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writes:Help! i am 18 and pregnant. i moved out of home a year ago and have lived in differnet places and have now got the perfect home. i live with my local vicar and his family. me and his 18 year old son got on from day one when we first met 2 years ago and when i moved in we hit it off. we let ourself get carried away and now i'm pregnant. he said he will stand by me no matter what, i don't want to kill our baby but i don't feel i can keep it. we are both at college full-time. i don't know what to do can you please help?
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reader, miss fit +, writes (7 May 2007):
no matter what people say, its completely your choice what you do with this baby. people will give you alot of flack if you have an abortion or put this baby up for adoption, but remember your the one who's pregnant and the correct choice isn't always the easy one. good luck sugar!!
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reader, misrable  +, writes (6 May 2007):
 I got pregnant at 15 and had a miscarriage, i almost died from it, but never ever did i think about not keeping the baby. i got pregnant a second time at 16 and i have my son who's now 10. you knew what you were doing and you knew what could happen, you made your bed now lie in it. how fair is it to that child to be born unloved and unwanted, you are an adult, you have to be responsible for your actions. my husband and i both gave up all our educations for our child, may have been a mistake, but at the time it had to be done. at 16 and 18 we stepped up and took resposibility for our actions, you should to. your parents gave you a chance that child deserves the same. i'm sorry for being so harsh but it is really annoying to hear "ADULTS" asking for advise on how to deal with a decision that was made in the heat of the moment. getting pregnant is not like buying a car you can't try it for a few months and the get rid of it if it don't fit your lifestlye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): Adoption, adoption, adoption!!!
Please consider it over all the other options being offered.
Your baby deserves the same chance at life that you had, and just because you made a mistake doesn't mean your baby shouldn't get the chance to make similar mistakes or to avoid those mistakes.
Life is precious. Think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks we had a huge talk last night and he doesn't want me to keep it. and i don't either. i can't give a baby the life it needs right now. it's for the best it's not fair that a baby should suffer for our mistake!! thank you ever so much for your help!
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 first of all maybe get in touch with a support line and see if they have ay advice,they have probably dealt with situations like this before.in my eyes abortion isnt wrong if u do it for the good of everyone involved.if you bring this baby into the world wat kind of life can you offer him/her?you need to think of the life your child will have aswell as you.you are very young and it may be a mistake to have this child at this time.try and talk to his and your parents and see wat you are willing to do as a family,the more support you have,the better the outcome will be for all of you.good luck hun,keep in touch,and make the right decision for you and this child xx
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (1 May 2007):
 You need to talk to him and discuss where your future lies and how he sees the relationship going. Abortion is'nt wrong in my book if it does for the right reasons. You say he will stand by you, but what does that mean exactly?
You need to think where you want to be and where your heading and go from there. You may have to put off your education for a while if you keep the baby but nowadays there are plenty of options to mothers who want an education, so dont use that as an excuse.
You will be bringing a human life into this world and you need to be sure you can support him/her and provide for it.
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