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writes:I am a single mother of two children, never married full time student and full time employee and he is a single father of a handicap child stay at home dad with a side job/hobby of window treatments. We meet on a internet dating site which was set up as a prank by my friends. He was in the process of moving to TX from PA and was using the internet site to meet new people in TX. We would email maybe every other day for about 2 weeks until finally we decided to give each other phone contact numbers. We started talking to each other daily, and still do. A month later he moved to TX and we set up to meet each other with a family/friend bar-b-que. We hit it off very good to the point that we became intimate. We are into the 3rd month of getting to know each other and he just recently asked if I could send a couple days with him at his house, just us. I agreed and we had a wonderful time together. We are developing a great friendship not to mention we are growing into friends with benefits. Which may not be all I would like from this relationship. He devotes a lot of time to his daughter because of her handicap and sometimes mentions he feels guilty when he himself develops relationships or has nurse care come take care of her, as he mentions "too often". I myself am also a very busy person and don't have much time to devote. I have both lost a partner and had a very bad second experience. We both seem to be very guarded. I think he is a wonderful man and so far I really enjoy our conversations and just spending time with him whether sexual or not. I want to have a real relationship with him but feel as though he has a lot on his plate. He is new to the area and probably doesn't want to settle for the first female relationship he has. I dont want him to think I am going to take away his time from his little girl. I really don't want to mess up our friendship by pushing into something to rapidly. How should I handle the situation?
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reader, answersplease +, writes (31 July 2009):
answersplease is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers he is a great guy and hopefully with time we will have a relationship. I may be jumping the gun just a tad. Thanks for your advise.
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reader, IamSoConfused  +, writes (31 July 2009):
Give it time and let your friendship develop. If things are still going well in a while then you can suggest starting a relationship together if he doesn't mention it already.
Don't try to rush into a relationship with him because as you said it could ruin your friendship and if you two do form a relationship it might not be what you are looking for because he can't devote enough time to you because of his daughter.
I hope things go well for you two.
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reader, Stephen Stewart Nixon +, writes (31 July 2009):
 Relax and enjoy your time with him. You are probably thinking to much about the situation and starting to get anxious; he will pick up on this. Men tend take longer to settle into a relationship especially if they have other responsibilities. Remember men are problem solvers and protectors, for this reason they are cautious about jumping into relationships. Casual Sex is easy because they do not feel they have to take on the responsibility of someone they have not made a commitment to. If you stay cool you will give yourself the best opportunity for the relationship to develop into something beautiful. The cake just needs time to bake.
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