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writes: Me and my ex broke up a month ago, it was his decision. He said that he doesnt want a relationship now beacuse of all the things he said to me which were that he doesnt love me yet as much as I would like him too, that he wants to focus on 2 jobs he loves and university.He said he would see our relationship as too much of an obligation. But he also said we can still hang out, have fun.... After some time we still hear from eachother nearly every day. We went out a few times, acted like a couple. So, one night we were out and I was in a new group of people, after he goes home he sends me a text message saying how he wants to be in my life, how he wants anything with me as long as its me, and that he will want anything what ever I want and that he doesnt want to lose me. After 2 weeks I asked him bout it, to give him time, not to jump on what he said that moment. We talked and I asked if he meant what he said, he said Yes. SO now this is how he feels: He doesnt want to lose me to another guy or at all from his life, he doesnt love me yet, and isnt sure if he wants a relationship. He also said he cant say now that he wants this or that. Is it worth waiting for him to make up his mind? OH and last weekend he was out with his friends and he said there were girls all over him tryint things but that NOTHING happend. that he just didnt feel like it. I trust him on this cos he told me he would say when he meets another girl cos he doesnt want to be unfair toward me.
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reader, lois star +, writes (6 March 2006):
this relationship is going nowhere, he does not realy want you. He is keeping you on apiece of string, while he has fun and is wating for some thing better to come along. Drop him soon.
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reader, MarthaZ +, writes (5 March 2006):
 It seems he does have an aweful lot on his plate so I can understand he hasn't the time for a relationship at the moment. But what I can't understand is he broke up with you but keeps you hanging and gives you mixed messages. It's unfair for you to hear that he doesn't know what he wants, yet he says he doesn't want to lose you for another guy. He needs to sort out what he wants. Maybe you should suggest having a total break from each other (no meetin up or phone/text), for a month or two. Get on with your life in that break and assess if you want to give him another chance. In that time he should reflect on his life and ask himself if he does want a relationship with you or not.
It must be extremely fustrating for you to hear him say those things. Give him time to think it through. In the mean time give yourself a break and take up a new hobby or something. Or maybe pamper yourself or spend time with family and friends.
I hope thing work out for you x
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