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writes:I had a friend with benefits for about three years. He knew I was madly in love with him, but he didn't seem to care much back then. He was your typical young sexy blonde hair blue eye guy, and I was the girl next door type of person. I finally quit seeing him about six years ago. And until recently we hadn't said five words to each other. Back last fall a bunch of us were at my dad's river camp partying and getting drunk when he layed down next to me and started making out with me. And he told me "before any other girl in my life, there was you, it's always been you and I was just to dumb to care and had to big of a chip on my shoulder. But I love you, I always have." My heart melted cause I had always wanted to hear that from him. But it was to late. But the next morning he pretended he didn't remember saying it and that he was too drunk to remember anything. So my question is was he too drunk to remember? Or did he remember and mean it, but just got scared again?
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reader, gayleBSL  +, writes (5 November 2008):
i think there are only two possible answers to your problem
he's really in love with you and he's just in a stage wherein he's thinking if he's ready to get into a relationship with you...
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he's just a jerk who just want's to play around...
the beat thing to do is tell him how you feel after what happened. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFunny that I logged on today cause he texted me last night for the first time since April and told me he moved out into his own house and wanted me to stop by. And I said exactly this. "Not ever am I coming over, don't ask, don't bother. I told you I didn't mind to be friends but no hooking up would occur." And he texted back. " Guess you don't ever believe what your told then do you." When I asked he what that meant, he wouldn't answer me lol oh well my friends life goes on.
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reader, Talksense  +, writes (24 September 2008):
Hi, Last November that's a long time thinkin about someone that you say you're not bothered about anymore. Why do i get the feelin that you're not being absolutely truthful about what it is you really want. If you just want to know whether he really meant it so it makes you feel better that he lost something he really wanted then i don't see the point of why you asked the question.
You may have stopped talkin to him and have asked him to let you move on, but it's September now and you're still thinkin about one comment he said nearly a year ago, Why bother? If he has moved on then he's not givin you a second thought, if someone really likes you then they're not just gonna give up just like that so you're probably wishing for something that's not there.
I think you still really like him but too proud to admit, cos you're scared he didn't mean it. I suggest you confront him and ask him directly if he really meant it or not because you won't properly move on till you do. 'You said my heart melted i've always wanted to hear that from him' If a person makes you feel like that and you been thinkin about what he said for so long then there's more to what you want then you're lettin on IMO.
Good Luck, would like to know what happens!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt was last Novemember. But he said it again on night via text message. But put it i luv ya. And then when I said no you don't he said well that don't mean the same thing. And yea I have been thinking about it all this time, not because I have the slighest interest in him anymore in fact I stopped talking to him again back in April. I told him he just needed to leave me be and let me go on with life. But I still think about it just wondering if it was true or not, cause if it is that would mean he finally knows how it feels to love someone that don't love you. That sounds so wrong, but that's how it is.
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (20 September 2008):
 It seems that he has been thinking about it for a longer time than you might expect, because, if you don't mind me saying, that sounded SO rehearsed, so, no, I don't think he has forgoten, I think he is scared of rejection and decided to cut his losses afterwards and move on.Well, maybe maybe, you know him better, so it is really down to you.Always follow your nose,Jellyxxx
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reader, Talksense +, writes (20 September 2008):
Hi, Well it's very difficult to know whether he meant it or not. You've hardly chatted to each other for a couple years and then comes out with that. You say that he said this 'last fall' which suggests this was a while ago. How long ago exactly did this happen? Also, what has he done since then? You been thinkin about what he said all this time?
The chances are that it was the drink talking and he just wanted to get off with you, cos he knows how much you liked him and that you happen to be there at the time and fancied it. Tho you can't be sure, it depends how hard he has tried to prove it since he said it, i would like to know how long ago he told you this? Write back
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