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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): Hi Hannah, don't worry about it, I'm 20 too and I'm still a virgin...although I was beginning to think that maybe I was aexual or something because it had happened yet, but seeing all these responses to you here has reassured me immensely, so thanks for posting this question - it's really brave of you! :-) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Being 20 and still a virgin is so okay! You have nothing to worry about, girl! And I think you should wait until you are in a realationship with someone you really love and care about.
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reader, voices_inmy_head  +, writes (17 July 2007):
I really don't see this as a problem, I turn 21 soon and am still a virgin. It all depends on yourself. Just don;t end up doing something you'll regret later.
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reader, Straight Up +, writes (10 July 2007):
 no it's fine i'm very glad that you want to wait until your in a serious relationship.i think that great there not a right age to have sex it's different for everyone. so just stay level headed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): NO! i was 21 when i lost my virginity and it was not with someone i had any particular desire to be with. it really messed with me for a while, emotionally. my second time was with the girl i love. i wish i had waited.
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reader, queenS  +, writes (10 July 2007):
i first kissed a boy because all my friends had already done it and i fell to peer pressure. i later regretted it for almost to years and felt horrible especially each time i saw the guy. don't make the same mistake i did and wait for the right time or you might regret it for the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): I was a virgin when I was your age. Not a problem at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): Like everyone here has said, it's totally cool. Don't give in just because. Do it because you really feel you want to. To some, sex is a hobby, to others, sex is special and should be a complementary act and not some form of necessity to fit in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): Giving into pressure will only lead to regret. I'm still a virgin and I'm 4 years older than you! So don't worry about what others are doing. Just concentrate on what you think is right.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Its the right thing to do by waitng for the right person to come along instead of sleeping around.
Dont fall for peer pressures and society be your own person
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Your first time is something you remember for life. dont let it be remebered by a a bathroom quckie! (sos for being crude)
dont feel preasured, when ur ready ur ready
good luk hannah :)
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (9 July 2007):
 I'm 19 and still a virgin and proud of it. I'm just waiting for the right person and you should too imho.
I'm sure when you find the right person you will know that you will want them to "pop your cherry" and be the one you gave your virginity to so to speak.
Good Luck!
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reader, MistakenForStrangers +, writes (9 July 2007):
 I turn 20 soon and am in the same posistion as you, so don't worry.
Had the odd chance to lose it, but thought, like you, I'd wait for a serious relationship- make it something to remember.
People would be amazed to know this about me, so you're in good company, haha
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): You remember your first for the rest of your life so you might as well wait until you find someone who you like enough. It would be a shame to get to age 20 then end up having a regrettable drunken one night stand. Hold out until someone special comes along, you'll be so thankful. :)
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reader, kenny +, writes (9 July 2007):
 I don't think this is a bad thing, after all twenty is still young. Don't rush out and sleep with someone for the sake of it, you are better than that and you will regret it later.
Save it for the guy you fall head over heels in love with, you will be glad you did. I think you are doing magnificently, keep it up.
All the best x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 If that is what you want, lady, of course it's OK.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Definately wait for the right person to come along, there is absolutly nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age.
I only wish now that i had waited until i met my husband before i gave myself away.
Good on you girl.
Take care.xx.
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reader, miss fit +, writes (9 July 2007):
course its okay!! one of my many mottos is don't ever do anything because other people have. if you go and sleep with just anyone then all you get is a memory of a detached sexual experience and quite possibly an STD.
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reader, Midge +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Good for you! You wait until the right person comes along. Its not often you find someone with morals like yours, so you stick with them.
Having good morals is good. So keep up the good work!!!
Dont let peer pressure get the better of you. Waiting for that special someone is well worth the wait! Trust me, I know! That first encounter should be something to remember, and is is much more memorable if its with the one that you can honestly say, you love!
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 You should be proud of yourself, not many people have got that far without being pressured into sex at a young age.
I think you are doing the right thing and waiting to be with someone who you truely love.
Do it when you want to do it, not when other people are. Wait for the right time :)
xx Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): course its ok!! one of my many mottos is don't do something just because everyone else wants you to do it. its your life. if you just sleep with anyone youll end up with a memory of a detached sexual experience and quite possibly an STD.
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reader, jtaunton5410  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 No, that is perfectly fine, so you are waiting for the right guy. There is nothing wrong with that. I say keep on waiting until you find him. There is nothing wrong with being 20 and a virgin. At least you are not 13 and pregnant.
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