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6 May 2007: open relationships; many believe they are pointless as they believe if you want to have sex with someone else, then the person you are with is not the one for you. however, i recently read that about 1% of hetrosexual marriages have one person them ...
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I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay?
Q. I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay? I wanted to wait until i was in a serious relationship before i had sex but now i dont know if i should just go out and sleep with someone because of the whole age-pressure thing?...
A. 9 July 2007: course its okay!! one of my many mottos is don't ever do anything because other people have. if you go and sleep with just anyone then all you get is a memory of a detached sexual experience and quite possibly an STD.... (read in full...)
I don't like her attitude; should I confront her or let her be?
Q. The girl i have been knowing for some time is trying to pull me in to her boring world of being an ideal child to your parents. She is not able to trust someone who is not like her in their attitude towards their parent and hence finds it hard to ...
A. 22 June 2007: remind this girl that her opinion is opinion and not fact, just like there are loads of different religions but none of them are at war with each other because they can accept that not everyone thinks the same thing and why not try rejecting her ... (read in full...)
He keeps cheating on me and I keep taking him back because I love him
Q. Hi ppl, im 19 yrs old and i was in a relationship for 3 years,we broke up coz he cheated on me twice..he says he loves me..it seems like im the girl he has a serious relationship with,but flirts around with other girls too..i broke up with him...
A. 22 June 2007: your 1st love is always difficult to get over, but to put it bluntly this guy is a womanising arrogant pig and deep down you know you dont love him, the only reason you can't get him out of your head is because you can't get over what hes done. move ... (read in full...)
My fiance says he'll dump me anytime he isn't getting his way
Q. what does one u do or should do when ur significant other sabotages the relationship to get it their way. i mean, my fiance threatens to break off the relationship when he doesn't get it his way, so i always give in for him. what can i do about ...
A. 22 June 2007: reader anonymous has got the right idea. this guy is a controlling freak who thinks he can rely on you never leaving. he doesn't value your relationship like he should... (read in full...)
I really like this girl. How do I find out more about her without being too obvious?
Q. I really like this girl. I just need some advice on how i can talk to her more, find out what she's interested in? How do i do that without being too obvious. We are goin out on a date, but i want to know her bit more and make her feel really easy ...
A. 21 June 2007: the last tme i was in this situation i wasted time(ok,about three years)and then the guy left town.lifes too short, ask this girl out for a cup of coffee. if she says yes then great, if she says no then there are plenty more fish in the sea. good ... (read in full...)
Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 21 June 2007: groovy!!i'm up for it as all you lot seem like fairly balanced people(i say fairly). any of you know where hereford is?... (read in full...)
My husband was seeing prostitutes while I was pregnant, has been searching for women to date online and is always bad tempered since the birth of my baby. Should I leave him?
Q. Hello, I have been married for 4 years, and together with my husband for the past 7, and I gave birth to our baby boy last September. My husband has been unable or unwilling to have sex with me for the past 3 years on and off, and since I was 8 we...
A. 21 June 2007: this guy sounds like he would like to be in a relationship with you but can't make the effort, and lifes too short for people who aren't worth it. as for being near 40, people older than that have found "the one". . . ... (read in full...)
He's usually confident around the ladies but around me he's nervous and stutters!
Q. If a guy who normally flirts with all the other ladies acts nervous and stutters around you, does that mean he likes you as more than a friend?...
A. 21 June 2007: damn right he does!... (read in full...)
Now that I've found someone new, my ex suddenly wants me back and cries every day because I'm not there...
Q. hi i was in a relationship of almost two years in a half i broke up with him because he would lie and hang out with girls and never answer my calls and never write back to my text and then all the sudden everything was my fault its been 8 months ...
A. 13 May 2007: you two are no longer a couple so you don't have to make your life revolve aROUND WHAT he wants. you're independent now.... (read in full...)
He says im selfish because I didnt wear the clothes he wanted me too!!!
Q. Hi guys, im having problems with my boyfriend and its to do with him calling me selfish you be the judge. I wore this casual dress to uni the other day and its just above my knees and he was really upset about it. He said im really selfish to have ...
A. 9 May 2007: just say your the one wearing them, its your call! tell him you only live once and your finally getting the chance to show off your gr8 body.
stay strong, miss fit xxx... (read in full...)
He wants to do things with me but would rather no-one knows because he says he doesn't like things being spread.
Q. Hi im a teenager who likes a boy and is beggining to like him more and more, he says he likes me and wants to meet up with me even tho we go to the same school but speak on msn we dont speak in school. He wants to do things with me but would rather ...
A. 9 May 2007: he wants to do everuything except for propor sex and doesn't want to tell anyone. this is because he doesn' want to go to jail and doesn't want anyone to know cos he's scared they will laugh. you can do so much better.... (read in full...)
I'm ready to have a baby but to tell the truth I don't no if I am. What should I do?
Q. ok i have a couple ? i hope you can help with all of them! so me and my boyfriend have talked about haveing sex and having a baby even at our age. we've both had sex when we were younger!! we've also both talked about french kissing which ai...
A. 9 May 2007: your to young to apply for benefits, your bf coulod end up in prison and your going to end with no education. get some birthing tapes. watch them. make your boy friend watch them too. plis he's too scard to even kiss you properly. wow what a great ... (read in full...)
I'm 16, just lost my virginity and now my BF wants me to shave down there!
Q. hey am 16 and and i just lost it to my b/f who i have been with for about 2 years now and he said he would like me to shave all my hair on my pussy... would it make a diffrence if i did or not?...
A. 9 May 2007: tell him that know way are you going to let a stranger with a pot of searing hot wax near your privates unless he gets it done too and he pays for it. seems fair.... (read in full...)
I'm 6 months pregnant, we are in couples therapy but he is still sleeping with someone else! How do I walk away?
Q. I'm having a difficult time walking away from someone and I need to. I am six months pregnant and really love this man, but he is sleeping with someone else and he can't make a decision. We have been in a relationship for over 3 years and were pla...
A. 9 May 2007: if he genuinely loved you he would have picked you long ago. tell him you know hes never going to change and when this babies born your not going to need his womanising disrespectful presence anymore. he's had his chance.... (read in full...)
How do you make a bloke leave his wife without actually asking him to?
Q. how do you make a bloke leave his wife without actually asking him to?...
A. 9 May 2007: you can't unless he wants to. by the way, if this works and you hear someone yelling "you bitch!" don't worry that will just be the low-flying newly-ex wife.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will only love me if I loose weight. Should I dump him?
Q. My boyfriend told me that I need to lose weight. We just got back together after we broke up for a couple of months and he said that I looked like I gain weight. So I told him you don't love me the way I am? He said I'll love you if you lost some ...
A. 9 May 2007: this bloke sounds like his brain and his penis are the same. he is shallow and doesn't love for your personality and you should find a decent bloke right away. tell him to get one of those stereotypically thin, insecure bimbos that are ... (read in full...)
My confidence is really low and I'm a size 18 (UK), do guys really want a girl this size?
Q. I like this guy alot but my confidence is really low, I'm a size 18(uk) and im quite tall so its kinda spread out but do guys really want this especially when they're like 18? any thoughts? ...
A. 8 May 2007: of corse they do! i'm sick of all this stereo typical beauty-means-thin bollocks. i mean have you seen victoria beckham recently, pass me the basin i need to vomit.
stick by your big size-18 guns!!... (read in full...)
I'm 13 years and smart, does nobody like me?
Q. I am 13 years old and am one of the smartest girls in my classes. To most guys I'm just a nerd but random people come up to me sometimes to tell me I'm pretty, but this doesn't happen at school. Am I a threat to them, Are the guys that like me ...
A. 8 May 2007: this all sounds strangely familiar to me. guys always want the upper hand in looks and espicially brains, and don't like to be told no. so the chances are that lots of them like you but none of them have the balls to ask you. but this doesn't mean ... (read in full...)
Do you think we'll ever be one happy, united family?
Q. I have 2 daughters(11 and 14) and have been separated 28 months. 3 months ago i met a guy and we started a relationship. He's divorced with 2 boys(13 and 16) I seem to be attracted to dominant, controlling men and "D" is no exception. However ...
A. 7 May 2007: i totally agree with penta, because unlike you, your kids aren't seeing him through rose coloured glasses. he doesn't want the kittens cos he doesn't like them. he doesnt care what your kids want or what you as their mother promised them.... (read in full...)
My mum absolutely hates my boyfriend and won't let me talk to him.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 8 months. He has cheated on me with the same girl three times in the first 3 months of us talking. Some how I forgave him and he made me fall in love with him. He loves me too and would do anything in the world for ...
A. 7 May 2007: HE. CHEATED. THREE. TIMES. this guy is a stupid user, and your mum is trying to tell you that. if i knew this guy i'd kick him in the balls so hard they'd take three years to drop again.... (read in full...)
I've been a total fool here! Do you think he really wants to be with me?
Q. I need some advice please. I dated my boyfriend while he was at uni but it was long distance. He found it hard to be faithful and often wanted to be single like his mates but eventually he met a girl from his uni and so dumped me. When he ...
A. 7 May 2007: yes, he does actually want to be with you so he can say to his mates that he has a girlfriend until another bimbo comes along with huge tits. move on and try and date some one with testicles.... (read in full...)
How can I bring her closer to me emotionally even if she dares not to break her marriage?
Q. I'm involved with a married woman and i do not want to lose her, I really love her so much and she is confused and she does try to forget me to make believe that is worthless trying. How can I bring her closer to me emotionally even if she dares not ...
A. 7 May 2007: finally, a woman with some self respect and people still keep persecuting her. get over it, shes taken and by the sound of it pretty strongly taken too. move on, your problem is taking up valuable cyberspace.... (read in full...)
i've got a bit of a dilemma because I have fallen for a guy who is older than me by 7 years, married and who has a kid
Q. Hi, i've got a bit of a dilemma because I have fallen for a guy who is older than me by 7 years, married and who has a kid. We both really like each other but I don't know whether to take this relationship further. We haven't actually done anything ...
A. 7 May 2007: straight to the point, no sugar coating- do you actually care about his wife and kid? when you and him could go of on a 2 week whirlwind romance, who cares about his distraught wife and upset kid? your pysical-attraction based infatuation is much ... (read in full...)
Taking responsibility for your own actions when you suddenly become pregnant...
Q. i'm wondering how many other people are getting sick and tired of these whiny "ADULTS" saying "oh no! im pregnant/she's pregnant, what am i going to do, how did this happen, please please help me, im so confused." ok here i'll tell you what happen ...
A. 7 May 2007: DAMN right!! i am only a teenager who just happens to want a career in medicine when i'm older but i seem to know more than these, ahem, "adults" when its comes to human biology and have also noticed that there is one common answer to all of the ... (read in full...)
My gf of one month said if she's pregnant shes going get rid of the baby! I don't want that..how do we deal with this?
Q. My Girlfriend of a month thinks she maybe pregnant she told me tonight if she is pregnant shes gonna get rid of the baby well she said " Honestly i dont know what to do but if i was i dont think ill be able 2 go throw with this " in 3 weeks t...
A. 7 May 2007: this girl has had a miscarriage before and its her uterus that babies in. i'm sorry, but its her call.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is 10 weeks pregnant but still smokes every day and drinks on occasions too.
Q. I'm totally in love with my partner - I love her more than anything in the world. She is 10 weeks pregnant and I am so happy and excited to be with her. However she continues to have a few drinks a week and I suspect more when I am not around her. ...
A. 7 May 2007: tell her to stop now. and then tell her again when she either has a micarriage or gives birth to a handicapped underweight sickly child. no sugar coating please. sorry. i don't mean to be harsh, as at least your not one of those guys who gets gi... (read in full...)
Not sure if i could be pregnant!
Q. ok PLEASE please help ... not sure if i could be pregnant.. i had unprotected sex on the 13th of april... i was freaked, but had my period the following day and was delighted... only i had unprotected sex the day after... he didnt cum or anything...
A. 7 May 2007: i hope for your future kids sake you are not pregnant. you had unprotected sex, got really worried, were delighted you were not pregnant, then had unprotected sex AGAIN?? christ on a bike. get a pregnancy test and learn from your mistakes.... (read in full...)
Period is 8 months late and I'm too scared to go the doctor! Help!
Q. I had sex about 7/8months ago! im to scared to go to the doctor as we didnt use protection and im almost 8months late i dont understand! i dont want to do any tests just in case!! unless i wait how do i no if its just me or if i maybe pregnant and ...
A. 7 May 2007: you either aren't having your period cos your severely ill or your pregnant, and you know this but you won't go to the doctor. clever girl. . . ... (read in full...)
I am 14 and pregnant and don't really know what to do for the best.
Q. hi agony aunts and uncles. im in a bit of bother and dont know how to handle the situation :S i am pregnant, i know your probably either thinking oh god another teenage slag up duff at 14 how stupid sort of thing but thats to be expected. i have ...
A. 7 May 2007: oh yeah, its going to be easy to hide a small thing like raising a child from your mum!! i admire your maturity but you need to tell your parents, if not for your sake but for your child.... (read in full...)
We are both taking precautions but he is still so scared in case I get pregnant.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and we have sex 5 to 6 times a week sometimes more. We most always use a condom and I am on birth control, but he is so scared that he is going to get me pregnant. What can I do to make him see that ...
A. 7 May 2007: tell your b.f that (and this is true) that there is about a 0.8% chance you will get pregnant, so maybe yes, you shouldn't have sex at all ever and see how long he lasts!!... (read in full...)
I am 18 and pregnant and really don't know what to do!
Q. Help! i am 18 and pregnant. i moved out of home a year ago and have lived in differnet places and have now got the perfect home. i live with my local vicar and his family. me and his 18 year old son got on from day one when we first met 2 years ago ...
A. 7 May 2007: no matter what people say, its completely your choice what you do with this baby. people will give you alot of flack if you have an abortion or put this baby up for adoption, but remember your the one who's pregnant and the correct choice isn't ... (read in full...)
What do I tell him if he asks to have sex with me again? I'm 18, he's 49 and married with kids!!!
Q. i am soooo in need of ANYONES help! i've never been in a situation like this. ok here it goes... lets just start off by saying that i can get very flirtacious and get carried away.. its kinda sad but yea. anyway so my manager at the place i work at ...
A. 7 May 2007: damn right you should remind him he is married, and tell him that if he can't give you proof he hasn't given you an STD then talk to the wife. . .... (read in full...)
Is it worth continuing to see him even although he's 22 and I'm 16? I REALLY like this guy.
Q. I am 16, my boyfriend is 22. his ex is having his baby in a months time, and my parents know this.. we started seeing each other only 3 months ago, he is getting a lot of crap from people about my age and a lot of drama is caused.. the situatio...
A. 7 May 2007: i would carry on this relationship, but i think you should know that theres no way its going to be plain sailing- when his ex has his baby its going to be stressful and people are going to give you and him a lot of crap.
good luck!
miss fit xxx... (read in full...)
My husband of 10 yrs gets drunk and smokes pot everyday, I want to leave, but I'm worried for my childrens safety!!
Q. I am 38 years old, I have 5 children and I am contemplating divorse for the 2nd time. My Husband and I have been together 10 years. He gets drunk everyday and is a pot smoker. He blacks out and doesn't remember picking fights with me (or so h...
A. 6 May 2007: this guy is a total loser and your pushing your kids along the road to his life by staying with him. don't worry about him having the kids unsupervised after your split though, if theres any justice then he won't be aloud within a hundred foot of ... (read in full...)
He disrespects me in public in front of his family and friends and is very jealous! What should I do?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 4 months now and it feels like I am in hell. I have just been hospitalized due to the stress he and my family is causing me. He disrespects me in public in front of his family and friends, he is jealous beyond ...
A. 6 May 2007: before you shell out thousands for a counsellor, set up some cameras to film him when hes being mean, jealous etc. don't ask me why but people notice their flaws better when they actually see them. good luck!
miss fit xxx... (read in full...)
I have been seeing this man who is 21 and i am 14 and he is doing some stuff to me that i dont understand and i dont want him to do!!!
Q. I have been seeing this man who is 21 and i am 14 and he is doing some stuff to me that i dont understand and i dont want him to do, 1st he said i like u will u meet me and because ive liked him for ages i meet him, and got in his car because i ...
A. 6 May 2007: you know when you hear about paedophiles on the news but you don't expect it to happen to you? well honey, it has. even if you love this guy there are prbably other girls hes doing it to and in the process ruining their lives. when you hear about ... (read in full...)
Are spanking games normal, sex-wise?
Q. are spanking games a normal part of sexplay if both the boy and girl like to play. ...
A. 6 May 2007: its not illegal, you both like it, whatever makes you happy!!... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I dont like boys my own age-I like younger boys and I get called a 'perv'...what should I do?
Q. I dont like boy my own Age , I just love 9/10/11/12 year old boys!! Im 13 but I dont like any Older boys or any my age. All The boyfriend I have have been younger than me and People keep calling me 'Perv' and 'Sicko' and Its getting Anoyying. I ...
A. 6 May 2007: high school sucks for anyone who's just a little bit different. this is a fact of life but don't ever change just cos people who don't get you want you to change.... (read in full...)
I think I may be pregnant with a guy's kid that I'm not even dating! Should I tell him?
Q. My period is 7 days late, and the guy who's it is is still mad at me for something i did a long time ago. I know it would be his because he's the only one i've done it with. I know it's stupid to sleep with someone you aren't dating, but i did and ...
A. 6 May 2007: before you get all worried try a pregnancy test. if you are pregnant, then its probally best you tell him because by law he needs to give you child support. if you aren't then don't push your luck in future. miss fit xxx... (read in full...)
I want to wait until we are married to have sex! Are there some techniques or things I could do to prevent having sex??
Q. I want to wait for marriage to have sex, but lateley i been getting really tempted. I love my boyfriend to death and i want this to be very special for the both of us. Im a virgin and he is not,and sometimes he gets a little to carried away but i ...
A. 6 May 2007: try talking to him.... (read in full...)
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