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writes:My Girlfriend of a month thinks she maybe pregnant she told me tonight if she is pregnant shes gonna get rid of the baby well she said " Honestly i dont know what to do but if i was i dont think ill be able 2 go throw with this " in 3 weeks time we was gonna start trying for a kid together her period is about 2 happen at the end of the month i had sex with her yeserday with no comdoms or nofthing. (not something i wanted 2 do) but what do u think she meant by " ill not be able 2 go throw with this " i did ask y and she said i dont know i dnt believe in killing life my ex girlfriend had a misscarriage and it killed me inside 2 lose a kid last year. but now shes talking about killing another and i wouldn't allow it i would dump her but i love her so much what can i do?any help would be great.
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reader, miss fit +, writes (7 May 2007):
this girl has had a miscarriage before and its her uterus that babies in. i'm sorry, but its her call.
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reader, Gem86 +, writes (19 April 2007):
 I think that if youve been going out for only one month its far too early to be trying for a child. If she is pregnant, then you need to sit down and seriouslt talk it out. She might just be scared! Dont rush things, I hope things work out for you both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): Well hun ur gf probably doesn't mean 2 make u feel this way but she's probably scared about such a life changing thing as a kid!I mean who wouldn't b?
I don't know how old u r but if ur pretty young she may just want a little more of her life b 4 having a kid.
Hope this helps!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): People usually get very poor counselling when they think about this. Nobody really has the guts to explain to women how they may feel later. They don't want to upset them. I can understand this and personally find it very difficult from experience. Later, when people have a child they often look at it and wonder what the other one would have looked like. It is something that you carry with you forever. I don't think people understand that. The reality of the new life that has been created can never be erased. It can't just be forgotten about, whether she has the baby or not.
Some people find they can not handle having a baby and then find they can not handle having ended the pregnancy either. I know a person (not me!) who ended her pregnancy and then never conceived again. It just is not guaranteed that it will.
I am not saying that it is wrong to have an abortion, I realise that for many people there seems to be no choice. I just wish that there was better help for people when they were deciding. I gues there is a fear of litigation..I can envisage someone not going ahead then suing the counsellor who appeared to have persuaded them not to.
If you can find a really good counsellor who can talk through the issues with you both it would be good, but it should not be easy, because if it is not thought through properly it can just cause such huge sadness later. You can't imagine! Far better to face the possible emotional consequences fully than get half the story. Make sure this counsellor has a full comprehension of the issues that will come up for both of you later.
All of this said, your relationship is very new and whilst you are being very supportive, it may be too soon for your partner to take on having a child.
Make sure that while you support her, you also get the support you need. The very best of luck.
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