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writes:I'm having erection problems during sex but don't now why. I almost always wake up with strong morning wood. When I masterbate, which maybe I do too often, I have no problem getting hard and ejaculating. When I'm with a woman, sometimes I'm fine and the only problem is waiting for the little man to rise again for a second round (which takes longer now that I'm not 18 anymore). But sometimes its embarrassing because I actually start to go limp during vaginal intercourse and the more I try to not think about it, the worse it gets. Sometimes I can't even ejaculate because I can't get hard enough again. But usually once I'm alone again, I can knock of 1 or 2 shots by masterbating. Losing my erection I understand can happen to anyone but I'm only in my 30s and I thought I wouldn't have to deal with this for another 20 years. Does this sound like a medical problem? Or maybe am I putting too much pressure on myself and this is solely performance anxiety? I'm also guessing cutting down on the masterbation would help too, right?
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reader, mulattoman +, writes (13 August 2009):
 I used to lose my erection a lot because I was a rookie to sex... and certain positions weren't comfortable enough for me and I lost my erection despite being mentally horny.
Loss of stimulation = loss of erection. Maybe she's not tight enough anymore? Maybe the things going on in the bedroom aren't erotic enough to keep you interested?
And yes, putting pressure on yourself will make you lose your boner... hence why I lost mine alot when I was a rookie. You need to relax and enjoy yourself. Easier said than done... maybe seek sex therapy or discuss this with your woman so you don't feel so pressured about performance.
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