If we fight, we have to split up, but then my GF says she wants to be together forever. I'm confused!
Q. Short and simple. Me and my girlfriend have been fighting a lot lately. We talked it over. She says she loves me but if we get into another big fight like this, then we are going to have to split up until we are ready to get back together. Then she ...
A. 5 February 2006: Girls can be silly sometimes. It could be that she really does change her mind that much, or she is testing you. How can she break up a whole relationship based on a fight you havent had?... (read in full...)
My family and friends are totally against our love! I don't want to have to choose...
Q. In October, I started cheating on my husband with this Mexican guy, Charlie. My husband and I had been having a lot of problems, and at first Charlie was just a little fling to keep my mind off things. But I ended up falling crazily in love with ...
A. 5 February 2006: When i was faced with this same dilemna, I ended up telling my family and friends that if I was going to see him whether they approved or not. Parents are a touchy subject when it comes to approving loves, but if you are truely happy, then tell them ... (read in full...)
My married lover feels sorry for his wife and won't leave because of the kids. How do I break off this affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for ten years. I was twenty four then, and a student in his torts class. He says he loves his wife, but he loves me more. Because of their two children, he has to stay with her (he also feels sorry ...
A. 30 December 2005: Breaking this marriage would be a decision he has to make. But he will have to do this on his own. Let him know your intentions/feelings. Tell him you cant wait forever.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best friend I was a webcam-sl*t with the guy she likes? I only did it to get back at her...
Q. theres this guy he's my x (lets call him will) i still like him even though it was me who ended it. lately hes been sending really dirty txts to my best mate i act like im not bothered but i rly rly am. i havnt told her. yesterday i got back at her ...
A. 29 December 2005: Well first of all, showing yourself on webcam is not a good way to get revenge on someone. Moving forward, the best thing you can do now is explain the whole situation to her, and beg for forgiveness. Other than that, the only way out is to keep ... (read in full...)
I feel like my life is over without him...
Q. Please Help me............After eight years of dating the same guy he told me he needed a breal just to figure out his stuff. With no other explination I am so devistated. It has been 2 weeks and I find myself so emotional and torn. I have called ...
A. 25 December 2005: You at least deserve to get an explanation for what he has done, but you are going to have to be prepared for a no-response attitude in case it happens. There are lots of guys out there who just up and leave with no word or explanation as to why. It ... (read in full...)
His roommate is too intimate with my boyfriend and I want her to knock it off!
Q. So I have been dating a great guy for 5 months but he has a female roommate that is highly inappropriate with him. I know that they have been friends forever and I don't want to get in the way of their friendship, but it's not right for her to be ...
A. 25 December 2005: He really should talk to her, especially if he indicated that he wasnt comfortable with it. What she is doing is wrong, in every sense of the matter, she should respect his and your relationship, even if they have been friends for a long time. ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to think my contribution to the household matters as much as his!
Q. I'm married. If I am paying all the bills and pretty much paying for everything and I only get $$ from my hubby when I run out, for emergincies only. How come he treats me like he pays for everything and I don't put anything into the family?...
A. 25 December 2005: If it comes down to it, you might want to go over the list of 'responsibilities' with your husband. As petty as it sounds, he might just need to see that the halfway mark is being met, even if you have to spell it out for him. What is he doing to ... (read in full...)
Found out my boyfriend is dating someone else, too. Do I say something or not?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a really big problem. I've been dating this guy for a couple of months. Recently I found out he has been going out with another girl. I should have expected that it would happen since we go to different schools. I'm scared to ...
A. 25 December 2005: You should definatly find out if this is true, you wouldnt want to share him would you? If he is seeing someone else, he probably will not readily admit it, and you dont want to be with a guy that cheats anyway. Save yourself some heartache.... (read in full...)
The rumour is that she broke up with me because I wasn't affectionate enough...
Q. Me and my girlfriend broke p a month ago and since then we haven't really spoken. Her reason for breaking up was because she was working on both weekends we couldn't meet up and she feels it's unfair to me. However I knew there was more to it, as t...
A. 25 December 2005: If she had to make up a reason to break up with you, its probably not worth working it out. And if she was telling you the truth, she obviously didnt want to work it out anyway, so either way, I think its over. ... (read in full...)
Desperately need help after my first girlfriend dumped me, then I found my best mate making out with her! (long)
Q. Hi there. I am a 17 year old male living in the UK. This summer (start of August 2005 to be exact) i started going out with a girl who is 15. Now i have knew her family (mainly Auntie and Uncle) for a couple of years. And i get on with (and still ...
A. 15 December 2005: The best thing you can do for yourself is move on. Going to the gym and getting out and doing things are really good ways of picking yourself back up. You are on the right track, and heartbreak isnt the easiest thing in the world to handle, but like ... (read in full...)
Why do some men have pre-cum and others don't? Is it normal to have it?
Q. Help, why do some men have pre-cum and others don't. is it normal to have it? Is it bad? Does this happen only to men that are not circumcised? I have a foreskin and when i get aroused i have pre cum, other friend of mine, has no foreskin and has no ...
A. 14 December 2005: It is completely normal, and different for each individual. Its almost as individual as hair color, and eye color, and things of that nature. It varies from person to person, and doesnt mean anything if you do have it, or dont have it. Dont worry, ... (read in full...)
Can't get my ex out of my head...
Q. to anyone who can advise me what to do. i have been in a relationship for 11 months with my boyfriend but can simply not get my ex of a few years out of my head. whenever i come home from uni he is the first person i think about and call. on several ...
A. 14 December 2005: The best thing you can do is take time for yourself. Get everyone away, do some things on your own. The more time you have to think on your own, without anyone else there, the better off you will be, and more than likely closer to knowing what you ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty for flirting because I'm married?
Q. Is it normal to enjoy attention from others, of the opposite sex, while married ? I assume it is. I mean, if you don't act on it, of course. More exactly, is it normal to " flirt" for lack of a better word, when you innocently find yourself...
A. 14 December 2005: It is completly normal, even for married individuals to enjoy looking/flirting with the opposite sex. If your partner is comfortable in you doing so, and both of you are confident that this is all it is. It is completely harmless if all you are ... (read in full...)
I love her to death... And because of it I've been served with a court order!
Q. i have been dating this girl i have been seeing for about five months we really hit it off but as usaul i rushed into things, i moved in with cause she ask me to and we and we both planned to have a baby all in a matter of months, just recently i ...
A. 14 December 2005: If she just wanted to 'clear her mind' she would not have taken it as far as a court order. It sounds like you just need to back off for a while, and clear your mind as well.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for his ex to be a big part of our relationship? And why am I so jealous?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and half now, we're now living together, we have a wonderful relationship. Hes very caring, and loving towards me, he has his off days now and then but when I need him, he always goes out of his way to make ...
A. 14 December 2005: This is very normal for both of you. You should really talk to him about this. First of all, he should let go of her, and any issues he had with her before he can commit and give you his all. You need to give him permission to let go of her. (i.e. ... (read in full...)
He wants to move across the country and I'm so scared to lose him..how do I deal with this?
Q. I have been dating him for awhile and although it wasn't a surprise he wants to move all the way across the country. Im scared to lose him. He wants to leave soon. how do i deal?...
A. 14 December 2005: The best way to figure out how to deal, would be to find out how he feels about you. Does he want you to go? Are you willing to go? If not, then you better start getting used to the fact that he wont be around. Its a hard thing to do, letting go of ... (read in full...)
We've had some problems and now he wants to have a serious talk. Does he still like me?
Q. me and my boyfriend been going out for 2 months now. but for the past week it has been different he hasn't call me no more and i don't call him cause he don't call me. when i ask him why he don't call me when he don't hear from me he said that" ...
A. 14 December 2005: He probably just needs time to think about how he is going to dump you. If I were you, I'd take off and tell him you dont need to have 'the talk'. Things should not be that serious after 2 months, and he obviously has some issues he needs to work ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my "uncomfortable" boyfriend before he breaks my heart?
Q. ive been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now. he's a great guy, he's met my parents, ive met his parents. we have a good sex life, we laugh and have a good time with each other but there is one problem. he told me that there are some things that ...
A. 14 December 2005: It sounds to me like he is leading you on to something bigger. Try and find out what it is that is actually making him uncomfortable. If he cant come up with any answers, yet still insists that he is uncomfortable, there is definatly something ... (read in full...)
It took me ages to move on, but now that I have -- my ex is trying to be ME back!
Q. Hello, I am 22-years-old and going through a lot with my ex of almost 6 months. We were pre-engaged and together for almost 3 years and back in June, I broke up with him for creating online profiles saying he was single so he could talk to girls. ...
A. 13 December 2005: Tell him that if it didnt mean that much to him to keep you in the first place, why should you trust him again? Especially after it took you so long to get over it. Why go back and risk doing it again? ... (read in full...)
Are there any ways to make your vagina smaller, without surgery?
Q. Is there any way to make a vagina smaller? My friend is asking and she doesn't have an account, so I figured what the hell, cuz if it was me, I would have asked for myself, hell, i think I will actually, Is there any way to make your vagina smaller? ...
A. 13 December 2005: This surgery could be performed Im sure if you wanted bad enough and would be willing to pay for it. But it isnt logical, nor is it reasonable and medically necesary.... (read in full...)
I am having trouble achieving orgasms and I don't know why..
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months and the sex has been amazing. he can get me to orgasm through oral sex and its fantastic. but recently i havent been able to come or orgasm at all and i dont know why. i feel bad because i know my ...
A. 9 December 2005: So often in relationships when you become comfortable with each other, the same things dont always work to achieve orgasm. Try new things, find out what turns you on, find out what turns him on. Work together on it. No matter how hard it seems, ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her...but she doesn't seem to really care. What's happening?
Q. dear, My problem is as i think generated by me itself. Not going in details, i am in love of my first and i think last g. f, with couple of years. In start around 1 year she made close relationship with me, i did all she told, i tried to make her...
A. 9 December 2005: You should forget about her and move on. I know its hard to let go of someone you loved, but she has moved on in her own life, and there is no chance that you and her will ever be happy. Especially if she was running around with other guys while the ... (read in full...)
I'm sure I'm not attracted to men, but I'm turned on by she-males!
Q. Hello. I am just wondering, if I find she-males a turn on does this mean I'm gay? I am 20 years old and love girls but recently I seen a movie on TV with attractive naked shemales. No one would believe they are men until the knickers come off, but...
A. 9 December 2005: If its just the fact that you are attracted to them in their "woman" form, then no, you are not gay. But if the fact that they really are guys underneath attracts you, then chances are, you are attracted to men and havent realized it.... (read in full...)
My best friend and I like the same guy-he wants to date me! What do I do?
Q. Im 15 years old and I really like this boy. I have been out with a few guys but I have never really felt the way I feel about this guy. There's a problem though, my friend who is my connection to him really likes him and I don't want to hurt her. ...
A. 9 December 2005: You know in the first part of the question you said she liked him. In the second part of the question, you said she didnt like him. You really should talk to her about this. Ask her if she would be ok with the two of you dating, or would it ... (read in full...)
Is it safe not to use a condom?
Q. HI this is a gay related sexual question me and my bf have only bn with each other, we want to have sex without the condom, what are the risks even if we dont sleep wit other people? is it better to use the rubber or bare? i want us to feel more ...
A. 9 December 2005: If you are your partner are comfortable enough with each other, and both of you have been tested, then it would seem that it would be safe enough to do without it. Just make sure you are honest with each other, and dont plan on sleeping around. ... (read in full...)
Worried as a black-guy that my "package" isn't up to par with my brothers
Q. On the subject of a man's "Size" what do Black women think is small, average or big. We all know what is said about black men, but I just don't feel I measure up. They say that average is 5-7", but it seems like that is mostly for white men. Shoul...
A. 9 December 2005: Most woman dont believe the "hype". In fact, if you get with a woman and she really loves you, size wont matter at all. 5 to 7 is average, but not for just 'white guys'. its a typical male average.... (read in full...)
She's unaware I know about her cheating...how do I bring it up with her?
Q. Hi, i dont like to bring other people into my problems, but i need some other suggestions and opinions. Im 21 and have been dating my girlfriend for 2 and a half years and we have been living together for 4 months now. But, she went away for...
A. 9 December 2005: The best thing for you to do is confront her about it. If she knows she can get away with it, she will. And she will continue to do it, as long as she thinks you dont know about it. Indeed, she is confused, and probably doesnt want to hurt you at ... (read in full...)
My unaffectionate bf said he's willing to change...should I give him another chance?
Q. Im the person who wrote in about my fella not been able to give me the love and affection i need.I got 2 answers and they said forget him.Well he called me and said that he was willing to change.He said that i should write a list out of all the ...
A. 9 December 2005: You ever heard the saying "a leopard never changes its spots"? This is also true when it comes to men. They can say they want to change, and even attempt it, but will always fall back into their regular patterns. You can try the list, and try to see ... (read in full...)
He flirts with me..he kissed me but claims he just wants a friendship!
Q. i got to know my next door neighbour and we got close he asked me to kiss him one night he would flirt with me all the time but when i was drunk one night we kissed and almost ended up having sex but he stopped and said he just wanted to be friends ...
A. 9 December 2005: Talk to him and ask him what he really wants. He cant control your life and be territorial over every guy you talk to if he's not with you. You need to tell him to either step up to the plate, or back off. Some guys just want their cake and eat it ... (read in full...)
I want to help my gf cope with her parent's divorce..what can I do?
Q. Dear Alice, My girlfriend's parents are recently divorced. She is 17. She lives with her mum at the moment, but her mum has taken to drinking and is constantly criticising her and making her feel awful, and they are constantly arguing. She has trie...
A. 9 December 2005: All you really can do is be there for her. You will have to just 'understand' what she is going through because so often parents getting divorced puts a strain on the children involved. Just be understanding in your demeanor and be readily available ... (read in full...)
I know I'm being silly, but I'm so paranoid about my girlfriend...
Q. I think I am losing the plot. I have a great girlfriend who I a currently with who has never given me reason to doubt what we have. However my paranoia means I ask questions and I get scared and worry about what we have. Tonight my weird episodes ...
A. 9 December 2005: I have this same problem, I constantly ask questions to my boyfriend concerning "us" and other thing, and Im constantly worrying about it. Ive been trying to work on it, and the best thing Ive found so far, is to just tell yourself over and over ... (read in full...)
His ex wants to be friends with me...is she being nice or do I need to be careful?
Q. hi everyone, me n my bf have been together 5months, he's always been friends with his ex (they only went out for about 3days just over a year ago) and about 2 months ago my bf told me that his ex was chatting to him on msn and she kept asking him ...
A. 8 December 2005: I dont think you are being paranoid. Ive had this happen to me before. She is probably trying to get in good with you, so that you wont mind her talking to him, or possible trying to see him again. All she is trying to do is avoid confrontation ... (read in full...)
I thought we were soul mates, but them my girlfriend did things I simply did not expect..!
Q. What follows is a story that I still find it hard to get my head around. I live in Reading. I was married for ten years, but have been single again since 1995. I’ve had a few relationships since then, but nothing serious until this year. In...
A. 8 December 2005: I would say you are a better person for moving on. She has definatly got some issues in her own life that she needs to work out before giving a relationship a try with anyone. You were right for what you did, and although moving on is a hard thing ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to the fact that my boyfriend isn't as demonstrative these days?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 16 months now and everything has been fantastic. Lately though I have been feeling a bit insecure and I keep comparing how we interact now to how we did when we first started dating. I find myself saying to him "how ...
A. 7 December 2005: In the beginning, relationships are always at best, and everything is wine and roses. But after that, whether it be a few months, or 16, things start to calm down. when you become comfortable with eachother, you start treating eachother differently. ... (read in full...)
Do I lie or tell my Mom the truth about my online friend?
Q. Hello all, a fast response would be appreciated, im 19 and i have been talkin to a guy on the net but my mom doesnt approve so i havent told her yet and he asked to meet to talk and he wants to be friends. The bad thing is its in two days and i dont ...
A. 7 December 2005: Being dishonest isnt always the best answer concerning your parents, but if you truly think this guy is a nice one, make sure you meet him in a public place, and then afterwards, if you like him still tell your mother you met him there. You wouldnt ... (read in full...)
They have an energetic sex life, but he has never reached an orgasm
Q. A friend's new partner is about 23 stone and binge drinks rather too regularly. They have very energetic and regular sex life, yet he has not achieved orgasm as yet (3 months). He told her that he had been badly hurt in relationships in the past...
A. 6 December 2005: Being burned in a past relationship could leak over in to a new relationship, and trust could be another issue. The drinking definatly inhibits the sex life, most of the time rendering males unable to achieve orgasm. Either way, this friend should ... (read in full...)
I need advice on what type of flowers to buy for a first date?
Q. What kind of flowers should I buy for a first date? I've never bought flowers for a girl before but this time, I want to but have no idea what to get!...
A. 6 December 2005: For a first date you dont want to get her anything too serious. Keep it simple and just buy her one rose. A white rose symbolizes friendship, for example, and would be a nice choice for a first date. ... (read in full...)
Why do I lose my erection?
Q. im a 20 year old male and i am pretty much a virgin. i have a new girlfriend and we have tried to have sex twice on seperate occasions. i get an erection while we mess around but its not constant. i cant get it in her, so she does it..as soon as ...
A. 6 December 2005: An erection is supposed to constant, and stay constant until ejaculation. Many people have this problem and it is not an uncommon one. Losing an erection could be a psychological problem or a medical problem. Either way, talk to your doctor and he ... (read in full...)
My ex is available again and I still care-do I let the current bf go?
Q. Hi there, I met a guy 4 months ago. I've known him for a while, I'm having a nice time with him. We live about 2 and a half hours away from each other, but we try to meet at weekends. In the beginning, I was quite excited, however I did kiss a cou...
A. 6 December 2005: Some people say an ex is an ex for a reason. Remember why you broke up. Is the issue still there? If not, then I say go for it, rekindling old love is always good for the heart. But if the issue that was there when you broke up is still an issue, ... (read in full...)
I agreed to go out with him...now he barely talks to me! Why is that?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really like this guy in my school. We are not in any of the same classes except for one. He asked me out, and I said yes to him, not because everyone else had boyfriends, but because I really liked him. Before I knew that he lik...
A. 6 December 2005: Sometimes when guys ask girls out, they just want to see if they can have you. And after they have you, they arent interested at all. To tell if he really is in to you, try ignoring him for a while, if he really cares, he will show interest after a ... (read in full...)
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