Is all this normal... or am I being irrational?
Q. Dear cupid, my boyfriend and I have been together on and off, for nearly four years now. It has had it's good parts and it's bad parts like any relationship I guess but I feel like I have hit a wall in the relationship now. I am coming here because ...
A. 6 November 2012: Dear Anonymous
Time for a change. I agree with CindyCares he has become a bad habit. Let go, move on and start living your life for yourself.
Hope this helps
Stephen Stewart Nixon... (read in full...)
I'm so embarrassed of my past and am afraid it will ruin my relationship...
Q. So, i have been with my boyfriend for several years and we are so in love, thinking of getting married in the near future. The problem is, the past few months i've been thinking about my past constantly and feel so embarrased. The thing is, ...
A. 6 November 2012: Dear Anonymous
You're boyfriend already knows about your past and yet he still loves you. He also probably knew about your endeavors before he started dating you. I think the problem lies with your self perception rather than his perception of you.... (read in full...)
Friends turned lovers... favourable outcome or not???
Q. Dear Cupid, My best friend and I had sex, we were worried that if we did so we will be risking losing our friendship of years, we are truly good friends, we usually spent most of our time together (going out-visiting friends-chilling...
A. 6 November 2012: Dear Anonymous
I'm going to keep this short and sweet because the answer is so obvious. You've just started a relationship with your best friend. Can you think of anyone better to have a relationship with? Give it a bit of time and see how it deve... (read in full...)
He ended what I thought was a great relationship, what happened?
Q. Hello everyone I have a problem which i would like to see if anyone could shed some light on. I met a guy 8 months ago and we stayed in contact with each other for 8 months, he lived 4 hours away at the time but recently moved 1 hour away, so fr...
A. 26 June 2012: Hi Skeez Let me start by saying I'm sorry to hear that you've been hurt by your experience; pain is part of life which we all wish didn't exist. It's important to realise that pain of any sort is a message advising you to move away from it's sou... (read in full...)
What do I do? My ex won't be coming back
Q. What do i do as it seems my ex wont be coming back. Its been nine months. I know i kept messing up and he doesnt want to trust me. I go out with friends but its not the same without him. I dont want to date another guy as they all seem boring. How ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi Anonymous, if you have been split up for nine months it is probably time you made the decision to let go and move on. You may be stuck half way between break up and recovery which is always the worst place to be. Once you recover from your break ... (read in full...)
Does he just want Friends with Benefits or The Real Thing??
Q. So there is this guy that I've known for a little over two years now. We've always been really good friends, and whenever I ever needed someone to talk to or a friend to be with, he was always the first one I'd call. He has always been such a great ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi Anonymous, it is always difficult to tell what someone's intentions are because they often don't know themselves. It sounds to me like this guy doesn't want to get involved with you for whatever reason and he is using this "psycho" person as an ... (read in full...)
Confused by my relationship! Please help!
Q. I am in a fix, in a relationship with a married man from 2 years, he separated from his wife, has one year old son. Our relationship overall is fine other than fights regarding his wife calling him and pestering. He is yet to apply for a divorce, ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi Anonymous, breaking up with someone is a very confusing and painful thing to do. Although someone makes the decision to break up it doesn't mean that they will not have second thoughts. People need time to completely recover from a break up which ... (read in full...)
Will the cops come looking for us in the hotel?
Q. I am married and want to have sex with my girlfriend(she is unmarried)in a hotel room. IS it legal? Can we spend a night in a hotel room without luggage and simply by saying that we want to spend time together without worrying about the cops ...
A. 15 September 2010: Dear Anonymous, unless you are living in country with Sharia Law then it is not illegal to have sex with your girl friend. The police have a few other things to worry about; like murder, theft, rape fraud etc so they will not have the time or desire ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my ex called and I missed it, do I call him?
Q. my ex and i have been speaking on and off..we spoke last wednesday and i asked about talking more often and he said ok, no problem woth that..he was sick when we spoke so i said do you want to call when you are feeling better and he said that he can ...
A. 15 September 2010: Sounds to me like you are clutching at straws. If your ex called and was anxious to speak to you he would call back; in fact he would leave a message. Phone him, tell him how you really feel and see what he has to say. If he isn't interested then ... (read in full...)
His priorities are all screwed up how can I make him see this?
Q. Hello. I feel kinda silly asking for advice online, but I am confused and in need of the advice so here it goes... I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. He just recently moved out into his own place that he shares w...
A. 20 September 2009: It's all been said so I'll just add something a friend put to me a long time ago "If you want to soar like an Eagle don't run with the Turkeys" Your boyfriend is a Turkey; leave him to run with the other turkeys and get on with your life. There are ... (read in full...)
How do I get over this awful feeling of not being the first with her?
Q. My wife of 48 years lost her virginity when she was 14. To this day I cannot get over it even though she told me about it while dating prior to getting married. How do I get over this awful feeling of not being the first with her especially since...
A. 23 August 2009: Get a life, is that all you have to worry about? Every thing in life is relevant, if something terrible happened to you or your wife would you be obsessing about such a trivial matter. This is 2009 not 1909; virginity is only a big deal to ... (read in full...)
Why is "No Contact" good for break ups?
Q. Yeah I know I am smart and intelligent and mature enough for my age to know the answer to this but my heart is contradicting it. I have been 3 months apart from my ex, obviously, I still love him as this gives me the reason to write here. I ha...
A. 31 July 2009: Your break up is causing you emotional pain which very is normal. There has been a major change in your life and you haven't made up your mind what to do about it. Its like you are standing at a cross roads in the cold and its raining. Until you ... (read in full...)
He hasn't approached me for sex in a year, what's the problem?
Q. I am really concerned about the lack of a sex life between my partner and I. We have been together for 2 years and are both in our early/mid thirties. We've only managed to have full penetrative sex twice since the start of the relationship as I ...
A. 31 July 2009: This answer is going to be short and sweet because I'm not a sex therapist. I think you need to seek some professional advice on this one. I would expect to have sex twice a day for the first couple of years of a relationship. Yes that dies away a ... (read in full...)
I broke up with the guy I had for the guy I wanted but he dosen't want me.
Q. hi, i am phoebe and i am 17 years old. i was recently in a horrible love triangle and i haven't recovered yet. my friend set me up with this guy and he absolutely fell head-over-heals for me. but i didn't like him back. he was too sexual when he ...
A. 31 July 2009: A relationship is a nice thing to have with the right person but you may have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find that person. Relax and enjoy the process and do not let the fickle nature of teenage boys influence your self esteem. You will be OK ... (read in full...)
Do I risk the friendship by pushing him into romance?
Q. I am a single mother of two children, never married full time student and full time employee and he is a single father of a handicap child stay at home dad with a side job/hobby of window treatments. We meet on a internet dating site which was set ...
A. 31 July 2009: Relax and enjoy your time with him. You are probably thinking to much about the situation and starting to get anxious; he will pick up on this. Men tend take longer to settle into a relationship especially if they have other responsibilities. ... (read in full...)
I am pondering an affair because my husband won't initiate intercourse!
Q. Thanks for reading my question... My husband has over the last few months lost interest in me sexually. At first i didnt notice, we are busy and all. But suddenly realised that it had been 4 months... I spoke to him and said hon, whats happenin...
A. 31 July 2009: If your relationship is not working either make an effort to fix it or leave it. Don't cheat; your partner does not deserve that. No matter how good the sex would be in an affair you would still have to live with the guilt for the rest of your ... (read in full...)
His ex can't get over him!
Q. so my boyfriend broke up with his girlfriend and now we are together. she still calls him, emails him, shows up at his house. she even goes past boundaries and calls me! she still acts like they are together. she will go from acting like they are...
A. 23 July 2009: If your "boy friend" was in a long term loving relationship with his Ex 3 months really isn't very long to get over the break up. Clearly his ex girlfriend is hurting very much and rather than talk about stalking and the law perhaps someone should ... (read in full...)
For the guys: If you were showing all the signs of being into one girl, would you be likely to see others too?
Q. Out of curiousity for all you men out there- If you met a girl and are seeing her for a month, and you text her everyday and you ask all your friends (that are friends with her) about her and you mention her to your close family, are you likely t...
A. 27 June 2009: You asked for a mans view so I will give you one. If your relationship is going to work it will but you need to be patient, men generally take a while longer than women to get bitten by the love bug. If you are too pushy you might scare him off ... (read in full...)
New baby but don't love the father. I still love my ex! Help!
Q. i've just had a baby with my current bf but i don't love him anymore and i feel trapped we've been together only a year and everything has moved so fast i dont feel he's the one 4 me plus his family are horrible!! but i dont want our daughter ...
A. 27 June 2009: You only have one life so don't waste it in a relationship with someone you don't love. Your baby can still see his/her dad without you having to live with him for the rest of your life. Go and find a man you love and who loves you. You don't ... (read in full...)
Should I or should I not make this fantasy with my cousin?
Q. hi. so i recently got back in touch with a cousin of mine after a while. we met when i was about 14 at my grandma's funeral and we instantly hit it off. we get along great tho we seldom spoke. we met at funerals mostly and other family gatherings. ...
A. 27 June 2009: If you are only distantly related go for it but not if he is your first cousin. Because despite what one of the other commenters said their are genetic risks associated with in breeding. ... (read in full...)
My mother accused me of flirting with her friend! I was only being polite. What should I do/
Q. Tonight, before her going to bed, my mum accused me of flirting with her 55 year old male friend when he came over to dinner. She was drunk and called me a bitch and overall was completely irrational. I find it disturbing, disgusting and upsetting ...
A. 27 June 2009: This isn't a very nice thing for a young girl to have to cope with. If it is any consolation your mother was acting out of insecurity which mixed with the alcohol caused her to be so rude and hurtful. Perhaps the man wasn't paying her enough ... (read in full...)
Dating a older guy who seems to be confused
Q. I am 29 and I met a guy who is 42 yrs old Brit. I met him at a gig and to network I gave him my business card. Later he emailed me saying how great I did and he is in debt to me. I wrote back and said if he is ever in the area I work in we can go ...
A. 27 June 2009: You might be dealing with a clash of values here, no one is right and no one is wrong, you just have different expectations. If he is 42 from the UK chances are he is more relaxed about what it means to have sex. He comes from a sexually liberal ... (read in full...)
I don't want to step in but I want to date her!
Q. ....i need a little help here... there is this girl i met a few months back through some close friends, and she has this boyfriend who is kinda a jerk to her, but she says that she is in love with him and not willing to leave him yet, however i hav ...
A. 27 June 2009: Leave her alone... (read in full...)
What's so wrong with my enjoying the female form?
Q. My girlfriend is very upset because I enjoy watching porn. We've been together for little over 2 years, and she lost her virginity to me. I love her, she is such a great girl, she is different from other girls I've ever met or been with. I've told ...
A. 27 June 2009: You need to decide what is more important to you. Your porn needs or you girlfriends self esteem. It seems to me that you have no idea of how sad you are making her feel. She is right she cannot make you stop but if you love her you will. If it is ... (read in full...)
Is my ex over me? I'm not sure why he still wants to be in my life.
Q. My b/f and I broke up mainly due to an outside event. An ex fiance of 6 months ago who when he found out i was happy and with someone else keep staulking me. My b/f told me to get a restraining order but I did not and he thought I was being ...
A. 27 June 2009: You need to get to the bottom of the situation and discuss what you are thinking and feeling with the person in question. It is the only way to find out where you are with your "relationship". If it isn't going anywhere you need to know so you can ... (read in full...)
Although we've broken up I have this feeling in my gut that he still loves me and that this can still work.
Q. My ex boyfriend and i have been going at it for quite sometime. We dated in 07, and broke up seven months later. We been trying to work things out ever since. Its been on and off over and over again. Sometimes i feel like its not worth the time to ...
A. 27 June 2009: You are swimming in shark invested waters. It sounds like you are trying to make it work all on your own; it takes two. If he is not responding to your efforts his actions should be telling you something; "he is not interested enough to make the ... (read in full...)
Does she want me???
Q. I am a lesbian and I have a lesbian (school/neighbor/vacinity/ grew up) friend that we recently remet after over 20 years. She has a girlfriend of seven years and they live together. We email each other a lot and have been out twice and both times ...
A. 27 June 2009: You are playing with fire and someone is going to get burnt. If she is in a long relationship would it not be sensible and kind to find someone single and let her and her partner get on with their relationship? ... (read in full...)
Should I leave her?
Q. Ok, heres the things. I have been dating my current girlfriend for about 1.5 years. For like the past half year she never wants to do anything any more, all she wants to do is watch tv and sleep. Don't get me wrong, when i get off work, I like to ...
A. 27 June 2009: Sounds like your girl friend is suffering from depression. If you love her help her find a purpose for her life. If you are more into yourself than her then leave her because you won't be much help to her. Sorry but it's true ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or is he just being friendly?
Q. Does he like me? Okay this is gonna be long so brace yourself. There is this guy that I have a crush on. Sometimes I think he likes me and sometimes I'm not so sure. He is the brother of one of my friends on my soccer team. He is also my soccer c...
A. 23 May 2009: Hi Anonymous, I'll keep this short and sweet. The guy likes you but is too shy to directly tell you. Stop wasting time, take the bull by the horns and let him know you want to date him. You have nothing to lose by asking. Good luck ... (read in full...)
Peter Andre and Katie Price breaking up has really upset me. Help!
Q. I feel seriously pathetic and stupid for asking for adivce on this... but thank you guys for even reading the question. I'm sure all you people in the UK will have heard the news that peter andre and katie price are splitting up? Well it has real...
A. 12 May 2009: Hi Anonymous
Your feelings are real regardless of the reason why so you should not think of yourself as "pathetic, stupid, and just basically like an idiot...". You have grown fond of these two people and you enjoy having them as part of your life... (read in full...)
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