A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:How can I help my friend not get hurt? She and this guy (who is three years older than her) have been flirting with eachother a while now. And she's confessed to me recently that her feelings for him are getting stronger.This guy has hurt one of my other friends who was going through a rough patch. He flirted with her, and told her he loved her, when she asked him if he wanted to date her, he never spoke to her again. My friend was upset for weeks afterwards. He's also got a reputation for doing it to other girls. He's involved with drugs also and has got people involved with themI don't want this to happen to the friend that is talking to him now, but I can see it heading in the same direction. I told her what he had done before, but she brushed it off, saying "He's not like that, he's changed," but I've had a conversation with him about a week ago, and he found it really funny that he had hurt my friend.How do I convince my friend that he will probably hurt her? I don't want to see her get hurt, and I really don't want her to start smoking the drugs he does either.Sorry for the long question, and I know it might not make much sense, but I'm really stuck on what to do. Should I just keep out of it and comfort her when she does get hurt, or should I do everything in my power to stop it?!
View related questions:
drugs, flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Crazylover  +, writes (31 December 2010):
The only thing you can really do is stick by her. Almost every teenager goes through something like this. There's not much you can do cause she's not going to listen. Just show her your there no matter what and you will always be there. So when it comes time and he stops talking she will have someone to go to.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): Thanks for the replys, and he hasn't had sex and left with my friend that liked him before, but he's done it with a few girls, I just don't know any of them well enough to talk about it with them.
I think she's starting to see sense now as she's seen him with a differant girl every day, but I don't know if its enough.
...............................
A
male
reader, ManAfterChrist +, writes (28 December 2010):
 You already talked to her once. I'd do it one more time, then just let it be. I promise you, when the sleazy ones lie, they are good at it. She will definitely believe her new heart-throb more than another friend, and she'll have to figure it out for herself.If that's all the guy did to your other friend, then this will be an innocent lesson. If he's having sex then leaving, I'd encourage you to get a few people on your side and then confront her again if one more time just doesn't cut it.It breaks my heart to see guys treat girls like it's a game...
...............................
|
