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36-40,
*ruemornings
writes:So my boyfriend and I have been dating since July. The only issue in our relationship is his ex.They were childhood sweethearts and they broke up over a year ago because she cheated on him multiple times. Now he's with me, but the main issue with her is because they had kids.She is very immature for her age (she's 21, I'm 19, and he's 23) and harasses me with text messages and tries to play off that she's my boyfriend texting me when in reality she just takes his phone (the reason he sees her often is because of the kids and he lets her stay in his house when they're over). I try to ignore her the best I can, but I'm very tired of her of her harassing me. I can understand if she doesn't want me seeing her children, that's fine, but she tries to make our relationship a living hell all because she's jealous (yet she was the one who cheated on him lots of times, that makes sense...=/). I don't want to break up with him because I really care about him and in my own opinion he's totally worth it (my parents like him too). I know kids always come first when it involves a previous partner, but this is only my second boyfriend and I don't know how to handle this situation. Can anyone help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): Honey, sorry to tell it straight but she will be on your case till they no longer share kids...and when will that be?,,,Never. You really just need to be strong and if she still is welcome to sleeping over, Girl she is sooooo gonna be on your case. The only way you will get rid of her is by getting rid of the father. But it is clear you do not want that so i'd say ...just learn to leave with her and her sleeping overs at "your" boyfriends place. You both simply are sharing him.
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reader, Talksense  +, writes (25 September 2008):
Hi, Well you have a serious problem on your hands. She's only on his case because she's jealous that he seems happy with you and has moved on. The trouble is tho they have kids and that's her 'Ace Card'!! Anytime she wants attention off him then all she has to do is manipulate him using the kids (cruel, but it's a fact).
The only way you're gonna deal with it, is that your bf has to be strong and make sure that she doesn't keep using him over the slightest little thing, she shouldn't be harrassing you and she can't touch you otherwise get the police involved. She wants to split you n him up, so your bf has to be strong or i don't think you 2 can last
Good luck
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