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writes: i've posted a question before about how i should find out if a girl likes me! the only problem is i'm confident enough to go talk and tell her. but i've already told her 3months ago. she said she didn't feel the same.yet she still talks to me a fair bit. but i cant risk it and ask her again, because after my second chance is over i will have to move on. i cant do that, i love her too much.any ideas than? i'm desperate to find out but thing is we dont talk much at school coz we dont see each other much. so it's kind of hard to get eye contact or even a hi! thanks,
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (5 May 2007):
Been there, doing that...
Just because a girl talks to you and enjoys your company doesn't mean that she likes you. She respond to you with body language and send you mixed signals constantly that get you all fired up, but she doesn't actually like you.
My advice is simple. Back off. Women almost never change their minds. To them, the first impression matters more than anything else. Move on, and date around. Enjoy the company of other women. Disentangle yourself before you fall any deeper into the hole you've dug for yourself.
It'll hurt for a while, but you can still spend time with her and make sure she's alright. Heck, if you love her so much, the best thing you can do is try to arrange things so she'll be happy. You might have to make some sacrifices to do that, but you'll be the better person for it.
And if you're destined to be together, she'll come around. But more likely than not, you'll both grow from this experience and learn from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): perhaps the girl still likes to talk to you yet only as a friend. However, if you are really that keen on her yet don't want to ruin your chances with her, maybe spend some time together as just friends. Ask her if she'd like to catch up on friendly terms, nothing else. Often girls can become more attracted to a guy over time. If this does happen, perhaps you'll notice a change in your relationship and can feel more confident in asking her out again. However there is also a large chance that this won't happen, but if you are so "in love" with her, that's the best advice i can think of giving you. And hey, if you never ask (again :P) you never know, so go for it but make sure you give her time and don't make her feel pressured at all. Hope this helps and good luck!
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