How can I make it look like I'm not a virgin?
Q. hello everyone... okay so ill just get straight to the point. i REALLY like an older man and he REALLY likes me too and recently we have been talking about "hooking up" only problem is im a virgin but he thinks im not (x3) because one day i w...
A. 1 August 2009: You shouldn't pretend it was you if it wasn't, and of course you want him to like you for you, not for what your bff was saying to him. Just be honest with him and tell him that maybe you're not ready for that stuff yet. It's okay you're a virgin, ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my girlfriends step sister without my girlfriend!
Q. Ok, first off i have been with my girlfriend for almost a year and i am in love with her. One night a while back my girlfriend, her stepsister, and i were at my apartment drinking... Now my girlfriends stepsister is VERY attractive might i ad, ...
A. 26 July 2009: If you want her that badly, then break up with your girlfriend and go have sex with her, but don't try blaming your actions or attraction to her stepsister on your girlfriend.
If you love your girlfriend, those sexual urges would be real, yes, but... (read in full...)
Is it fair to say women can't be bad at sex?
Q. Hey This is going to sound like a silly silly question, but oh well. So many answers about sex say women don't have to do much during sex (obviously more is better but...), is it then fair to say women can't really be bad at sex? :S...
A. 25 July 2009: For the record, it's true, Sy does have a fanclub.
Also, I think that it's harder for woman to be bad at the physical side of sex, I mean, if they are in a position where the guy does the work, it's still going to feel good for the guy most lik... (read in full...)
I reported my teacher for 4 years of sexual touching and abuse, why did my deputy head shun me?
Q. I don't know if anyone will be able to help me with this, but i hope so. I had a teacher (Who is head of department and on the governing board for the school) who was extensively innappropriate with me over a period of 4 years. He used to touch me...
A. 24 July 2009: The shorter answer is that he did this most likely to protect the teacher and himself from getting into any type of trouble. This type of thing upsets me a lot, it's incredibly unfair and very wrong, but it happens a lot.
It's much easier f... (read in full...)
My BF says if I loved him I would have sex with him
Q. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 39. he said he loves me and if I loved him I would have sex with him. what should i do?...
A. 23 July 2009: I'm incredibly depressed that that line still works on people. It's one of the most manipulative things a guy (or girl) can say to someone they 'love'. Of course you SHOULDN'T have sex with him, he's not taking your feelings into consideration at ... (read in full...)
I'm hopelessly Jealous
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and everything's great aside from one thing - I'm ridiculously jealous. Of course everyone gets that way sometimes, but, I get jealous too many times a day. I can't go to movies with my b/f ...
A. 23 July 2009: From reading your responses back and forth here, it sounds like you already found the reassurance you wanted, but I wanted to contribute anyway. I'm a guy, so I don't know if you'll put much faith in what I have to say or not, but that's your ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell whether I will bleed the first time I have sex?
Q. okay... i masturbate quite alot. but i guess its just something us girls dont admit to lol! anyway ive been with this guy now for a little under 7 months, and im not stupid i know sex will happen pretty soon! but we've not rushed anything.. my que...
A. 21 July 2009: Girls don't always admit to that, and somehow guys never have to, it's just assumed haha.
It's not easy to tell if you will bleed, there's not just a definitive way to tell sometimes. If you do bleed, it won't be a lot, but you defintely do need ... (read in full...)
I know stuff will happen in my hot tub on Thursday, how do I know what to do and how do I control myself?
Q. heyy. i'm really nervous. i've got this guy coming round mine on thursday. we're going in my hot tub. i know stuff is going to happen and im so nervous about it. how do you give a blowjob? i dont want to do it wrong. this is really important. ...
A. 21 July 2009: I think you know what I'm going to say. Just be careful. You don't want to rush into things, and even though you may not feel like it now, having sex with him may be something you regret. I know it may feel right at the time, but if things ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my boyfriend taking things too far?
Q. I am 13 and have a boy friend who is 15 ..... we have been together for 5 months and i really trust him .. a couple of nights ago we were kissing on the sofa and then he put his hands down the front of my pants ... i said not yet and he stopped ... ...
A. 20 July 2009: I agree with the other posters, just talk to him about it and say that you aren't comfortable with that yet and you want to wait to do that type of thing. He should understand, and if he doesn't then maybe there's something you should think about ... (read in full...)
Should I set up a bogus mail account and see if my husband takes the bait?
Q. Further to my earlier post I have been thinking about this........ I have set up a hotmail account using my husband's texting colleague's email address but with a very slight alteration it would be hard to spot. I have used her name for the name...
A. 20 July 2009: Well, good point. I depends on what type of email service they have. A lot of times if he puts in contact names then it would make him make it different in some way so it didn't get the two confused. Otherwise, if it just shows up the name you put ... (read in full...)
Should I set up a bogus mail account and see if my husband takes the bait?
Q. Further to my earlier post I have been thinking about this........ I have set up a hotmail account using my husband's texting colleague's email address but with a very slight alteration it would be hard to spot. I have used her name for the name...
A. 20 July 2009: Also, just to mention, if her email address is associated with her name in his contacts, then when he gets messages from her (when it's actually her) then HER name would come up instead of just the address. If he gets an email from an address that ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and sex is on my mind! I have so many questions!
Q. I'm 13 years old, and I'm having the urges to have sex. What do I do? I know, I am Way to young. and I want to wait for the right guy, and be a saint. but, The orgasims. It very tempting. And the boys my age, Offer it all the time. Its my ...
A. 14 July 2009: Trust me, you're doing the right thing by waiting. At your age you are doing just what you should do, exporing on your own and everything is a good idea. I think you should continue doing that and keep waiting for
You're not a prude, and it's com... (read in full...)
I'm too old for this, I thought?!
Q. Lately whenever i watch a sexy scene on tv or a cute guy i get a funny feeling inside my stomach. Now when i dream and fantasise in bed i'm starting to leak pee. I woke up after a sexy dream and my panties were damp,i'm going to a sleep over and i...
A. 14 July 2009: Don't worry, you're normal, it's part of growing up. What the previous posters wrote is right, I just thought I'd lend my reassurance. You're always welcome to message anyone on here for more advice when you need it, I'm sure no one would mind. ... (read in full...)
I've never had sex so why is my period late?
Q. right. i'm 1 week late for my period if my cycle was to be every 28 days. but im usually every 30 days and always on time basically since i started 3/4 years ago. i just wanted to know why i might be late. its really bugging me. and we can deffo ru...
A. 13 July 2009: First of all, congrats on your first kiss, that's always special. :)
I'm a guy, but I'd like to think I'm completely out of it, so here's my advice as best I can give.
You're still young and your body is still adjusting it's hormones and eve... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt when he fingers me?
Q. It never really feels good when my boyfriend fingers me, it feels great when he rubs/plays with my clit but no feelings but pain with the fingering, (pain cuz i'm really tight). Is something wrong with me?...
A. 10 July 2009: Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you. It just may take a while to get used to, make sure he takes things slowly and be sure to tell him what you're feeling. If you want to do that you should make sure it's enjoyable, otherwise what's the ... (read in full...)
I need someone to talk to
Q. Hi... Is there anyone I can talk to about stuff? I'm a teenager, don't have many issues, but I do really need someone to talk to, because my family doesn't really care how I feel as long as I do well.. Thanks :)...
A. 6 July 2009: You're always welcome to message me if you need to.
I know I'm a guy so I may fail at some advice things haha, but I'm good to talk to, or at least try to be.
Everyone here is here to help, I'm sure no one would ever mind if you message.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, my b/f says he needs space, I miss him so what do I do?
Q. I'm 14 weeks pregnant. I thought everythin was goin fine with my boyfriend. We had our aruegments but who doesnt. he said he needed space.. some time to think. I miss him so much. Hes my everything. I'm goin crazy. what do i do? i need help ...
A. 2 July 2009: I'm hoping not to be the only guy posting because I sense some anger from other posters so...please don't hurt me? :)
To be honest, I agree with what the other posters have said, he's choosing a very bad and very immature time to run away. Ye... (read in full...)
Online guy seems great, but can I trust him?
Q. Ok well, there is this guy i met on the internet he's 19 and well im 14...and...when i first met him he lied to me about his appearence sending me a false picture (i found that out on google images)so i caught him and he said that everytime he would ...
A. 18 June 2009: I think you have to be extremely careful when there is an age difference like that at your age. Although it's not always a bad thing, not everyone has good intentions. Obviously he's lied to you already, so worrying that he may again is valid. ... (read in full...)
During sex, I either feel nothing or I feel pain
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 11 months now and we have had sex over 30 times but during sex i dont feel anything or i feel pain. once we had sex and i was on top and it was okay but i think that was because my clilt was rubbing on his stomach. ...
A. 18 June 2009: If it's not enjoyable for both of you then you should stop and talk about how it's feeling and what you could do differently. You definitely shouldn't be in pain, and I'm sure your boyfriend doesn't want that either, so I just suggest you talk about ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex at 13?
Q. i want to have sex with my boyfriend and he wants to as well but we r only 13 is it ok if we did?...
A. 11 June 2009: I don't think that you should do it. The fact that you are here asking shows that maybe now is not the right time yet for you. Yes, you and your boyfriend may want to do it, but there are a lot of hormones that your body is getting used to at your ... (read in full...)
I haven't snogged a boy, should I do it when I'm drunk so there's less pressure?
Q. Hi my names Leigh im 15 and i havent yet snogged a boy. im too worried ill do it wrong. so many boys have wanted to go out with me but i always say no because im too scared about snogging them. i always get drunk on the weekend, should i just snog ...
A. 8 June 2009: I think you shouldn't do it drunk. I think you should do it with a guy you really like and who it would be special with and do it sober so you'll remember it. I'm sure it'll go fine, and I don't think the guy will mind if it's not perfect if he ... (read in full...)
My friend's secret life...
Q. my friend used to be friens with benefits with this 15 yr old and they were having phone sex like everyday and sending tons of dirty pictures i want to tell her mom that she has been doing things but she would get mad ...
A. 8 June 2009: Your friend would get mad or her mom would get mad? If you feel like it's something that is unsafe for her, you could try talking to her about it, otherwise you could involve her mom if that doesn't work. I think at that age it's already unsafe, ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and think I've developed a very bad habit!
Q. I Have a small confession. I am only 13 and i was at my friend's party and they started watching adult porn and i really enjoyed it .. i don't know why. Does it mean I'm a lesbian because i like to watch girls have sex???...
A. 8 June 2009: It doesn't mean that you're a lesbian. Personaly, I don't think watching porn has to be a big problem, just be very careful. You're still really young, and you don't want to get hooked on things like that, or get involved with things like that yet ... (read in full...)
My best friend's brother took my virginity AGAINST my will and now I feel so alone and don't know how to handle this...
Q. I really dont know what to do. in march, i went to a party.. everyone got drunk but it was a great night! my best friend's brother is 22 and he is about 6 foot 2 weighs about 18 stone and has muscles bigger than my head. he told me a while ago that ...
A. 4 June 2009: You never have to apologize for writing, we're here to listen, trust me.
First of all, I'm so sorry this happened to you. He raped you and it was not your fault in any way. You do not need to be ashamed of it, it was his fault and he should n... (read in full...)
Sex in the woods to lose my virginity?
Q. So me and this guy "Alex" have been talking all school year. We pass notes all the time and we always joked about having sex, especially because at my school, everyone think I get around. The truth is I'm a virgin. Well Alex asked me to go to a lake ...
A. 4 June 2009: I don't think you should do it just to do it, and I don't think the woods would be a good place anyway. I think you should wait and make sure it's with someone who it would mean something to you to lose it to, but if you still do it, please use ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity tomorrow? Please answer ASAP!
Q. I am soooo confused please can you help me asap!! before tomorrow if you can i am 15 and i am a virgin and i like this boy alot and he want to take my virginity really baaaad but i think thats all he wants to do but im not sure. hes 16 and has ha...
A. 4 June 2009: Please wait. Don't let him wanting it force you into doing it. It's a very big, very important decision, and if you're worried, then you should *absolutely* wait. I know you like him, and I know it seems like he'll like you more if you let him, ... (read in full...)
Why does sex hurt the first time?
Q. why does it hurt the first time you have sex? how do you know your ready? how do know when the right time is? how do you know he's ready, and not doing it to make you happy?...
A. 13 May 2009: Sex hurts the first time for many people because of the tearing of the hymen, however some girls have already torn theirs through intense sports, using tampons, and others are born without one. It also can hurt if the girl is not relaxed and aroused ... (read in full...)
Am I considered a virgin?
Q. My now ex-boyfriend and I were fooling around while still dating. I was a virgin, and whilst wearing a condom, he tried to actually penetrate me. He might have gotten in between a centimeter to an inch or so; enough for it to hurt, but not enough to ...
A. 20 April 2009: Although I also thought it was a good metaphore, it does not quite compare the same. Losing your virginity isn't just the act of full on sex (passionate, full penetration, etc.) but it really is defined by any penetration of the penis into the ... (read in full...)
I need advice, I'm pregnant after being raped!
Q. hi i am 14 and pregant i got pregant cause i was raped i dont know what to do i am scared please give me adivice i beg u ...
A. 17 April 2009: I'm sorry that happened to you, you should make sure your parents know so that they can help you through it. If you can press charges against the person who raped you, you need to do so that this doesn't happen to anyone else because of them. As for ... (read in full...)
Creepy new teacher tells me I need to be a "good girl"
Q. we have a creepy new teacher cause the original lady left on pregnancy leave. ok. now ill admit i look a little mature for my age (long bleach blonde and black hair, make-up and a Monroe piercing) but in no way was i provoking this guy. he...
A. 15 April 2009: I think you should talk to a school counselor about him, as well as your parents, so that they are aware that he's making comments that are inappropriate and make you uncomfortable. Do this as soon as you can so that if he does anything again other ... (read in full...)
13, pregnant from first time and it was a dare
Q. Hey i have just turend 13 in december and just found out i am pregnant since I am really young and only just started my period in november i had sex in march and only slept with one lad a dont know what to do but i dont want an abortion but in a...
A. 14 April 2009: I'm sorry, that's a hard situation. You will have to tell your parents so that they can offer support, both emotional and financial support no matter what you choose to do. Myths like that about not getting pregnant on your first try cause a lot of ... (read in full...)
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