Was he just being nice so he can get his stuff back?
Q. I don't know how i feel about my ex! He dumped me for another girl and lied about it, so we didn't speak for two months. then when we did see eachother again he acted as if everything was fine and i had no reason to be angry with him, however from ...
A. 20 March 2006: If you're 100% sure that prank call was from his gf and know that he was there in the background, then it seems like he was playing along "nice" to get his things back.
Please move on from him because he sounds like a complete t*** which you shou... (read in full...)
Should I have been flattered?!
Q. Hi, guys. I just want to know how I'm supposed to react to this.. My boyfriend and me have been together for almost a year now.. We live in a house, with 4 of his other friends.. A few weeks ago, I made plans to go out with my friends on t...
A. 20 March 2006: What were your thinking before your decision to spend time with your bf over your friend, before he got that call? He was feeling down so you decided to cancel your plans to stay in with him.
In the same token he didn't see his mates, just lik... (read in full...)
I feel despondent as nothing ever goes my way.
Q. I feel despondent as nothing ever goes my way. I want to leave home, I'm 23,not allowed to move out. I want to go overseas my parents are blackmailing me emotionally. I hate my job, and I hate my life, and when i talk with them they don't understand ...
A. 20 March 2006: Your parents are not responsible of you anymore now that you are an adult. There's plenty of things you can do out there such as further studies, travelling, exploring new hobbies...
I think travelling will be great for you because you get to s... (read in full...)
We talk every day to get over the distance between us, but he shrugs off any show of emotion from me...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, and we're very serious, but the relationship's been long-distance for about 7 months now. I'm usually able to cope with it okay, but recently it's been really hard. The problem is that I always e...
A. 20 March 2006: I wouldn't say you're getting upset over nothing, long distant relationship is extremely hard to deal with (I'm going through one now). But you have to remember that he's propably going through a very hard time too, and perhaps can't communicate his ... (read in full...)
We talk every day to get over the distance between us, but he shrugs off any show of emotion from me...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, and we're very serious, but the relationship's been long-distance for about 7 months now. I'm usually able to cope with it okay, but recently it's been really hard. The problem is that I always e...
A. 20 March 2006: I wouldn't say you're getting upset over nothing, long distant relationship is extremely hard to deal with (I'm going through one now). ... (read in full...)
My son's father is willing to cheat on his fiancee with me. Should I trust what he says?
Q. I haven't spoken to my son's father in 3 yrs. We just started talking and getting along real well. He's engaged to another woman. He's now telling me that he's falling in love with me, and that he's going to stay with her till he figures out what...
A. 19 March 2006: The problem is there's a running theme with him: cheating. You mentioned he cheated on you several times, and he's cheating on his fiancee who I presume he loves.
It's extremely difficult to forget those incidences so are you willing to forgive ... (read in full...)
We never fight. Is that normal?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in love. We've been dating for over a year, but we never fight. Is that normal?...
A. 19 March 2006: Consider yourself lucky! If you've been with someone for over a year and haven't argued means you two have an incredible understanding of each other, don't feel the need to argue for the sake of it and, put it simply, compatible for each other. But ... (read in full...)
He's choosing weed over me and I don't know what to do.
Q. hi erm.. well rite now im sat alone in my bed room because my boyfriend has chosen his friends and weed over me! i suppose it is my fault 4 actually not saying anything to him wen he smoked it in front of me bt not when hes leaving me on my own all ...
A. 18 March 2006: I was in a similar position a while back but luckily my bf did see that it was affecting our relationship (especiailly for me as I felt the same as you - choosing weed over me). He shouldn't be the one giving the ultimatum, you should give him the ... (read in full...)
I have many questions about birth control pills, can you help?
Q. I (18) and my b/f (19) are very much in love and have decided to have sex. we have been together for over 6 months and now feel the time is right. I am a virgin but he has had one previous sexual partner. the problem is i am very worried about ...
A. 13 March 2006: I'll try and answer all the questions one at a time so you'll feel more at ease with the contraceptive pills.
1)The effect it will have on your pill depends on how you look at it. Contraceptive pill contains hormone which are like those your bod... (read in full...)
Is is wrong to have sex with someone 14 years older than me.....even if I'm only 14?
Q. hi, i was wondering what u think about dating someone 14 years older, especially if ur only 14,. also would it be wrong if i had sex with him? i been thinking about it for ages and i feel ready to do it, he hasn't pressured me into it cuz he think...
A. 8 March 2006: It's not wrong to date someone who is 14 years older than you, so long as he's not taking any advantages from you. But you must remember that consent age for sex is 16 and therefore if you have sex with your bf it's illegal. I think your bf is being ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want him to leave the workplace where he had his 5-month affair?
Q. My husband confessed to a 5 month affair with a much younger woman. I am trying so hard to forgive and forget but I cannot get it out of my head that he betrayed and lied so much to me. He has been off work on sick leave now for 3 months, since ...
A. 8 March 2006: If you're self-harming and not able to deal with the issue then you need to see someone professional. Marriage counselling maybe? If you deal with your emotions in self-harming way it may ease the pain for a while, but not the cause of it. It's only ... (read in full...)
We had this weird staring thing going on... Has he moved on and how should I have acted?
Q. A guy at college kept looking at me with no emotion--i never knew what to do, so i did the same. This went on for about three months I got tired of the game and so i ignored him (but i still noticed him), i started to hang around with my male ...
A. 6 March 2006: You want to rekindle... what? Staring competition? You don't want to get to know someone who only stares, do you? There's plenty of other people who can talk as well as look at you too! Act like you don't care, don't let him get to you! There's more ... (read in full...)
Am I just on the back-burner?
Q. Me and my ex broke up a month ago, it was his decision. He said that he doesnt want a relationship now beacuse of all the things he said to me which were that he doesnt love me yet as much as I would like him too, that he wants to focus on 2 jobs he ...
A. 5 March 2006: It seems he does have an aweful lot on his plate so I can understand he hasn't the time for a relationship at the moment. But what I can't understand is he broke up with you but keeps you hanging and gives you mixed messages. It's unfair for you to ... (read in full...)
Questions about the pill...
Q. Hi--I was wondering about the birth control pill. I had three main questions: Should I take ny pill early in the morning or later in the day? Should you take the pill with food? Should I anticipate a change in my diet with taking the p...
A. 4 March 2006: For you first question, take your pill when you feel you wouldn't forget the most. Get into a routine like take the pill straight after breakfast, or when I get home from school/work etc. As soon as the routine is set it's pretty permanant. When you ... (read in full...)
Do I keep or terminate this pregancy... The baby's dad still lives with his mom - she even runs his bath for him!
Q. i have just fell pregnant to my partner,problem is he lives with his parents and seems a mammys boy.his parents do everything for him,even run his bath! he is so huffy and moody constantly,i can never tell when he is happy or sad as he always has ...
A. 4 March 2006: Your baby has done nothing wrong, it's your partner you need to get rid of. Don't get your perfect unborn child in the middle of this, think what will be the best for your children. Your partner who doesn't even run his own bath needs to move hi... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him for being inconsiderate?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. He says he loves me and buys me flowers all the time, but he keeps saying he is coming over and doesn't show up until two hours later. Last night he did it again and I went to the bar to have a ...
A. 4 March 2006: My very close friend of mine is going through a similar situation as you (although she's been with him for 4 years). She feels the only way for the two of them to get over this issue is for him to realise that he has a problem. He's nearly there but ... (read in full...)
I am crazy about this girl at work! How do I know if she likes me?
Q. How do i know if this girl at work likes me? There is a girl at work that i am crazy about. I've been working at my current job for almost 2 years. One day, a new girl came in for an interview. She came up to the front desk, and said she was her...
A. 4 March 2006: Why don't you hint at her about meeting up for coffee or something soon? If she's interested, you can build something from there!
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What can I do to put off my male friend from hitting on me?
Q. I have been with my gorgeous boyfriend for over one year now, and everything is perfect. However, he doesn't live very near me, and I have a male friend hitting on me. He is aware that I am taken, but he is quite persistant and very unsubtle. Its a ...
A. 4 March 2006: You have to tell him firmly that you have absolutely no intention of doing anything with him what so ever, and it's not funny anymore. If he still persists, ignore him when it starts off. And if he still carries on tell him you're sick and tired of ... (read in full...)
Cheated on him twice in a weekend. Should I go on this break (I *do* like his friends!)... Or break-up?
Q. i have been with my bf a year now and i have just recently cheated on him twice in one weekend, we have a holiday booked with his mates and i love them, i wanna go away with them, but i feel i should break things off. wot should i do?...
A. 3 March 2006: You have to show respect to your boyfriend and tell him what's going on. You sound certain that you want to break it off, so go with your instinct. It's not fair on your boyfriend to be cheated and lied if you carry on like it is.... (read in full...)
I'm a broke college student so can't impress with $$... Is that why she hasn't called?
Q. I'm a college student and I really like a woman who's a few years older and a single mother. But I don't feel I have much to offer her. I've taken her out to dinner, but I can't afford to do that much. So I asked if she'd be interested in me making ...
A. 3 March 2006: Making dinner for someone you like is, in my view, so much more considerate than taking someone out for a meal so I don't think she will snub you purely down to that. You mentioned she has a child, she's probably busy with that. Why not offer to ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty and nice..my friend is ugly. So how did she get a bf and I didn't?
Q. Not boasting, just being confident, but im dead pretty and nice, and my mate is dead ugly and can be really horrible, then how did she get a bf and i didnt? im lonely and i want a bf because now shes left me for her new guy. ...
A. 2 March 2006: I hope you won't take this personally, but people don't get together purely on the basis of their looks. You learn as life goes on that looks can get you to a certain extent, but not everything. I'm sure you're very pretty but if you keep that ... (read in full...)
How do we get back the spark?
Q. Okay well my boyfriend and i have been together 3months and have been having problems, we nearly broke up but agreed to give it another couple of weeks. We both agree we have lost our spark so to speak, can anybody offer any suggestions to get it ...
A. 1 March 2006: I'm thinking you two may have to reflect your relationship carefully. If the relationship has only been going on for 3 months and having problems, what is it going to be like in 1 year time, or even longer? I'm not suggesting breaking up, but ask ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want him to leave the workplace where he had his 5-month affair?
Q. My husband confessed to a 5 month affair with a much younger woman. I am trying so hard to forgive and forget but I cannot get it out of my head that he betrayed and lied so much to me. He has been off work on sick leave now for 3 months, since ...
A. 28 February 2006: I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. He was the one that lied and cheated on you, he should accept the consequences of his wrong doings. It seems like a good indicater that your husband has agreed to work elsewhere, that he's willin... (read in full...)
I'm turned on with my girlfriend, but I still don't ever climax!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for a few months but it seems impossible for me to climax during sex. In fact, I have never climaxed with anyone before. With my girl, I am extremely turned on (more than I have ever been before) but still something ...
A. 27 February 2006: Take a deep breathe and relax. Making love to someone shouldn't all be about climaxing everytime. Why don't you try and take in turns to pleasure each other. YOUyour gf for one night, then the next night she can pleasure you. This doesn't ... (read in full...)
Some thoughts on the 'porn' issue...the difference between fantasy and illusion.
Q. Everyone says that porn is for FANTASY, But the definition of fantasy is "a product of the imagination: ILLUSION" Which is where it should stay, in ones mind, not for their eyes. Fantasies are meant to be imagined not to actually be seen. If ...
A. 27 February 2006: I recently stumbled across porn websites that my bf has been looking at whilst I was out. When I talked to him about it, and about how it made me feel extremely inadequate he simply said he saw it out of boredom and has absolutely nothing to do with ... (read in full...)
If I don't hear "I love you" I panic... Any tips to stop feeling so needy?
Q. Hey Everyone, Firstly Happy Valentines Day. What causes people to feel insecure, and constantly seeking for approval, and reassurance? I'm 22, I've been involved with my partner for two years, long distance, and we love eachother fully. I myse...
A. 27 February 2006: I emphasise with you completely. I'm in a relationship of 2 years and he currently lives in France (I'm in the UK). Our relationship has been great, with our ups and downs here and ther but 99% of the time I couldn't ask for a better, supportive and ... (read in full...)
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