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writes:I've been dating the guy for over a month, we acted like in the relationship, so I throw the question a few weeks ago about what stage we were in, I was upset seeing him not willing to see it as relationship,so he said we were gf and bf. but he never told any of his colleages and friends about me, and when we were chatting few days ago, he said saying bf and gf sounds weird. I'm really confused, he does care about me, and act like my bf but doesn't want to be in the relationship, is he just keeping his opition open? or he's not serious at all about us:( Please help!!! Thanks a lot! Reply to this Question
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reader, Talksense +, writes (23 September 2008):
Hi, Here's a question for you. Why does it sound weird to say that you're bf and gf? His he of a similar age to you cos that sounds really immature.
The bottom line is this, when a guy really, really likes a girl and that he feels good to be with it makes him feel proud. What do you do when you have something to be proud of? You show it off!!
Not tellin parents for a while is understandable has that can be tricky sometimes and it's only early days, but not even telling friends or colleagues suggests this guy is hiding something or he doesn't like as much as he says he does.
Also, have to consider he could be a bit of a controller, wants you to be attached to him but doesn't want do the same as to feel like he's the one that's 'calling the shots' and playing emotional games. I'm not saying he is but just puttin it out there.
So, if i were you i would be very careful how you go with him before committing any further
GOOD lUCK
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): Well its hard to tell if hes keeping his options open. But i do know what youre going through i was in the same situation a few months ago. I was so frustrated I sat down with him and said well here is the thing. I want a relationship so are we going to have it or should we just call it quits because you are not sure. He told me that he wasn't sure about what he wanted and to give him more time but i had given him all the time and still nothing. So i moved on i called it quits, And now i am in the best relationship i have ever been. So maybe give him a little push and see what happens. Good luck.
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