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writes:I feel kind of stupid asking this question but here goes...I had a crush on one of my guy friends for a long time, and recently something happened between us. He admitted he had feelings for me, we kissed, and he told me that he'd been in love with me for ages.Things have been pretty up in the air since then..we never officially said we were a couple, although we act like it. And the other day he mentioned that he could never dream of "cheating on" me...so does this mean he thinks of me as his girlfriend?Do guys just assume that you're dating even if you don't have the actual talk? I'm confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): YES..you do have a boyfriend now. If it was someone random who you had kissed, then ofcourse things would be different and it wouldn't automatically mean that you're in a relationship. But since you've been friends with him for a long time, and he admitted that he's liked you for a while before he kissed you, that was a "we both like each other, let's be together" kiss.
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (7 May 2007):
So, you're asking if you're actually dating someone that you kiss on a regular basis?
Here's some good advice. If you know you like someone, it is an excellent idea to establish the ground rules and boundaries of the relationship prior to actually kissing that person. Doing the kissing and kanoodling first is only just going to put in the same situation you are in now, where you're unsure of where both of you stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): well i would say yes. because i am on the same side he is i just am to scared to admit my feelings.
but with guys we just say that we have feelings for u and we would most likley call us being a couple after that. has he used the word date?
try telling him when he asks u out tell him "ok it's a date" and find out his reaction.
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reader, karinana  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 The "talk" doesn't always happen, but if you are confused, just ask. Yeah, I know, totally easier said than done- can be awkward. It's always easier to approach it lightheartedly. You can jokingly ask, "so am I your girlfriend already, or what?" Or you can approach it more seriously and say you need clarification just so you are on the same page. Tell him your not interested in seeing anyone but him and see what he says.
If he said he couldn't dream of cheating on you, that pretty much sounds like he wants you, and only you.
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (7 May 2007):
if he said that he could never dream of cheating on you then yes he must think you're a couple. If you're unsure you could just ask him if he considers him and yourself to be a couple.
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reader, Emgem +, writes (7 May 2007):
 I would think so... You have to be his girlfriend to cheat on him and he has to be your boyfrriend to cheat (or not) on you. So congrats! You have a BOYFRIEND!
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