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writes: Please Help me............After eight years of dating the same guy he told me he needed a breal just to figure out his stuff. With no other explination I am so devistated. It has been 2 weeks and I find myself so emotional and torn. I have called him showed up at his door trying to get answers and well nothing is what I get. I don't know how to start over. Please I feel like my life is over with out him I don't know what to do............ Reply to this Question
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (28 December 2005):
 Angel,
First let me just say how sorry i am, this is definately not the easiest thing to go through.
8 years is a long time and for him to just throw it away without an explanation was just cold and uncalled for.
Be we as women have the precious gift of tears. Tears help to easy the hurt even it is a little.
It is going to be really hard to get over a love like that so 2 weeks is just not enough time to heal a broken heart.
But what you must understand is that you need to keep your chin up and walk with pride and dignity even though it's hard.
Understand that it may not have been easy for him either to leave so he must have a reason.
What you do is, don't let him know that the pain runs deep even though it's killing you, so put on your makeup, put a smile on your face and if anyone asks, say it hurts but its ok. Rather die inside with your pride and dignity and a smile on your face, cause you never know who maybe falling in love with your smile.
Go for councelling, try to speak to someone without a biased outlook.
I'm not saying that what he did was right cause personally i think he is a bit of a coward for not giving you an explanation, but like i said there must be a reason for him doing it, and when he is ready to tell you he will.
But in the mean time, do things to distract you from him. Go out with friends, but not to places you went with him and if he used to eat chicken eat beef so that it doesn't remind you of the things he liked.
It's going to be hard and i'm definately not going to tell you to get over it, cause truth is you may not ever get over it, but you need to accept it, for the healing process to take affect, and once you can do that you can move on with your life, but do it SLOWLY.
I hope this has helped even if it is just a bit!
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reader, Phyrekiss +, writes (25 December 2005):
 You at least deserve to get an explanation for what he has done, but you are going to have to be prepared for a no-response attitude in case it happens. There are lots of guys out there who just up and leave with no word or explanation as to why. It is probably one of the most painful things to endure, but the sooner you figure you are better off without him, the better off you will be, if that is the case. Give it a little more time try to find ways to occupy yourself. Whatever you do, you should definatly find out the reason for his departure. And then work towards a solution, with him or without him. You can do this, because you are the only one you have to depend on in situations like this. Good Luck to you, I know its hard, but life goes on, and this will make you better in the end. If he doesnt give you an answer, he wasnt worth your time anyway.
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