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Help me understand this guy!

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Question - (18 August 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 18 August 2009)
A female Jordan age 36-40, *ome gurl writes:

Dear all,

there is someone i really like, and we were about to become a bf/gf but,

3 months ago a problem happened, he stopped talking to me for a month, the worst month of my life actually, after this month he came back and said he is ready to open a new page and i was happy for that and i asked him whether he thinks i really deserve it or not, and he did not answer, hinting that he is not sure or something like this.

i did not give ourselves anytime (my fault) and i started nagging on him that he must not stay angry about what happened.. and we stopped talking to each other again.

i still love him i tried to call him again but he did not seem welcoming, but still he does all the things possible to make me call him again.. trying to make me jealous and curious about him...

I do not understand him.. why he is not welcoming my initiatives if he is pushing me to do it?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (18 August 2009):

Honeypie agony auntBecause when he came back and said he was ready he expected you to "just" feel the same, shut up and agree.

I think he is a TAD controlling and honestly I would BACK off. Let him make the next move. Also, if you feel there is something you WANT/NEED to discuss about your relationship you should be able too, without calling it nagging.

The month of silence was I guess a way for him to think on thins with out interruptions, you on the other hand didn't think about anything but being miserable without him. Therefore he "moved" along and you didn't, not really fair that he expect you to catch up in a snap when he spend a month thinking it over.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009):

He left. He was in the wrong. He came back. Are you saying you said, Do I deserve you back? Because it's vice versa. He's lost by what you said and thinks you are not ready for a relationship, but still likes you.

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A male reader, mulattoman United States +, writes (18 August 2009):

mulattoman agony aunt'a problem happened'

care to clarify? I'm having a hard time understanding the severity of your "situation" when you leave important shit out.

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