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writes:I was friendly with a guy for a couple of weeks and he wanted sex but I held back. We e maield each other a bit when we came home but nothing romantic or anything jsut plain e mails then he said unrequited love is the most painful of all. he hasnt e mailed for soemtime. I am assuming he was saying he has no feelings for me and this is why he has gone? My definition of unrequited love is one way street? Reply to this Question
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reader, mulattoman  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 When he says "unrequited love is the most painful of all" in this situation, I believe he is trying to pull the guilt card on you. The very pitiful attempt tennagers use "if you love me, you'll have sex with me." That should tell you off the bat he isn't looking for love, if anything, he doesn't know what true love is.
Instead of jumping to irrational conclusions, talk to him about it. He should be willing. He might have been in previous relationships where he was sexually neglected and is now insecure. Sex might be the only assurance he has of someone loving him. HOWEVER, when you talk to him, DO NOT ask him that or anything specific. Have HIM explain why it's so important. If you ask him questions, you will be making up excuses for him to use against you (sort of like playing along).
I don't think he is really gone… to me it seems like he is trying to make you miss him and regret not giving it up. He is probably relying "women want what they can't have" so by ignoring you, he might want you to feel as though you can't have him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): I'm assuming your not in unrequited love.
In that case, he may have been in love with you, and is now trying to get over you by getting you out of his life for a bit - cutting contact and such...
I don't know thats my theory.
Unrequited love by the way, is excruitatingly painful. When someone else loves someone and you can't have them...damn hurts.
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