Why has his sex drive decreased so much?
Q. I'm wondering why the sex in our relationship has fizzled. I've been with my bf for a bit over 1.5 years now, a lot of it living together. And in the beginning we'd have sex quite a bit, at least once a day, a lot of times more. And back then both ...
A. 15 October 2010: In order of importance:
#1. Talk to him. Don't nag. Don't complain. Get into his head so you can understand him. Find out his fantasies and fulfill them.
#2. Try to do something sexy. Lingerei, a strip tease. Whip cream, chocolate. Do so... (read in full...)
I cant see a future with him, should I dump him?
Q. Hello everyone I am in a relationship with my bf from almost 2 yrs. He used to be my best friend. But now i am not able to undestand him and his behaviour. We both are shy and till date, we've only hugged and kissed each other. I am 19 yrs old ...
A. 15 October 2010: You're only 19. You won't know what real love is until you're mid to late 20s. Whether or not you like that, it's the truth and when you realize it you'll remember this reply.
Don't be a slut, but at the same time don't take every relation... (read in full...)
Jealousy issues due to my girlfriend's ex.....
Q. I have jealousy issues over my GF's ex that I need help on. First, some background...I have been with her for about a year. When we met, she claims to have broken up with her ex, but she still saw him once or twice for sex in a 4 month span. This ...
A. 25 August 2010: There is one simple solution:
Leave her.
When people are done with some one, they are DONE. They don't try to keep them there as a "just incase" person.
A part of her is not ever him. There's no such thing as being real friends with an Ex.... (read in full...)
My so called best friend has stolen the guy I like
Q. There's a big problem. My 'best friend' is making her move on the guy she knew i really liked. First he liked me and there was definetly a connection, then i didnt see him much, but when i did next see him my friend was flirty with him, and he...
A. 21 May 2010: My girlfriend keeps it real.
She tells me in the world of women, there is no such thing as friends. Girls are always trying to prove that they can get whatever they want and will stab you in the back.
From now on, you keep your men away from yo... (read in full...)
How do I move forward when she keeps going back to her husband and kids?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 yrs. My partner is divorced but i live with this constant threat of her going back to husband and kids. She has gone back once and come back. Now one child is not doing too well at school and she is depresse...
A. 21 May 2010: A female reader, anonymous, writes: "it shows me the quality of the woman if she chooses her lover over her kids"
You can't really assume what kind of mother she is. For all you know the husband won the custody battle and she's stuck seeing h... (read in full...)
What can I do for my boyfriend on a tight budget to celebrate getting through a tough 6 months?
Q. I want to do something really awesome for my boyfriend but can't think what. We've had a rough 6 months or so and I feel like celebrating the fact that we're finally getting back to the couple we used to be (if not better!). I'm on a tight budge...
A. 20 May 2010: Go down on him, don't stop til he cums, swallow it.
That's what you can do and it doesn't cost a thing. You might think I'm joking or being "immature" but it's the truth. Most men are NOT materialistic like women and need to be showerd with gift... (read in full...)
How do I move forward when she keeps going back to her husband and kids?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 yrs. My partner is divorced but i live with this constant threat of her going back to husband and kids. She has gone back once and come back. Now one child is not doing too well at school and she is depresse...
A. 20 May 2010: Never be with a woman who holds you back. Why?
A woman would never be with a man who holds them back.
Don't let her use the ol' "oh my kids" excuse to go back to her ExHusband every now and then. That makes YOU the tool.
I know you love her, b... (read in full...)
I need advice on my cheating girlfriend!
Q. Hey guys im rather upset about this but just wanted some constructive feedback and others opinions on it. last night my girlfriend of 4 years went to her male friends house and just them two were drinking until they were completely wasted and he...
A. 28 December 2009: Smoking weed, snorting crack, drinking... any of that crap around the opposite sex leads to other things.
Whether or not something physical happened, it's just not proper for people to do that when they are in a relationship.
She is old en... (read in full...)
I need advice on my cheating girlfriend!
Q. Hey guys im rather upset about this but just wanted some constructive feedback and others opinions on it. last night my girlfriend of 4 years went to her male friends house and just them two were drinking until they were completely wasted and he...
A. 20 November 2009: How would I react? I would leave her and find someone more devoted to me. She should have known better. Two people of the opposite sex and alcohol. Any IDIOT knows what will happen. Stop forgiving, she will walk all over you. People don't chang... (read in full...)
Love problems, porn he's not into me anymore!
Q. Ok, where do i start? Me and my fiance have been together for about 8 yrs. I'm turning 21, and hes 30. My fiance used to be really interested in me, always touched me, did all the little things that count, like have a romantic song playing when i ...
A. 3 September 2009: Most common reasons...
1. You don't meet his needs and he's too afraid of you rejecting his sexual ideas.
2. It's his way of cheating without actually cheating.
3. You're not as attractive as he wishes you were.
4. It's an addiction he... (read in full...)
Heartbroken new mom
Q. I recently got married to the father of my 2 month year old son. I thought everything was perfect, but to my surprise... there were many things that I did not know about. We've been together since we were 17 years old, and now we are both 21. ...
A. 3 September 2009: "He's not so innocent himself, so I guess we were pretty much even."
That statement alone shows how immature both of you were. I hope you two get over spiteful attitudes like this QUICKLY or you may as well go your seperate ways NOW.
You two a... (read in full...)
Help me understand this guy!
Q. Dear all, there is someone i really like, and we were about to become a bf/gf but, 3 months ago a problem happened, he stopped talking to me for a month, the worst month of my life actually, after this month he came back and said he is ready to o...
A. 18 August 2009: 'a problem happened'
care to clarify? I'm having a hard time understanding the severity of your "situation" when you leave important shit out.... (read in full...)
Why is he still watching porn? I don't get it!
Q. Well I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 half years. Everything is going pretty well. We don't fight much, we still laugh and have fun, and we have sex regularily (and yes we are both very happy with it!). What I don't understand is th...
A. 13 August 2009: Here's another suggestion: Make your own home porn and do the things both of you like to do. Then he can masturbate to YOU and not a slut.... (read in full...)
Performance anxity or erectile dysfunction?
Q. I'm having erection problems during sex but don't now why. I almost always wake up with strong morning wood. When I masterbate, which maybe I do too often, I have no problem getting hard and ejaculating. When I'm with a woman, sometimes I'm fi...
A. 13 August 2009: I used to lose my erection a lot because I was a rookie to sex... and certain positions weren't comfortable enough for me and I lost my erection despite being mentally horny.
Loss of stimulation = loss of erection. Maybe she's not tight enough a... (read in full...)
Why is he still watching porn? I don't get it!
Q. Well I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 half years. Everything is going pretty well. We don't fight much, we still laugh and have fun, and we have sex regularily (and yes we are both very happy with it!). What I don't understand is th...
A. 13 August 2009: Most common reasons...
1. You don't meet his needs and he's too afraid of you rejecting his sexual ideas.
2. It's his way of cheating without actually cheating.
3. You're not as attractive as he wishes you were.
4. It's an addiction he... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing? I thought she wanted a relationship and then got with her friend, so I cut her out of my life!
Q. Hey it's me again guys after alot of months haha. Anyway I need help with something I need to know if I made the right decision. Anyway there was this girl who liked me and we flirted and even kissed! but then soon after she tells me she wasn't ...
A. 13 August 2009: "when does a girl kiss u like that and not call it a relationship anyway"
It's called having fun as single. Just because she kisses you doesn't mean she wants a relationship. Just like when guys fuck women and don't want a relationship. SAME CON... (read in full...)
Why did he cheat if he says I'm the best thing that happened to him?
Q. This is new to me, so forgive me. I'm usually the one giving the advice, not asking for it. But for once, I'm stuck. I've known this guy for two years, and we've always been great friends and just about 6 months ago we started talking every si...
A. 24 June 2009: You're 16 or 17 years old. I KNOW for a fact you're not in love. You only know how to spell the word and use it in a sentence, but not how to apply the real meaning in your life. So throw that sutpidity out of the window little girl. Or the next ... (read in full...)
Did she cheat? She revealed a "secret" and it's bothering me
Q. Hello, me and my perhaps soon to be ex Girlfriend, "confessed" something to me that has me at a crossroads, I dont know what to do now. We met like the last weekend of the month of january and seemed to hit it off with her. We basically spent ...
A. 24 June 2009: Official or not she knew you had an interest in her. Dumb people these days use the excuse WELL WE WEREN'T OFFICIAL to justice their slutty behaviors.
Your feelings were hurt and if she doesn't care as much as you want her to screw her (pun int... (read in full...)
Would this be classified as rape or no?
Q. I basically wanna know if this classes as rape and if the guy still has an interest in me or not. Well about four months ago i went to meet a guy off the internet. He wasnt the first person id met off the internet and i always have an incling ...
A. 24 June 2009: Of course he stil has an interest in you, because you're stupid and easy. You led yourself into this trap like a tool. I don't care if you're crying, unless you tell him NO or STOP then he had no reason to keep going. He was probably as drunk as ... (read in full...)
I love my cousin's sister
Q. Hi guys, I need ur urgent help very urgent, ok here's the problem I love my cousin's sister a lot (maternal uncle's daughter) but I don't see her much, I only see her once in a year or 2 but I'm crazy about jet she is damn damn hot, she is only 19 ...
A. 7 March 2009: All the beautiful women in the world and you want to resort to Incset?... (read in full...)
Should I give him some space until he can forgive me?
Q. He can't get over his anger with me. But I know I he loves me. He has been alone a very long time and I know relationships are tough for him. It is esaier for him to hibernate. Most people would not even be upset with me but when he gets mad he ...
A. 5 March 2009: You hurt him how?
That would make it easir or us to help you.... (read in full...)
How to forget the man I had an affair with?
Q. Dear Cupid, I had an affair with my co-manager who is happily married with two kids. Despite of being happy with his wife who was away from him as he was working overseas, he chose to have a relationship with me. Our secret affair was fanta...
A. 5 March 2009: I agree 100% with the anonymous reply below. What more else is there to say besides call you a home wrecker?... (read in full...)
I recently found out that my little sister slept with my boyfriend a few weeks ago.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years, we have a five year old daughter together. I've known him about 8 years. I recently found out that my little sister slept with him a few weeks ago. But What I didn't know is that this has been going on ...
A. 4 March 2009: You break up with the cheater, find a better man... and you try your hardest to reconcile with your sister. But don't let her get off easy. She needs to understand how fucked up she is and not to hurt her own flesh and blood like that again.... (read in full...)
Interested in an older woman... how can I find out more about her past sex life?
Q. I have been friends with an older woman for a while now. I am interested in moving out of the friendship zone and become lovers with her. How should I let her know this? Any tips for telling her this? She is what I call a “beautiful” woma...
A. 4 March 2009: Yeah here's a tip. Don't ask. She will be completley turned off by you butting into her past sex life. She would feel like you'd start judging her based on her past. Do yourself a favor, take my advice, and let it remain a secret.
If you two pers... (read in full...)
I returned to my hubby but I still miss the man I had an affair with and feel trapped, help me!
Q. I am a 40 year old woman, I have been in a relationship and living with my partner for nearly 9 years and I have a 12 year old son with asperger syndrome who is not my partners. My problem is I am feeling confused, emotional and panicky and I have ...
A. 4 March 2009: You don't deserve your husband. You obviously don't love him and you're only using him for his job and house so you can feed off of him to help yourself and your son. Gold digger. That's practically what you are. You'll stay around to reap the ... (read in full...)
He takes offence when I don't swallow his cum.
Q. I tried really hard to talk to my boyfriend about him cumming in my mouth, because he loves the thought, but whenever he has in the past, I've had to stop myself gagging. I don't think it's the taste, but kind of the gooey texture.. I just don't ...
A. 3 March 2009: Use Tisha-1's advice if you don't want your problem solved. If he isn't getting it from you, he'll get it from some one else. That I can promise. That doesn't mean do things you don't want to... each of you needs to compromise.... (read in full...)
I love my g/f but feel lost..don't know what to do!
Q. So ive been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 months now, and am having a bit of trouble... When we first started seeing eachother we were so happy, we were so in love, but now something seems to have changed, like somethings missing. I love ...
A. 3 March 2009: Can you explain in more detail what exactly is wrong? This is so VAGUE. SOMETHING is missing... are we supposed to GUESS what that something is? If you want constructive help, give us more information.... (read in full...)
Do guys take rejection to heart or blow it off?
Q. Do guys take rejection to heart becasue a guy asked me out and I said no. This was few years ago and I met him recently and he's still mad at me becasue I said when he asked me I actually did like the guy but I didn't know if he saw me as friend or ...
A. 3 March 2009: It all depends on the person. Some have humility, and some don't. Just do yourself a favor, don't be a bitch, and let them down lightly - and making fun isn't nice at all. I'm sure you'd want the same if being rejected.... (read in full...)
I just feel like my husband just harasses me for sex.
Q. Hi! Me and my husband recently got married last year, and sometimes I just really don't want him touching me. Sometimes I feel like he is harassing me for sex. If I say no I don't want to have sex, I have to have a big long, keep you up all nite ...
A. 4 February 2009: I disagree with satindesire's advice I've ever read in my life. Divorcing over sexual tension? That's just terrible. I think you two need to seek counseling. Talk about your issues, don't jump to conclusions. You two obviously need your sex ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with the one I love or go solo to experience life?
Q. I have been with my partner for 5 and a half years, yet we are drifting apart, we love each other so much, he treats me like a princess, does everything for me and I know he will never cheat on me and I completely trust him. However I am the sole ...
A. 23 January 2009: Well if you really loved him, I don't think you'd be torn between the choice of leaving him to "see the world."
If you really love him you'd help him out. Wouldn't you want your lover to do the same for you if you were in that situation? Just beca... (read in full...)
Do most men wake up "ready to go"?
Q. Whenever I spend the night at my boyfriends house, we end up having sex that night and as soon as he wakes up he wants to do it again because he says he's already hard. Do a lot of men do this too or is he just using this as an excuse to have sex?...
A. 16 January 2009: It's called morning wood. It happens just about EVERY morning no matter what for most men. Sometimes it gets so hard, it feels like the skin is going to rip. So do your boyfriend a favor and blow him if you're too lazy to give him sex.... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a guy likes me for more than just my looks?
Q. How do you tell if a guy likes you for you and not for your looks? Out of all the guys ive been out with, it always turns out they only really liked me for my looks and not for who I am. At the beguining of the relationship they preten...
A. 20 July 2008: Keep your legs closed... TRY THAT FOR A CHANGE. That goes for other sexual favors too. THEN see how long they stay interrsted in you. That's how you know if they're with you for just sex OR if they REALLY like YOU. Perhaps you're so obsessed... (read in full...)
How do I make our sex life better?
Q. I can never seem to enjoy sex anymore, i have a son and ever since i have had him i havent enjoyed having sex. My husband and I's sex isnt very good, it only ever lasts 5 minutes tops. Do you think this is a contributor to me not associating sex ...
A. 15 July 2008: There are a few ideas I have on the top of my head, but it requires you to spend some money.
Play "dress up" and role playing –teacher and student, nurse and patient, French maid, or even slave and master. If you are not into role playing you can ... (read in full...)
I'm finding myself physically attracted to other men. I don't know what I want to do.
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we are pretty happy together with the exception of regular fights..However i don't seem to be as physically attracted to him as i always have been and lately find myself feeling attracted ...
A. 15 July 2008: Leaving him over looks is incredibly shallow, so don't take that route. Cheating should never be an option either. Let me get that out first and foremost.
There's nothing you can do. You're human – a sexual being. In my socially class I took thi... (read in full...)
Sex it over in minutes! How can I delay his excitement?
Q. My Bf always gets too excited during foreplay that the sex is over within minutes and tips on how i pospone his excitement so we can 'go' for longer?...
A. 15 July 2008: He might be one of many unfortunate men who suffer from premature ejaculation. There are plenty of articles on AskMen.com about controlling that (Kegel exercises – strengthening his PM muscle).
Another possibility is that the foreplay lasts to... (read in full...)
Is he trying to tell me he has no feelings for me?
Q. I was friendly with a guy for a couple of weeks and he wanted sex but I held back. We e maield each other a bit when we came home but nothing romantic or anything jsut plain e mails then he said unrequited love is the most painful of all. he ...
A. 15 July 2008: When he says "unrequited love is the most painful of all" in this situation, I believe he is trying to pull the guilt card on you. The very pitiful attempt tennagers use "if you love me, you'll have sex with me." That should tell you off the bat he ... (read in full...)
I want to blow his mind - among other things! Tips, please.
Q. Does anyone have any sure fire tips to giving the perfect blowjob? I want to blow my bf's mind! Cheers x...
A. 15 July 2008: Well, it bothers me that you are so young and yet you want to engage in such a act already. I hope you are 100% mature enough to even handle a sexual relationship. Teenagers your age usually THINK they are ready, when you aren't. Do yourself a favor ... (read in full...)
I'm looking for kinky sex ideas!
Q. I'm going out with a wonderful open minded guy. We have a great sex life which is quite varied and experimental but there's always more things to try which is why I'm posting here. Does anyone have any recommendations for kinky things to do toget...
A. 15 July 2008: There are a few ideas I have on the top of my head, but it requires you to spend some money. Play "dress up" and role playing –teacher and student, nurse and patient, French maid, or even slave and master. If you are not into role playing you can ... (read in full...)
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