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writes:Hi. This might be long, sorry. I have been with my boyfriend on and off for 2 years. Last month i was extremely drunk when camping with some friends, and i cheated on him with a guy my friend (Lucy) knows. i can't even remember what happened, but i know we didnt have sex. i spoke to the guy the next day and said can we just forget about it, we were both really drunk and it was stupid. he agreed. now he has told Bill (a guy from school) that he slept with one of Lucy's mates, (obviously meaning me) Bill is now asking everyone who it was. i emailed the guy i cheated on my boyfriend with and said can we just forget about it, you said u wouldnt say anything. and we didnt even sleep together.i feel so bad, i love my boyfriend so much, i was just extremely drunk and didnt have a clue what i was doing. i know being drunk isnt an excuse but i honestly really wouldnt want to hurt him intentionally. i dont know what to do. please help.
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reader, michelleAKAmandi  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 Sweetie... how can you say:
i can't even remember what happened, but i know we didnt have sex.
If you don't remember, how can you know you didn't have sex?
Honesty is the best policy and the truth always comes out. Keep that in mind and do what you will with it.
If you can't control what you are doing when you are drinking and even more so don't know what you are doing, by all means... don't drink. That's a terrible sign!! It only gets worse as you drink more.
Be careful, you're so young and more fragile than you know.
Take care and good luck,
Michelle
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reader, Talksense +, writes (25 September 2008):
Hi, Well i don't think the problem is as bad as your making out. Obviously, you're worried about your bf knowing as you don't know how he would react. The fact is it's amazing what a person can do when they've had too much to drink and you're young these things happen.
To solve the problem, instead of holdin off and hopin your bf don't find out, tell him before anyone else does. Tell him all you can remember, whats in your favour is that you never slept with him which would be harder to take but just 'gettin off' is nothin. You have more chance of your bf forgivin you if you tell him rather than he hear it from someone else and especially before it might spread around the school.
Once you've done that treat him to make him know you're sorry and then you should be ok, if he really knows you and knows what you're like then it won't be a problem for him to forgive, but keepin it 'hush' and hopin it don't come out is makin your problem even worse and it doesn't need to be. If he doesn't forgive you then he has a serious problem and not big enough to not care about what others will say, tho you should be alright! Tell Him Asap
Good Luck
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