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36-40,
anonymous
writes: Dear Cupid,My best friend and I had sex, we were worried that if we did so we will be risking losing our friendship of years, we are truly good friends, we usually spent most of our time together (going out-visiting friends-chilling with a DVD or get drunk and be loud at the pool) things like that, comes very easy, there is no pretending so we both are able to be our selves around each other, been through the good times and the bad times alike.We want to make sure we do not lose our good friendship, it was the 1st time we even kissed.. Now I don't know where we stand, I think it was a crazy stupid move from both of us to let things go this way :(I will tell you few things I noticed and you tell me what can you make out of it !!!last Sat night is the night that we did it, It was weekend and we decided to go out together without our mates (we're both social magnets) and we end up going to the beach with booze instead of going clubbing, later on I drove him back to his house and went inside with him and we out of no where were kissing and playing, we were up all night long mainly having fun while doing it.Next day we didn't speak of it, as it never happened but at night he was at my house watching a movie with me and It was my bed time so I asked him to go to his house but instead we end up in my bed and I was so tired from the day before (hangover) so he offered to massage me til I fall asleep, I woke up Mid night he was cuddling me (asleep) so i tried to move his hand and he didn't let go of me so I went back to sleep only to wake up again some how having sex and then we both fell asleep again and woke up in the morning still cuddling!Sunday night we talked about what is happening and we both decided to resist and no matter what we wont sleep together again (to save our friendship.Yesterday (Monday) he called me in the afternoon to go for lunch after my work (we usually do that as friends) and the time was very normal (the normal super friendly us) we spent all the afternoon together then I left him to meet up with some girlfriends of mine and he was going to the airport in another city to pick up couple of friends were on a holiday, at night he came by my house for a cup of tea before he goes home, some how again (it start unconsciously)we started kissing and we woke up to the moment and said we cant have sex we need to resist so we stopped, minutes later we were in each other arms making out !!!!Of course our tries to resist and not to jump on each other was a failure, in the middle of it we found out we had no condoms and we wouldn't let being sexually aroused be a reason for not using protection (we are both very clean but we do not want an unplanned baby) so instead of having sex we went foreplay all the way to the end!!He was pleasuring me exactly as I was pleasuring him, I kid you not, foreplay orgasms are way sexy and kinky if done proper!!Past mid night he left me to sleep and he went out with the boys.Today he text me good morning hope you feeling alright, see you after work..What do you think is going on, What could be the outcome of this??
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): From my experience friends who wind up sharing sex together can be the best sex ever. I had a sexual relationship with my friend, a woman I knew my entire life and it was some of the best sex ever for me. It did not destroy our friendship, we were just helping with sharing our needs together, for 5 years. We both moved onto other relationships but we're still friends and we would help each other out again and again if it came down to it, even though I am in a relationship I'd still take care of her needs if she asked. She was there for me and I do love her as a friend so nothing would stop me from helping my long time friend with her needs because she's come to my sexual rescue many times when she didn't have to. I am very lucky to have a friend like her and she's no slut, just a very loyal long time friend.
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (6 November 2012):
 Right now what is going on is a friends with benefits situation. You say you both worry about losing your friendship if you were in a relationship, well I'd say FWB is more likely to ruin the friendship than anything else would. Do you want to be in a relationship with him? You say it could ruin the friendship whatever, do You want to date him exclusively? Do YOU like him? If you don't then you need to decide- stay only friends or try the FWB deal and see how it works to date others but have sex with each other. Doesn't usually end well so I wouldn't reccomend continuing that path. If you both really don't have a romantic interest in a relationship and really want to maintain your friendship then you need to stay away from alone time together where you will end up making out etc. To me it sounds like neither of you are very serious when making the statement about not ruining the friendship. It's already passed the point of no return, it will never be like before. So you need to decide what you both want now. And also how did you wake up to find out you were having sex...? He was having sex with you while you were asleep? Highly, highly creepy.
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reader, Stephen Stewart Nixon  +, writes (6 November 2012):
 Dear Anonymous
I'm going to keep this short and sweet because the answer is so obvious. You've just started a relationship with your best friend. Can you think of anyone better to have a relationship with? Give it a bit of time and see how it develops, you've crossed the line now and there is no way back so enjoy it and try to make it work.
Hope this helps
Stephen Stewart Nixon
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