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writes:my boyfriend is 2 years older than me and loves me tells me he will not do anything i ask him not to. i can tell that eritates him though. whatt should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Are you talking about in the sexual sense? If so, you're absolutely in the right to tell him what you will allow and not allow. You're 13-15, and you are not ready for sex and the risks it entails. If your boyfriend gets irritated at you for not having sex or not letting him do things to you that you're not ready for, you might want to re-think the relationship, because if he's only after you for the sex, it's better to end it sooner rather than later.He's 15-17. Raging hormones abound for him as well as you. Unfortunately at that age, the maturity and wisdom to handle sex isn't there. Are you ready for a baby? Are you ready for a possible STD? Even you are smart enough to know that you're not ready for that risk.Don't ever EVER feel like you need to have sex with a guy so has not to lose him. Don't let a guy tell you that it's the only way to express love.
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reader, ManAfterChrist +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Nobody likes to be told what they can and cannot do.If you were told you could not talk to a friend of yours who just happened to be a guy... but you ONLY thought of him as a friend and he was obviously platonic, how would you feel?Let him make his own decisions. If he is a good boyfriend, he'll make the right ones. If he's a bad boyfriend, you'll go ahead and dodge a bullet before you're 20 and engaged to him ;)
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reader, cat lady +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Do nothing! From your unwillingness to explain clearly what you're talking about, one can only guess it's something that makes you uncomfortable. If it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. There's a reason you have uneasy feelings: that's called basic self-preservation instincts. Listen to them.To a young girl these days, dating can take on striking similarities to hunting season, with you as the prey. It's natural enough but it's not a compliment to your personal virtues or individuality, just youthful raging hormones. Those hormones get in the way sometimes of two people getting to know each other properly and you must control them instead of letting either his impulses or yours rule the moment. When you're ready for a real mate, it'll be your idea, not just your boyfriend's and you going along with it. A word or two of warning: The sooner you learn to protect yourself from situations that put you at the physical mercy of others, the better. If you believe that tired old line of your boyfriend's, you're probably too young to date anyhow.
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