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No replies yet... 22 May 2007: All of us have different ways of dealing with the stresses of relationships, life, and emotional chaos. Myself, I am one of those for whom poetry comes easily. Most of the time they just kind of pop in my head when I'm in a funky mood. Here's on...
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I just found out last night my BF is racist! What can I do about it?
Q. My boyfriend is racist. He don't think he is just cuz he got black cuzins. He has a problom with some blacks he went out with a black before and he wasn't racist then but now he is. He fights alot and the people he fights with are black people!....
A. 8 May 2007: Ummm..... dump him. Get away from him. And tell him that unless he drops the whole race issue, he might as well never talk to you again.
And if it continues on long enough, or if he represents a real danger to other people, you may be forced t... (read in full...)
My GF was hurt in a past relationship so won't have sex with me! How do I convince her I'm not 'that guy' ?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for over 7 months now. We have done a lot of things but never actually had sex. I am still a virgin, but she had sex once a couple years ago. She says the guy used her and really hurt her and she doesn't ...
A. 8 May 2007: Well, obviously you are "some kind of guy" because you think sex will bring the two of you closer.
What a load of bull... You want sex, she's uncertain and/or against it completely.
If you want sex, date a nympho. If you want to date this gir... (read in full...)
My parents don't like my BF coz he does drugs! How can I make them see he's a great guy and makes me happy?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a while. My parents don't like him cos he does drugs, which i don't do. Is there anyway that i can make them see that i like him for the laughs and the good times we have together? I feel that we are going to...
A. 8 May 2007: Your parents are right.
You shouldn't date a guy who does drugs. The same thing goes for dating someone who is an alcoholic, or a sexaholic, or any kind of person who is addicted to something unhealthy.
Just think about it... He may make all ... (read in full...)
Should I wait around for him until he's ready to date again?
Q. I am really confused and I would really appreciate your help. I have been at university for my first year now and I met a guy within the first few weeks. We were just mates at first and we hung out in a large group of girls and lads. He also...
A. 8 May 2007: Now ask yourself this question:
Do you really want to be with a guy who cheated on his previous girlfriend?... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to do Sixth Form next year or go to college! Any views?
Q. Im 15, in year 10. I have a year left at school. Im starting to think about what i wanna do when i leave school. I deffinatly want to continue education. Im not sure if to stay at my school and go to sixth form or go to college. is there much ...
A. 8 May 2007: Listen to your dad. It is really better to be a little older before going off for more schooling. ... (read in full...)
What do I get my GF for our 2 month anniversary?
Q. hey there .. its my 2 month aniversary on saturday and i was wondering what i should get my gf .. any ideas would be greatly appricciated .. thank you :) all the best...
A. 8 May 2007: A nice dinner and some flowers.
Too much more and you'll probably come off as too desperate to please.
Besides, save the big guns for the 1 yr. anniversary. ... (read in full...)
I wanted to believe her that she was my perfect girl. Am I wrong to be stressed about her past?
Q. Ah well, here goes, lots to tell... I met a wonderful girl 2 and a half years ago, she was beautiful and sexy, and was interested in me, however, the months before we actualy got together people were telling me to stay away, and suggesting some ...
A. 8 May 2007: You managed to find one of those women who are absolutely impossible to get along with. They crave attention, and are addicted to the high of control and domination, yet are always unhappy.
What she needs is therapy, and lot's of it.
You pro... (read in full...)
I have this 'saviour complex'-I try to help her all the time but it got to me! Did I do the right thing by saying, I can't be her friend anymore?
Q. I will start with a little information about myself. I seem to have this "savior complex" due to which I seem to be automatically attracted to people who need my help. Also, I feel guilty..ALOT. About three years ago I met this amazing female ...
A. 8 May 2007: I found out that by disengaging from my best female friends' lives when they have a boyfriend, the end result is that they have to rely on their new boyfriends for their emotional support.
This usually means that they ended up breaking up.
... (read in full...)
I can't find any good singles to date!
Q. I never seem to find a single guy to date because in the past the only guys that fancy me are divorced, engaged, married or in some sort of relationship. And they are all older than me a fair bit. I have no clue why this is. I don't want to be with ...
A. 8 May 2007: I think you need to ask yourself why you even need to be in a relationship.
Why not just be single for a little while and explore the fun side of being single, namely the independence that comes without having to worry about some guy's feelings... (read in full...)
My teacher kept me in for detention, kissed me and had sex with me on his desk.
Q. I need urgent help! I'm seeing my teacher during and after school. He gives me detension so I can see him at lunchtime. He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met, so I don't want to end this. The other day at lunch we were kissing and had se...
A. 8 May 2007: Oh, and in regards to a sex tape...
Given the type of predatory personality that is required to have sex with a student placed under their care, he is probably wanting a souvenir that he can show his buddies to prove that he's banging one of his s... (read in full...)
He couldn't keep it up, on his first time. And he's upset..what can I say to make him feel better?
Q. Hi well am just going to get to the point me and my boyfriend decide we wanted to have sex we planned it (its was his first time not mine) everything was going fine he was up and ready to go but he couldn't keep it up and walked away , i tried ...
A. 7 May 2007: Don't give him a choice. This is one of those traumatic moments in a young man's life... The first time that absolutely flails.
Don't mother him... but you might have to prod him into bucking up and being more of a man, although you might want to ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to have a baby but to tell the truth I don't no if I am. What should I do?
Q. ok i have a couple ? i hope you can help with all of them! so me and my boyfriend have talked about haveing sex and having a baby even at our age. we've both had sex when we were younger!! we've also both talked about french kissing which ai...
A. 7 May 2007: They say that in our youth we believe we know all there is to know about love, about life, and about death.
In our maturity we realize that we don't know jack about any of those, and that we're living life, flying by the seat of our pants alone.
... (read in full...)
We talk about marriage all the time but still no proposal after 7 years together!
Q. 7 years into a relationship and no proposal... I don't know what to do. up until last year I have had no real urge to get married but since hitting 34 I just feel a need to settle. My boyfriend and I get on brilliantly. We've travelled a lot ...
A. 7 May 2007: It takes a man anywhere from 2-6 months to save up enough money to buy an engagement ring... Assuming he has an average paying job, else it could be longer or shorter.
This is probably one of the most fragile stages of a relationship, full of ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for 2 guys... what should I do?
Q. Well I have a problm. I'm friends with a guy, we'll call him J, and J is perfect amd amazing and deeply in love with me though we are currently not dating. I think this could really turn into something, but there's this other guy, C, whom I'm really ...
A. 7 May 2007: Or maybe you could try being single and just friends with both of them. Who says you have to be dating someone at your age? The media?
You can have meaningful, platonic relationships with people that you are attracted to.... (read in full...)
Do you think I should get married to him or not?
Q. hi i been with this man for 9 years, i use to live with him and his four kids they was bad and he got the other one with an other women i was all the time mad and i try to live by my self an other apartement. i lived there for 6 years but i keep him ...
A. 7 May 2007: Just reading the first and second paragraphs and I already know my answer to your question:
Absolutely not, you should not marry him.
Now you'll try and explain how complex the reasons for staying with him are, etc. And my response will be... (read in full...)
My friends told me he really liked me, so why did he go and get himself another girlfriend?
Q. i started good mates with this lad about 3 years ago and i really liked him but he was giving me mixed signals, we drifted apart but now he's back and tried it on with me a couple of weeks back an ive started feeling back how i used 2, im best mates ...
A. 7 May 2007: You had your chance and he's moved on. Don't interfere with his new relationship.
Your job now is to move on too. Don't dwell on him.
But I will tell you this. He probably still likes you, and that your health and happiness are important to... (read in full...)
I found pictures of someone on his phone, thing is I'm 4 months pregnant and don't know what to do about this.
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for a year and im 4 months pregnant. he already has another child who's 5. Lately he has been secretive with his mobile and panics anytime i go near it. when he was sleeping one night i went into his texts and seen that ...
A. 7 May 2007: The cat's out of the bag. Move back in with your parents and make your new child your priority in your life.
I knew this beautiful woman who dated a friend of mine. She had her child when she was still in high school. She continued to live wit... (read in full...)
He woke me up, put his penis in my mouth and told me to SUCK!!!
Q. I love my boyfriend very much, but my friends think he's no good for me. He always tells me how sexy I am and how he thinks Im amazing in bed. I don't see how this is 'using me' as my friends think. The only thing that disturbs me, is that ...
A. 7 May 2007: First off, dump him. Your friends are right.
Just because a guy makes you feel sexy, doesn't mean that he loves you. In point of fact, you probably don't even love him, just the way he makes you feel about yourself.
As for what he did, unless y... (read in full...)
My teacher kept me in for detention, kissed me and had sex with me on his desk.
Q. I need urgent help! I'm seeing my teacher during and after school. He gives me detension so I can see him at lunchtime. He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met, so I don't want to end this. The other day at lunch we were kissing and had se...
A. 7 May 2007: Stop having sex with your teacher. Period. You'd be surprised at how confusing the teacher-student dynamics can make you feel in regards to sexual attraction. In 10 years or even 3 or 4 years, you'll look back and wonder how you ever felt anything ... (read in full...)
This girl I don't know keeps ringing me and I'm fed up. How do I handle this?
Q. i'm 16. a girl is a year younger than me and she keeps ringing me tellin me she likes me. she goes to my school but i dont know who it is. she's seen me play football at school showin of a few skills and apparently loves her pants of at me. i'v...
A. 7 May 2007: Unless you feel as if she's a danger to you, just ignore her.
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I'm ready to have a baby but to tell the truth I don't no if I am. What should I do?
Q. ok i have a couple ? i hope you can help with all of them! so me and my boyfriend have talked about haveing sex and having a baby even at our age. we've both had sex when we were younger!! we've also both talked about french kissing which ai...
A. 7 May 2007: Don't have sex. Don't kiss him or anybody for a few more years.
There is a time and place for things, and right now your only job is only to be a kid. Don't rush to do things adults have trouble dealing with.... (read in full...)
He couldn't keep it up, on his first time. And he's upset..what can I say to make him feel better?
Q. Hi well am just going to get to the point me and my boyfriend decide we wanted to have sex we planned it (its was his first time not mine) everything was going fine he was up and ready to go but he couldn't keep it up and walked away , i tried ...
A. 7 May 2007: Try this.
Get him involved in foreplay. Teach him to bring you to orgasm without actual intercourse. Let him rebuild his confidence in his ability to please you, and the intercourse will come naturally after that.... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and I want a baby with my partner! He wants to wait until I am older...any advice?
Q. Im 19 years old and iv been with my partner for over two years i know im young but i really feel this is the person i want to spend my life with recently i told him i want to have a child i feel im ready and i am mature then most girls my age i have ...
A. 7 May 2007: Take your time. You can have children for two more decades, so there's no rush to have them right this minute.
But keep in mind that he may not be the one. You may feel that strongly for him, but that doesn't necessarily he means he feels exactly ... (read in full...)
i've got a bit of a dilemma because I have fallen for a guy who is older than me by 7 years, married and who has a kid
Q. Hi, i've got a bit of a dilemma because I have fallen for a guy who is older than me by 7 years, married and who has a kid. We both really like each other but I don't know whether to take this relationship further. We haven't actually done anything ...
A. 7 May 2007: Ask yourself this question:
Do you like the man he is?
Because the moment he chooses to cheat on his wife with you, he ceases to be the man worthy of your love. If you really like him, the best thing to do might be to remove the temptation t... (read in full...)
Do guys just assume that you're dating even if you don't have the actual talk? I'm confused.
Q. I feel kind of stupid asking this question but here goes... I had a crush on one of my guy friends for a long time, and recently something happened between us. He admitted he had feelings for me, we kissed, and he told me that he'd been in lov...
A. 7 May 2007: So, you're asking if you're actually dating someone that you kiss on a regular basis?
Here's some good advice. If you know you like someone, it is an excellent idea to establish the ground rules and boundaries of the relationship prior to act... (read in full...)
I need help with trusting my husband even though I have no grounds for not trusting him!
Q. I have been married for 10 years to a wonderful guy, he is the father of our three kids, we started dating in high school over 13 years ago. Recently he told me that if i dont start trusting him he's going to leave. I agree with what he said about ...
A. 7 May 2007: If your paranoia is so deep seated that you are personally powerless to help yourself, I would recommend couple's therapy.
... (read in full...)
Why has this guy suddenly stopped talking to me?
Q. Well I am 15 years old and for a couple of months I was talking to this guy who is 17 years old. Well me and him would talk daily for hours. That changed after some time. Then for a couple of weeks he would just call randomly like at 2 in the morn...
A. 6 May 2007: Don't stress over it. It'll hurt for a while, and you'll probably watch your phone and click on his myspace profile to see what he's up to, but this behavior will stop eventually.
I recommend finding something to keep you busy. A club at school, ... (read in full...)
I know I'm not ugly, so why isn't anyone attracted to me? Why is everyone else in a relationship but me?
Q. I feel so sad. It just seems that everyone around me is in a relationship, or at least one person is attracted to them. It makes me feel ugly and unwanted and in some cases, left out... I know i'm not ugly, and it's partly why I don't understand...
A. 6 May 2007: Yep, you're too young to worry about people liking or not liking you in that particular way. Remember that at 15 you still have the rest of your long life ahead of you, so there is no need to rush or to feel as if your life is slipping away. Work... (read in full...)
I feel otherwise about my family whom has been created around an illusion
Q. My parents seem to have made considerable efforts in creating a so-called ideal family. But it is like a false illusion to display to the outside world. In reality there are lot of internal problems in my family, no one respects the other, no one ...
A. 5 May 2007: Outside of physical or sexual abuse, most families have exactly the same kind of tensions and problems.
What you have to realize is that everybody else is hiding behind exactly the same kind of facade.... (read in full...)
Was I too rough? She said it was the best sex she'd ever had!
Q. last night i had sex with my ex and i will admit it was very rough she kept moing saying it was amizing and it felt fantastic eventually she had to keep stoping cause her clit was hurting to much and she did bleed a little bit but i dont no whether ...
A. 5 May 2007: I would recommend that if she really likes it rough that the two of you go down to one of those toys of adult stores and ask the staff for some help finding information on the subject. Discuss this in depth with her and pick a "safe word". The safe ... (read in full...)
She told me once a long time ago she didn't want to date me..should I ask her again?
Q. i've posted a question before about how i should find out if a girl likes me! the only problem is i'm confident enough to go talk and tell her. but i've already told her 3months ago. she said she didn't feel the same. yet she still talks to me a fai...
A. 5 May 2007: Been there, doing that...
Just because a girl talks to you and enjoys your company doesn't mean that she likes you. She respond to you with body language and send you mixed signals constantly that get you all fired up, but she doesn't actually... (read in full...)
I'm 22 but attract older guys... how can I attract guys more my own age?
Q. hi guys.. i've got a problem because im 22 and single but i always seem to attract guys who are way older than me. like an example of this was on the weekend i went to a firends wedding party and there were these two guys who were chattin me up, but ...
A. 4 May 2007: Take it from a guy who is 28. I personally won't date someone who is more than a 3 years younger than me at this time. I don't think most young women under the age of 25 are emotionally mature enough to handle someone as strange as me.
So if these... (read in full...)
I think Blake is her secret internet romance..am I just a 2nd banana here, in her life?
Q. The woman I've been dating steadily for over a year asked me to help her set up a web page for her family. I said sure. Well, last week, she invited me over to download some photos, etc., while she worked around her house. She had left her email ...
A. 4 May 2007: Get over yourself. You're the man with the boots on the ground, not Blake. Loosen up a little and spice up your relationship. Lower your inhibitions and do something wacky and romantic, and compliment her well and often.
She's obviously getting ... (read in full...)
Met the most amazing guy... until I saw him and his girlfriend!
Q. good god!!i have had the weirdest couple of weeks ever!!!i met the most amazing amazing guy ever. i thought he was the one for me, he bought me flowers, drove 60 miles to see me at uni three times in 3 days,came to my house at 7 every morning to ...
A. 4 May 2007: My advice is back off. If he has a girlfriend, he has a girlfriend. End of story.
As for your being friends with him, I'd advise a little break of a few months before doing so. It may be that he was in a position where he was scared about settling... (read in full...)
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