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writes:Hello, me and my perhaps soon to be ex Girlfriend, "confessed" something to me that has me at a crossroads, I dont know what to do now. We met like the last weekend of the month of january and seemed to hit it off with her. We basically spent the whole month of february dating as friends. For valentines day we went to a nice restaurant in town and then to the movies. That same day it her nephews birthday so she had to go to her sisters early for the party. I said it was ok since she told me this a few days before.it turns out that after the party she decided to go clubbing with her girl friend, who I also met when I met my GF. turns out she ran into an ex Boyfriend. SHe confessed that they started making out and she went home with him!!! She just told me this a couple days ago and I feel betrayed, but at the same time we had just met two weeks before all that happened, and she claimed we werent official because I asked her the first week of March. I don't know if I should dump her or what
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 It is bothering you. It would bother me as well. This whole "official" dating thing has never worked for me.
For instance, were she and her 'ex' officially seperated? If so, then why did she have sex with him. And if she wasn't yet officially seperated from him, why was she dating you? It either means she has sex with people she isn't official with or that she is a cheat (cheating on her ex with you). Neither are exactly plus points.
That you are bothered by this probably means that you two have different ideas about sex. She seems to think it is something you have with your ex after a day out with your new boyfriend. You don't.
Because that is what she did. She was on a date to you, a special valentine date, then went and had sex with an ex. That does not sound right to me. If you can life with, then fine, but if you can't, prepare for more stuff like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): she casually has sex with her ex, on the very day she spent with you, surely this was meant to be somewhat special. that night she went out and had sex with her ex and dd not mention it to you until now. wow, she has been lieing all these months. you have every right to feel betrayed. dump her and get someone who can keep her legs together. her sorry excuse is so convenient for her. you deserve better than to be with someone who just gives it away.
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reader, mulattoman  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Official or not she knew you had an interest in her. Dumb people these days use the excuse WELL WE WEREN'T OFFICIAL to justice their slutty behaviors.
Your feelings were hurt and if she doesn't care as much as you want her to screw her (pun intended) and find a better girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): i think that . you have been either betrayed to you before and you have vouched to yourself that this will never happen to you again.what she did may have been wrong . but you would never know how you REALLY feel about her unless you give her a chance .
2 weeks ???!! come on . you don't know her and if you really feel genuine about her you'll brush this aside considering that she doesn't do it DURING your relationship. talk to her tell her how you feel and tell her you felt bad about it Understand how you feel and don't be bias when confronting her. yes time is precious but so is love
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