Concerned about first time anal sex with girlfriend!
Q. My girlfriend wants me to give her anal sex and I am hessitant to because I have heard that the bum is tighter than the vagina and I know this is going to sound a bit weird but I do not know what is inside the female bum e.g. the texture (apart from ...
A. 16 May 2010: The bum certainly is tighter than the vagina. that's what makes the sensation great for the male. I have never heard of a female asking her guy for it though : sounds like you struck gold there. So......... how was it for you / her ?... (read in full...)
I swear she has had anal sex before.
Q. This is gonna sound like I'm some jealous macho American asshole, so sorry in advance. I am wondering there is any way to think if my girl has had anal sex before. I realize that I should trust her when she says no, and that love is built on trus...
A. 16 May 2010: I'm with the others on this: you asked for anal and unlike most women she gave it to you - what's not to like ?? Did you use plenty of lube / saliva / a lubricated condom ? ?? That could easily explain the ease with which you got inside. ... (read in full...)
Help: My marriage is in trouble!
Q. So I guess I will give a brief description of our relationship. My wife and I were mutual friends before we started dating in 2004. She was 19 and I was 21. She had a 13 month old boy that I immediately bonded with. We were crazy in love, l...
A. 16 May 2010: I agree with the previous post that you married far too young and this is the result. There are so many posts on this site ( such as men aged 40 wanting sex outside the marriage ) where that is the root of all the problems. But you are where yo... (read in full...)
I really like him but I don't want to be the rebound girl!
Q. Hi i'm a student and i'm 22. I met this guy 2 years ago. Last year we were in the same section in college. We started to hang out and we clicked together, there was chemistry. we like the same things, and wants the same thing, we laugh all the...
A. 16 May 2010: What's wrong with being the rebound girl exactly ? The issue is more - as at the present day , with neither of you in an ongoing relationship, what do you each have to offer one another ? What's wrong with a trial relationship ( whether ope... (read in full...)
Should I see if the other guy can satisfy me?
Q. I`ve had three lovers in my life and the biggest of the three was my ex hubby just at 5inches and 5inches in girth before my bf now witch is almost 4inches long and 4.5 around. I noticed the difference the first time he put it in and I was let ...
A. 16 May 2010: You obviously want to have experiences with other men besides your present bf. I don't see anything wrong with that provided you tell him that you want to see other men and he is free to see other women. On no account though should you tell h... (read in full...)
Husband is about to cheat. Please help me make the right decision.
Q. Hi. I am married 13 years. I married my high school sweetheart. we have been together for 25 years. We have only had sex with each other. My husband recently turned 40 and feels he has missed out on something, specifically sex with other women. ...
A. 16 May 2010: I think it's really interesting that - after a few postings and relaxing into this conversation - you have come out with a revelation about a previous sexual experience - a 4 some - which you enjoyed and which no one who read your posts up to that ... (read in full...)
Is it impossible to get over your first love?
Q. Has anyone gotten over their first love? How long did it take for you? Is it even possible??? Did you find love again??? It's been a year and a half since my ex-girlfriend dumped me for someone else. I don't think about her as often anymore, b...
A. 16 May 2010: IT'S not a matter of WHETHER it is possible for you to get over her : it's an essential REQUIREMENT FOR YOUR SANITY that you get over her. SO DO IT ! Carry on with all the College activities. Lay off the hard looking for rela... (read in full...)
In love with my fwb/ex?! help!
Q. Alright, so my first real long-term boyfriend of 3 months and I broke up about four months ago. Since then, after we got over the awkwardness of being around each other after the break up, it seems we can't keep our hands off each other whenever ...
A. 16 May 2010: To be totally frank - you won't like this but it's a male perspective - you come across as a bit of a teaser.... Of course he wants sex with you : that's not a bad thing it's just a normal male need \ desire. If he's as nice and as ho... (read in full...)
Having an affair but scared to let my husband go.....
Q. I have been married for 15 years, have two children aged 18 and 12, and I have been having an affair for the last 7 months, and now im in a total dilemma! My husband is generally a good, honest, man, but he plays golf on his days off work and me and ...
A. 16 May 2010: Why should Hubby be asked to leave exactly ? You're the one wants to break up the home shouldn't it be you packing the bags and moving into the new man's place ? Does the new man want you to move in with him full time ?... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex to marry his new girlfriend!
Q. I was dumped by my ex boyfriend in August last year. He did it via email and sms. Refused to answer my calls. Even when I went to his place to look for him, he refused to see me. He told me we are not suitable. His friend pitied me and told me he ...
A. 16 May 2010: It's REALLY time for you to move on. You've already lost nearly a year of yr life on this nonsense and it's YOUR FAULT NOT HIS. The other gf or whether he's got one is neither here nor there : for whatever reason or lack of reason he did... (read in full...)
Should girls shave their pubic hair, or do guys find it attractive?
Q. ok i hope no one thinks im nasty or something but should girls shave pubic hair? or do guys find it attractive for girls to have it? im not haveing sex or anything i just wanted to know? ...
A. 16 May 2010: I like to shave it off myself, as part of foreplay , esp if it's the girl's first time..... :) Sometimes it can be a stretch to postpone entering for as long as it takes to shave it off but that's part of the fun / excitement ........ (read in full...)
A good b-job, any advice?
Q. A general question for all males. How can a female give a good oral sex to a male?...
A. 16 May 2010: Well first of all insist he has a shower prior to the sex and uses copious soap on his genital and anal areas before rinsing it off.
It will help you to enjoy it if he smells totally clean - just the whiff of maleness from his sweat / glans pe... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with another man's baby; should I confess?
Q. ive told my ex the baby i am carring is his,but its not.its from a one night stand,now im scared in case he finds out,im due to have my 10 week scan,next week.but i split with him 12 weeks ago,i know he does not believe me deep down,and he has ...
A. 16 May 2010: You already know you cannot deceive him in this way. Sooner or later the truth would surely come out. A whole load of misery if it happens down the line. tell him the truth and ask if he wants to be the baby's adoptive father when it is born ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of giving too much away in case he just sees me as one of the lads!
Q. I've recently found myself developing feelings for a friend of mine. We have known each other for years and grown closer in the last 12 months or so. Over the past few weeks we have been spending quite a bit of time together and I have started to ...
A. 16 May 2010: What's wrong with asking him how he feels / telling him how you feel ?
or asking him to give details about the dream you figured in ? if he mentioned it it is because he wanted you to ask him for those details.
You can do it by text before y... (read in full...)
Husband is about to cheat. Please help me make the right decision.
Q. Hi. I am married 13 years. I married my high school sweetheart. we have been together for 25 years. We have only had sex with each other. My husband recently turned 40 and feels he has missed out on something, specifically sex with other women. ...
A. 15 May 2010: Thanks for your feedback. Just my two cents - hope it is useful food for thought if nothing else:
The point is : as I see it there is zero doubt but that he will be having sexual experiences with other women soon, if he has not already ... (read in full...)
Why does she have time for friends but not for me?
Q. I have a girlfriend that is really unique. We started dating about 6 months ago. She has always been very straight forward with me. But, I did not know that she was in a gay relationship with another female for two years until about in our second ...
A. 15 May 2010: If you can agree to have a totally open relationship with both of you getting sex and whatever you need with others as well as with one-another well that would be fine. As to an exclusive, just you and her, relationship it's clear she cannot... (read in full...)
Should I do what he wants so I can get him back?
Q. Okay so I lost my virginity about a month ago to a guy who I liked very very much, but he didn't feel the same way. Basically he used me, So then I thought I was pregnant and some how my school found and was talking about it non stop. Well the guy ...
A. 15 May 2010: If you are under 16 ( and it does sound like you are ) you shouldn't be having any kind of sex, and esp. not with someone who seems to be taking advantage of your youth and inexperience.
The law is there for a good reason. Stay away from thi... (read in full...)
Have never loved my wife of 19 years, I want to leave
Q. I am 39 years old married to 39 year old wife for 19 years. We have been together since High School, we dated for four years before getting married. I don't know if I am having a "mid-life crisis" or what, but I have been unable to shake thoughts ...
A. 15 May 2010: Jilly's answer is the nearest to what I would advise. ( Check my other posts for similar situations where someone has realized too late that they are not compatible with their spouse.) Basically I think people 'committing' to one another for life ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship I have with a 31 year old man wrong?
Q. I'm 16 and I've really only been attracted to older men (mostly teachers and other figures of relative authority, etc. I don't appreciate guys my age cause they're all terribly immature) and I love a guy who's 31 - that's 15 years older than me. I ...
A. 15 May 2010: Take advantage of the reality that he is in Australia and back off from this investment of your time and emotional energy. While you are masturbating / thinking about him you are missing out on other opportunities from boys / men who are arou... (read in full...)
Married and sex is mundane...should I cheat?
Q. I really need some help. I am currently married. My wife is pregnant. About 2 months. I don't understand myself. I love her very very much. However, I can't help but feel an urge to cheat; and I don't know why! I've even registered on so...
A. 15 May 2010: All the other posts seem to be assuming that it is best for both of you if you stay together.
I don't buy into that. Everything you say screams that this marriage was a terrible mistake. You are absolutely not suited to one another and almost ... (read in full...)
My wife is afraid to swallow. What can I do to help her get rid of this little fear?
Q. I have a great relationship with my wife and we love each other very much. She and I give each other oral sex. The thing is that I have asked her if she will swalow and she has said yes but she just can't bring herself to do it. What can I do ...
A. 15 May 2010: Come onto her nipple; take the sperm onto your tongue and lips - then touch your mouth to hers and see if she can enjoy the taste - start with just the tip of yr tongue onto her lips and tongue if she is willing.
In principle she should l... (read in full...)
I fancy both men and women and it's distressing me
Q. I fancy both men and women (men more at the moment). When I masturbate, it takes me longer to ejaculate when im fantasizing about women than it does men, about 5 minutes. Its really upseting and distressing me, I hate myself so much because of it. ...
A. 15 May 2010: Try to meet both girls and boys for sex.
Start with a girl. The longer you take to come with her the more she will enjoy it so that's not a problem.
When you have had a number of actual experiences with both males and females you will... (read in full...)
What can I do for my husband to acknowledge all my hard work, love and support?
Q. I've been with my "boyfriend" for four years. We're not married, but no less serious. We have two wonderful children. He works construction seven days a week and I am a nurse. We don't see each other as often as I'd like, but I try to put myself ...
A. 15 May 2010: Well presumably he was like this before you decided to have children with him ?
So you knew what he was like.
He does sound a bit unreconstructed but maybe in principle that works for you - you are getting great animal type sex right with a... (read in full...)
Husband is about to cheat. Please help me make the right decision.
Q. Hi. I am married 13 years. I married my high school sweetheart. we have been together for 25 years. We have only had sex with each other. My husband recently turned 40 and feels he has missed out on something, specifically sex with other women. ...
A. 15 May 2010: You need to hold on to the good things you have in this marriage - and you describe a few of them.
If this is your only problem in the marriage I reckon it is a small one which can and should be overcome.
You both need to lose the guilt a... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be aroused by the thought of other men when you're in love
Q. I've been in a relationship with my man for nearly 7 years now and we are due to get married in another year. I love him a lot and we have great sex. But for most of our relationship I have found myself repeatedly tempted by other men. I have nev...
A. 15 May 2010: I think you would be absolutely mad to get married to this man before you have explored sex with others.
You have been in a 7 year exclusive relationship with one person since you were a teenager : I just think that is a terrible foundati... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but he is not, can anyone give me any advice so I will be good in bed?
Q. I will apologize in advance for the length of this but I really appreciate any advice. Me and my boyfriend have been seeing each other for a while now and we have decided to take our relationship to the next level, we have decided to sleep with ea...
A. 15 May 2010: He is LUCKY ! He is the one who should be making the effort to put you at ease and give you a good first experience. I hope he realizes how much effort you are making to give him a great experience ?
So try and be as relaxed as possible... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is now willing to have anal sex, now I need some advice, please.
Q. Hello All, Well i am 27 and hve a gf. I want to do anal sex and i am kind of crazy for that. I like to see movie with anal sex, also i discuss the same with my gf. First she was not ready but now she said YES over the phone. Whenever we met she ...
A. 15 May 2010: 1) and 2) You should never do it without a condom : yes anal sex with yr gf is a great sensation ( for the man at least ) but not worth exposing yourself to disease ( plus the slight risk of pregnancy if she is not on the pill or whatever [ th... (read in full...)
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