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writes: The girl i have been knowing for some time is trying to pull me in to her boring world of being an ideal child to your parents. She is not able to trust someone who is not like her in their attitude towards their parent and hence finds it hard to make friends / keep friends. She is not able to tolerate imperfections in human beings / empathize with them and now she wants me accept what is not really a healthy attitude to living in this modern society. Should i talk about this to her or just let her stick to what she believes to be right? Reply to this Question
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reader, miss fit  +, writes (22 June 2007):
remind this girl that her opinion is opinion and not fact, just like there are loads of different religions but none of them are at war with each other because they can accept that not everyone thinks the same thing and why not try rejecting her because of what she thinks and see how she likes it or say that what if kids whose parents beat them still acted like a perfect child instead of speaking out??
P.S i canot guarantee that any of my ideas will work, but i follow them and my life isn't to screwed up.
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reader, katrinadeon +, writes (22 June 2007):
 i would have a chat with her. i would say to her look you have your own opinions and views on certain things such as the ideal way to behave etc etc. tell her plainly that you have too. dont be tempted to get into an argument on what is the right or wrong way to behave towards parents as that isnt really the issue. tell her that for some time now you have been respecting her beliefs and not making them a big deal within in the friendship and that she should have the same respect for your opinions. if she isnt prepared to tolerate your views then you will have to seriously reconsider wether there is any longevity in this friendship.maybe she doesnt realise how she is being and by having a chat with her it may come as a shock to her to realise the way you feel about her attitude, therefore strengthening your friendship. however it seems like this girl is more interested in followers than friends..if that is the case then think long and hard before choosing the sheepskin as your latest ensemble and pulling the wool over your own eyes...make some friends who understand that differences in opinions/beliefs and accepting them in others is what friendship is all about! i think that its about time somebody had a word with her, otherwise she is going to end up being very lonely.
hope it all works out ok
katrina xx
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