I'm hopelessly Jealous

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and everything's great aside from one thing - I'm ridiculously jealous. Of course everyone gets that way sometimes, but, I get jealous too many times a day. I can't go to movies with my b/f because I know he's watching the same pretty girls that I am. I can go with my friends, but after the movie is over I feel insecure. The same goes for T.V. I even get bothered when he goes to see movies with his friends or just hangs out with them. I don't think he would check out girls, but I think his friends would. I'm afraid that they will ask him if he thinks someone is "hot" and during the time he is gone I sometimes get paranoid. I always accuse him of thinking things about other girls or admiring them in any way and he always gives me the same answer. He tells me that I'm the only good-looking girl to him and that no one even compares to me. In a way I do believe him, but it's very hard for me to trust a guy. The sad part is that I'm only in high school and I can't even enjoy my life because I worry about what's to come. My b/f tells me that he will never find anyone else now that he's found me, but I don't believe that. He doesn't know that a beautiful, smart girl may come around the corner and catch his eye. I tell that to him too and he says that he has already found her. I know I should be grateful, he's an amazing guy and the smartest one I've ever met. He says he hates when people say that all guys are the same because he knows that he's different and that there are plenty of men who are faithful to their girlfriends. I'm always in a bad mood especially when I go to school or work. Now that it's the summer I work at a camp which is filled with beautiful life guards and counselors who aren't afraid to show off their bodies. I feel like crap waking up everyday to go because I know I'm going to come home feeling worse. I avoid mirrors and I can't stand the way I look because I have always been made fun of. That's why it's so difficult to hear the exact opposite from my boyfriend. I feel like and idiot and I'm afraid I'm sick. He has suggested therapy but I don't think anything can help me. Therapy isn't going to make me as beautiful as other women. I've been making his life miserable with my constant accusations and fighting, though I get reassurance from his replies. I know I'm young, but I'm in love with this guy and he treats me very well. As naive as it may seem, I know that we will be together and one day get married. I hope that some how I can return to the way I used to be and we can be happier without jealousy getting in the way. Right now, I feel alone and helpless. Please, if anyone can help me I would really appreciate it.

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