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writes:Does he like me?Okay this is gonna be long so brace yourself.There is this guy that I have a crush on. Sometimes I think he likes me and sometimes I'm not so sure. He is the brother of one of my friends on my soccer team. He is also my soccer coach’s son. At the end of this year I will be 17 and he will be 18. I saw him a while back and I got a ridiculously strong "I like you" vibe from him. These were the signs I got.1. I got a ride with him and his sister and mom because his soccer team was going to be practising with my soccer team. They had picked up one of his teammates before me, and this guy and the guy they picked up were in the backseat of the car and his sister and mom were in the front seat. So I ended up being squished in between the car door and the guy (It was very nice and he smelled really good :-). Not a sign, but just had to mention it. :-)2. With his past behaviour, he had always seemed uncomfortable and quiet around me, but this last time when we were sitting beside each other he seemed really comfortable and at ease, you know, laughing, talking and joking around with his mom and sister. Something he never used to do when I was around.3. Before this, whenever I would say something, he would kinda ignore me or pretend that he hadn't heard me, but this time everything I said got a response of some sort, he would either answer me, comment on what I said or laugh or chuckle.4. When we were picking coloured pinnies for our teams (the pinnies, as usual were all thrown on the floor and we were supposed to kinda dive in and grab one) him and I were both sitting on the stage in the gym and instead of doing what he usually does, which is run over and grab a pinnie as fast as he could, he jumped off the stage slowly and watched me before picking the same colour as me.5. When a couple of the girls were trying to get his blue pinnie away from him so that they could be on the same team he didn't let them have it. 6. When our team was off and everyone from our team was sitting on the stage watching the others until it was our turn again, he always sat right beside me (when, all of the other times, he would stand on the floor on the far side of the stage) except for one time when there wasn't enough room beside me (he stood there for a minute looking like he was wondering if he should try to squeeze in or if there was enough room) and then he walked up onto the stage and stood leaning against the wall of the stage, where out of the corner of my eye I could see him looking at me.7. When we were both sitting on the stage, I crossed my right foot over my left and he immediately did the same. We actually ended up sitting in the exact same pose.8. When we were leaving the practise, he half heartedly fought his sister for the front seat but then gave up without much of a fight. This was unusual because I had seen them fight over the front seat before, and he fought much harder. He almost always won. The fact that he gave up so easily this time, could definitely have meant something. Possibly because I was going to be sitting in the back seat?I also saw him a few days ago when I was walking with my parents and little brothers. He was walking towards us on the sidewalk, but when he saw us, he crossed the street until we passed. I'm thinking that this was just because I was walking with my whole family and that would've been a bit awkward and uncomfortable. Thoughts?I also just got back from another soccer practice with him. I didn't get as many signs as before, but I think I felt the vibe. I am still not 100% sure (though I will probably never be) that he isn't just being friendly. I was thinking about sending him an e-mail (although questions might arise as to how I got his e-mail address. I got it from the list of people that my coach sent an e-mail to.) or send him a Facebook message (although he isn't a friend on Facebook so would it be weird if I just sent him a message? I am worried that adding him as a friend might weird him out) asking him how his "job hunt" is going (his mom wants him to get a job and he is not that eager :-). This is an urgent question because if I am going to send him a message I have to do it soon. And yes, I realize that I am totally overanalyzing this situation. It's just that I really really like this guy!This might not seem like much, but if you knew what he was like before you would know that he was like a totally different person this time. I had gotten small inklings before but never with as much evidence as this. Whew! Sorry this was so long. Thanks. Let me know what you think!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): I think he likes you but is a little shy about it.tell him how you feel also get to know him a little better talk with him.
Hope things work out!=D
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): I think you should go for it.Ask him out he seems like he likes you but is kinda shy.SO good luck!!
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reader, Stephen Stewart Nixon  +, writes (23 May 2009):
 Hi Anonymous, I'll keep this short and sweet. The guy likes you but is too shy to directly tell you. Stop wasting time, take the bull by the horns and let him know you want to date him. You have nothing to lose by asking. Good luck
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reader, Mrs Mac +, writes (21 May 2009):
 I think it is time for you to bite the bullet and just ask him. You are spending so much time analyzing the situation I think it's best for you to know one way or another where you stand.
Myself personnaly would go for the suttle approach. The next time you are sitting on the stage beside each other strike up a conversation like for example how's the job hunt going. It would be better to do this face to face rather than over facebook as you will be able to read his reactions then.
It does sound like he is a little shy so it will be down to you to make the first move. Suttle is best tho this will help avoid embarressment for both of you if perhaps the reaction you get is not what you wanted.
Hope this helps let me know how you get on.
Mrs Mac
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): It's not silly! And it must be confusing for you. But I think you will drive yourself crazy wondering "does he like me, doesn't he like me?..." He certainly sounds very friendly towards you, and you get on well, so that is a good starting point. I would say yes, go for it. Take a risk and send him a message. I think you will probably get a good response, but even if you didn't, at least you'll know.
Good luck. x
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