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writes:I recently started dealing with my old high school boyfriend again. So far so good. But I have a minor problem. He spent the holidays with me and he's still here. He only leaves to go to work or go home to get clean clothes. But I noticed he's flirting with girls on his facebook. I don't really care. It's just he does it while he's here. And he's always on his phone texting who ever. Plus I don't know what is between us. I want to ask, but I think its too early, since we just started talking again about 3 weeks ago. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, theres been a little mistake. He's not living with me. He's just been here since xmas eve and hasnt left. Dont get me wrong, I enjoy his company. But Im not going to be playing house just for the fun of it. I hate wasting my time on an undeserving person.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (28 December 2010):
 If he's living in your house, you should say something. I'm thinking something along the lines of "when are you going home? unless we're in a relationship you have a house and you need to get back to it." Don't let him lie up in your house for no good reason. If he's your boyfriend, he can stay, and then you can talk about this flirting. If he's not your boyfriend, he needs to get up and get out of your house. Life is too short to be taken advantage of.Good luck.
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reader, Tutti  +, writes (28 December 2010):
Shoot straight from the hip and ask him point blank what is going on between the two of you. His answer will determine your course of action.My immediate thinking is that he cannot be texting and Facebooking while you are in full view of this. This smacks strongly of utter disrespect. I almost want to say leave him but because love is more complex than that, I say talk to him.Good luck.
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reader, ManAfterChrist +, writes (28 December 2010):
 First thing to do before confronting about the flirtations, is to define what you two are. I'd ask him... he's moved in so I'd say it wouldn't be a weird question.If he says you two are together, soon he will be "Facebook official" with you, and a great majority of the girls will quit flirting with him. The couple that keep flirting with him will either become a big problem, or not a problem at all. Flirting is usually innocent; it's just something to make both parties happy. But if any of them progress to something else, you'll be kicking yourself in the butt..So definitely define your relationship first. Then, weigh the pros and cons of talking to him about the girls. Whatever your decision, just live with it and don't look back. Trust your boyfriend until he proves that he doesn't deserve it.
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