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writes: I don't know how i feel about my ex! He dumped me for another girl and lied about it, so we didn't speak for two months. then when we did see eachother again he acted as if everything was fine and i had no reason to be angry with him, however from this meeting i realised i was definitely still in love with him. He rang me on Friday out of the blue and was really clingy (but very sweet!) and we arranged to meet up the next day so i could give him back his Hoodie (i had it from when we were going out). but when we met up he was really distant with me, and i didn't feel sparks between us anymore. i later discovered that the night before he had had a big argument with his gf about sex, and that was when he rang me. what does this mean? does he still have feelings for me, but i'm second best to his gf, or is he just stringing me along when he gets bored or sexually frustrated?last night i had a prank phonecall from someone who put on a stupid voice and started insulting me, but i could recognise the accent as that of his gf. i knew that she was with him at the time (having make up sex, he previously told me his plans), and i'm really angry and confused that my ex bf, who acts like he likes me, gives my number to his gf so that he can listen and laugh while she insults me, thinking i don't know who it is. i just don't get it. was he just being nice to me because he wanted his stuff back, and now he's got it he's showing his true feelings, or what? please help xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2006): Are you honestly wondering if whether there is a possibility of a future with this guy? Has he not caused you enough pain, hurt and grief? Why are you going back for more. Firstly, he dumps you for another girl. We both know that cheating is an act of lying and deception. Then he was nice to you because he wanted something back, nothing more. Deception, again. Then his gf makes a rude, prank call to you which you have no doubts, he was involved in. How many more times does he have to rub your nose in the dirt, before you realize-a guy who 'respects and loves' a woman, does not treat her this way. You need to stop thinking about a guy who gave you basically nothing and muster up some pride, stand tall and make him a distant memory. You are wasting way too much time thinking, analyzing and putting all your emotional energy into a "moral zero", who doesn't give a hoot. Stop doing that to yourself-that's living in a fantasy, hun. You may want to jot down a list of character traits, you really want in a loving, mutually respectful relationship and hold out for it. As for your ex bf and his new gf...they both sound like they deserve each other. And never permit anyone to treat you this way again. Hang in there, dear and good luck.
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reader, MarthaZ +, writes (20 March 2006):
 If you're 100% sure that prank call was from his gf and know that he was there in the background, then it seems like he was playing along "nice" to get his things back.
Please move on from him because he sounds like a complete t*** which you shouldn't look back on. Someone that immature (including his b**** of a gf) doesn't deserve your attention, not even time to think about because it's a waste of time.
Not all blokes are immature so forget them, you're much better than that!
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