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reader, Laceyy  +, writes (10 February 2008):
hey darlinn ive read all the comments ppl have posted and tbh i know your scared and you may not be prepared to tell your mum and dad. If they love you as much as they say they do they would support you through thick and thin even though you are 14 from my opinon i would never abort such a gift from heaven because who knows this could be your only chance. However, your not ready to settle down babe your only 14 but im 14 too and ive been with my lad for 2 months and we havent even had sex yet because im not ready. Moving out will not solve anything; your still in school and whos going to pay for all the essentials for the lil'un you have no job but the wrong thing to do is to lie about it.. your parents will find out because the hospital will phone them; babe your doing the right thing in considering telling them. I can tell my mum anything.. shes a woman she needs to understadnd and she will if you sit her down hand on ur stomach and say " mum im so sorry but your going to be a nana" it'll soften her up knowing shes going to have a grandchild, consider telling her babe okiee good luckxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): I think you should tell your mum if she is not as strict and need to know what support she is prepared to give you and if she will be there for you if anything goes wrong. Your only 14 and young, and shouldn't move out straight away because if you go now and things don't turn out well with your boyfriend and your parents aren't there for you, where are you going to turn?I know when i moved out at the age of 17 into a flat with a friend, it was so hard and wasn't happy, I had my parents there to support me and moved back home 6 months later. you should really think about it. A baby can ruin your education and what ever you desire to do. You have many years to come for a baby and to start a family where everything can be perfect and planned how you want it. I advise to think carefully and don't ruin your life.You would need to think about the side affects of having a baby, you have to prepare it's bag with nappies, get it pram out and dress it up just to take it down to the corner shop, you wont see your friends and can't go out and have a life and do silly things like drink at your age. Having a baby puts barriers on your life. Becky, 17
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): Hey!!
am 14 and i no am not pregnant but if i was in your shoes i duno if i shud tell my mum and Ron but in the end u will need dere help with money and clothes. how do u now if u will be with your boyfriend 4 ever he mite find it hard and move on when your 7 months or something and you will feel alone coz i don think u will still live with him but like i said your mum and dad wil find out in the end and the more u leave it the more u dont want 2 do it and dey will be more mad. she no's wats it like in the end she had u but it ur choice
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): Hey im only 15 but i really think you should tell ur dad
Cause hes going to find out in the end and if be even more annoyed if u dnt tell him!
hope im help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): hey im glad your keeping the baby...but u need to tell your mum becuz she could help you...im 14 and pregnant too so i kno wat yur going through ok jus keep in mind that you cant take care of it yourself!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): heywell first of all im glad your doing wat your doing but u need to tell your mom...thats the most important thing...im 14 and pregnant so i kno how u feel but the only person that knos is my aunt cuzs shes a docter yeah at first she was mad but she got over it lol jus keep it up but remember after u tell ur mom everythings gonna be ok!!!hope i helped xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): well the only thing is that im pregnant too and im only 14 and i have been with my boyfriend too for 6 months as well but im stuck!!!! my gramma hates my man for no reason and i cant see him so im stuck on my own. i know how you feel and i wish i could help buti need help myself!!!from concerned one!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): I like the way you are doing things, but tell your mom... just do it... and your dad will understand... it will take time, but he will eventually have to understand...
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reader, miss fit +, writes (7 May 2007):
oh yeah, its going to be easy to hide a small thing like raising a child from your mum!! i admire your maturity but you need to tell your parents, if not for your sake but for your child.
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reader, iesha_marie_030293  +, writes (3 May 2007):
omg i totley think you should let your mom know. you cant just up and leave trust me . one of my bff is only 13 turning 14 in 2 days and she is pregnet she was so scard to tell her mom cause her mom said if she ever got pregnet she would kick her out? ( i bet yours said the same thin) the truth is she was just trinna scare her so she dont get pregnet. but it happend and everything happens for a reason. she finnaly told her mom and her mom was a little upset at first but she understand everthing happens for a reason and people make mistakes . so just tell your mom im sure shell understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): first of all im glad to hear you are keeping the baby, second of all tell your mom, it might seem hard at first but you will feel better after you do, im sure she will understand becuase she was a teenager too at one point.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (30 April 2007):
 You can only legally move out of home before you're 16 with your parents permission so you need to tell them you're moving out. They're blatantly going to find out you're pregnant everntually too so you might as well tell them and deal with the consequences of your actions.
CD
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reader, AskEve +, writes (30 April 2007):
 Do you know for a fact that you're pregnant? If so then strongly suggest you tell your mum and she'll be able to help you through this and she'll be able to talk to your dad about it. You say it's not your boyfriend's fault you got pregnant... OF COURSE IT IS!!!! He should have been using a condom and YOU should have made sure he did. It's not all his fault, some of the blame lies with you but he is partly responsible too. How old is he?
I wouldn't do anything too rash like moving out to live with him though. You're only 14 years of age and you need your parents support in all of this. Talk to your mum about it, I bet you'll be glad you did.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): Hey! I think you should tell your mum, she will find out eventually! She may get angry but thats because you're her daughter and she loves you! You are still young and she will just want to protect you. Don't lose your family over this, one day you will need them and blocking them out of your life won't help anything! If you want to show them you are mature and in love and able to care for this baby then you must be up front with them now. Besides end of the day, you are pregnant with their grandchild! They'll come round! XXX
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