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writes: So I have been dating a great guy for 5 months but he has a female roommate that is highly inappropriate with him. I know that they have been friends forever and I don't want to get in the way of their friendship, but it's not right for her to be touching him. This goes beyond normal boundaries. I've brought it to his attention and he sort of agrees, but is reticent to have a conversation with her about it. Next time I see it, do I tell him to knock it off, suggest he have a conversation with her, or deal with her? Thanks
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reader, Hugglebuddy +, writes (28 December 2005):
 First of all you aren't trying to get between their friendship and i fully understand your not the jealous gf. It must be very hard and frustrating that she continues her behavour inapropriatly, you should sit down and talk with your boyfriend he will respect how you feel, don't speak to his friend because that will make your boyfriend feel like he has to choose, just let him know its upsetting and ask him to try and sort it out as much as he can. Good luck hope it sorts out :)x
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (27 December 2005):
Talk to him about it, he is your bf and should respect how you feel and do something about it. She is more liekly to listen to him, the friend then you, the 'jealous gf' (as she may see you, but you AREN'T! you have every right to feel that way). He should be considerate of your feelings and if wont put a stop to it, then let him know that its eitherr the flirty frinedship or the loving relationship with you. You shoulnd;'t be feleing threatend in your relationship.
Good luck and I hope your bf understands how you feel and talks to her about it and she respects his and your wishes.
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reader, joblikeexperience +, writes (25 December 2005):
I would tell you that it is not incumbent on the girl to stop touching your boyfriend.
It is your boyfriend's responsibility to make it stop. He is a man so he can thwart the advances either verbally or physically; she is a girl so you can expect her to try this as well because of some unwritten competition between women and a male.
At the end of the day: if your boyfriend only 'kinda agrees' that she should stop touching you then you ought to 'kinda agree' that you will be kicking him to the curb.
On another side note you might also want to see what is really going on when you are not there. Perhaps you need to install some security equiptment to see if they are getting it 'on' when you are off somewhere else.
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reader, Phyrekiss +, writes (25 December 2005):
 He really should talk to her, especially if he indicated that he wasnt comfortable with it. What she is doing is wrong, in every sense of the matter, she should respect his and your relationship, even if they have been friends for a long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2005): I think that the two have always had a flirty relationship and it does need to stop. He obviously knows its inappropriate but i think he likes the attention. I had a boyf who had the same with his female friend...it didn't change wen i comfronted then...i just got labelled as a 'bunny boiler'...theres just these things we cant avoid and you either need to put up with it or finish him
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