can't even remember what happened, but i ...
A. 25 September 2008:
Hi, Well i don't think the problem is as bad as your making out. Obviously, you're worried about your bf knowing as you don't know how he would react. The fact is it's amazing what a person can do when they've had too much to drink and you're youn... (read in full...)
My affair wants nothing to do with me since my pregnancy and is now only paying child support!
Q. I am distraught i have just given birth to a baby boy and the father has said he wants nothing to do with him.He is married and we had an affair for a few months when he found out i was pregnant he got caught at the same time. He wanted to stay with ...
A. 25 September 2008:
So What is it your asking? This is the chance you take when you have an affair with a married man. He says he no longer loves his wife, so why has he gone back there for? He obviously is lying you don't have to stop for the kids as he could coul... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a harassing ex?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating since July. The only issue in our relationship is his ex. They were childhood sweethearts and they broke up over a year ago because she cheated on him multiple times. Now he's with me, but the main issue w...
A. 25 September 2008:
Hi, Well you have a serious problem on your hands. She's only on his case because she's jealous that he seems happy with you and has moved on. The trouble is tho they have kids and that's her 'Ace Card'!! Anytime she wants attention off him then... (read in full...)
We've done the odd sexual things but not actual sex, I don't dare to please him in case it goes wrong and he thinks differently of me! Please advise.
Q. wel me and my boyfriend have been together alomst a year, and we've done the odd sexual things but not actual sex, but im scared, and i havnt done anything to him either wich im also scared about incase it goes wrong and he thinks different of me, ...
A. 25 September 2008: Simple! If you have bee with your boyfriend for almost a year and you haven't had sex yet and he hasn't gone elsewhere, then he must really, like you and respect you. So i wouldn't worry just go for it because he seems the type that wouldn't... (read in full...)
Was he really too drunk to remember or was he just scared?
Q. I had a friend with benefits for about three years. He knew I was madly in love with him, but he didn't seem to care much back then. He was your typical young sexy blonde hair blue eye guy, and I was the girl next door type of person. I finally quit ...
A. 24 September 2008:
Hi, Last November that's a long time thinkin about someone that you say you're not bothered about anymore. Why do i get the feelin that you're not being absolutely truthful about what it is you really want. If you just want to know whether he real... (read in full...)
He acts like my boyfriend, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship. Is he serious about us at all?
Q. I've been dating the guy for over a month, we acted like in the relationship, so I throw the question a few weeks ago about what stage we were in, I was upset seeing him not willing to see it as relationship,so he said we were gf and bf. but he ...
A. 23 September 2008:
Hi, Here's a question for you. Why does it sound weird to say that you're bf and gf? His he of a similar age to you cos that sounds really immature.
The bottom line is this, when a guy really, really likes a girl and that he feels good to be w... (read in full...)
I was wondering if some college girls could give me some tips on getting closer with girls?
Q. almost 19 year guy...started college...never had a girlfriend cuz i get really nervous and shy around them...i've been working on approaching people in general more and being more social...im getting an ok response... im not that great looking to b...
A. 20 September 2008: Hey, i know how you feel. To attract girls you need to have something to attract them with. Be intelligent? If you are and you work hard women notice these things and you will attract women in that way. You need to find out what your strength... (read in full...)
Was he really too drunk to remember or was he just scared?
Q. I had a friend with benefits for about three years. He knew I was madly in love with him, but he didn't seem to care much back then. He was your typical young sexy blonde hair blue eye guy, and I was the girl next door type of person. I finally quit ...
A. 20 September 2008:
Hi, Well it's very difficult to know whether he meant it or not. You've hardly chatted to each other for a couple years and then comes out with that. You say that he said this 'last fall' which suggests this was a while ago. How long ago exac... (read in full...)
We both always agreed that we never wanted kids. But now I'm pregnant and getting an abortion, he's changed his mind!? What is going on?
Q. I'm in a relationship with a great guy we've been together for over 2 years now and have had relatively few problems (well every couple has their share but nothing worth breaking up over!)... until now!! Now I have a very big problem! See, neither ...
A. 20 September 2008:
This is a very interesting situation. You really don't have any maternal instincts do you? callin a child a parasite!! Well, one thing is for sure he is right what he said you're extremely selfish.
Obviously, at the time he were sayin he don... (read in full...)
He's got the biggest hold over me and my life, everything is about him. How will I ever get over this?
Q. I lied to my ex about being pregnant. Im not. He split with me 6 weeks ago, we were together a year. 2 weeks later he started seeing another girl.I was very hurt but I let him get on with it. The 3 weeks ago I heard that him and his new gf were ...
A. 19 September 2008:
Hi, I did say you can't help who you fall in love with, Obviously this guy has something about him that really does it for you. It can take a long time to properly move on, but you can help yourself by trying all you can to not being in the plac... (read in full...)
He's got the biggest hold over me and my life, everything is about him. How will I ever get over this?
Q. I lied to my ex about being pregnant. Im not. He split with me 6 weeks ago, we were together a year. 2 weeks later he started seeing another girl.I was very hurt but I let him get on with it. The 3 weeks ago I heard that him and his new gf were ...
A. 19 September 2008:
Alright, It would be interesting to know how old you are. I guess you're between 16-18. I wonder why you are so into this guy? I'm not talkin about being in love with him as you can't help that if you still are, but it seems like you are full... (read in full...)
Is it just love on the rebound? Am I looking for something more serious than he is?
Q. Hiya, I'm really confused. Theres this guy who i have been getting to know for the last couple weeks. I really do like him and he says he likes me. We were gonna wait for tuesday which is today to actually go out.. but the last couple days thin...
A. 22 July 2008: It is difficult to know what to do, there might be a number of reasons to why he is acting a little strange. He could be a bit nervous, guys that age sometimes are like that going out with someone older than them. Also, he might be comfused... (read in full...)
I love her. I don't know how to tell her.
Q. We are just friends but I love her. She was my best friend but I fall in love first time I saw her. I don't know how to tell her. I'm sad and if I don't tell her I'll die :(...
A. 22 July 2008: Look, i'm not sayin your feelings are not true, but you're so young there is so much in life you have yet to see, just take your time. If she doesn't feel the same you could ruin your friendship,so you must be careful. It seems as though ... (read in full...)
How can I remind them every now and then that I AM a girl and not just another dude?
Q. So here's the situation... I'm the typical guy's girl... you know the one who always hangs out with guys all the time but who isn't really the tomboy? Yep, that's me. But here's my dilemma... I'm going to this new school this year because I just m...
A. 22 July 2008: Ok has the other reader said, why don't you try hanging out with 1 or 2 girls, not all the girls are into gossipy and chattin about boys all the time. You might want to go to some activities where girls go and do stuff, instead hang out places ... (read in full...)
He told me he loves me but I don't know if he means it. How do I tell?
Q. i told a guy that i love him so much and at first he didnt say anything but then he told me that he loves me, but i am just not sure if he really means it or not, because i thought it would be easy for him to say after me saying it. how do i know i...
A. 22 July 2008: Firstly, you can't make someone love you no matter how hard you try, it has to come from within him. The really Good Thing about love is you can't hide it or pretend, it's like a bright beaming light almost blinding, if loves his there it automati... (read in full...)
Is his controlling behaviour normal?
Q. my boyfriend is coming across as very controlling recently he trys to make sure how long I can stay out for and who my friends can be. I can't wear skirts and he is going on a boy's holiday and I can't go on a girl's one. I do not understa...
A. 22 July 2008:
The Answer to your question is that it is not normal,it is unhealthy and will leave you emotionally scarred if you don't get out.
What alot of people don't seem to realise is that with your mind/heart in the wrong place you can choose to be... (read in full...)
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