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writes:hi i am 14 and pregant i got pregant cause i was raped i dont know what to do i am scared please give me adivice i beg u Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): I would strongly recommend you to talk to an adult. It doe snot necessarly need to be your parents if you do not feel comfortable, but beleive me, an adult is what you need. and yor best option would be your mum.If you have been raped you should first denounce the rapist and press charges against him.Second, go to a women's doctor (Gino) and tlk to her about what happened. SHe will give you all the possible options, but for you to give it some thought she will probably strngly recomen and abortion (if it is legal where you live) if you do not feel comfortable with the abrtion you can have the baby and either give it to someone who would want one (sort of like juno, but real world) or leave it in a foster home or raise it yourslef. lthough this last option I do not suggest you to do, since at such a young age, a baby can literally not make you pursuit your goals.Keep us updated? Best of luck.
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reader, b.rye +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Listen to what these other people are saying because they are absolutely right. You MUST talk to an adult, ASAP - someone you trust that will help you find your way through this. You should also contact the police so this person who assaulted you doesn't do it to anyone else.
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reader, chillbaby8 +, writes (17 April 2009):
hey I have a little advice for you. I have been raped before and I didn't get pregnant from it but I really do think you should tell someone close to you like a parent or a worker at school because you are way too young to do it on your own.
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reader, doniaa  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 email me here at DearCupid. I'm 14 and was raped and made it through so can you.
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reader, OSCARS MUMMY  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 please dont waste any time, you must tell a parent, guardian or teacher you must not go through this alone. You will get all the help you need, i promise but you need to tell the person you trust the most.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): There are three options you have: keep the baby and raise it yourself, give birth and put it up for adoption, and abortion.
What do you want to do? Are you ready for a baby and think about the child's future if you do want to keep it.
What would you tell your child when they grow up when they ask about their father, if you did decide to keep it?
You still have high school to finish, as well to get a career and other dreams in your life.
In the case you decide abortion, it is best to do that early in pregnancy as you have a higher risk of complications from it as you progress through the pregnancy.
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reader, Livelife +, writes (17 April 2009):
I'm sorry that happened to you, you should make sure your parents know so that they can help you through it. If you can press charges against the person who raped you, you need to do so that this doesn't happen to anyone else because of them. As for the baby, that's something you'll have to decide for yourself and talk over with your family if they are willing to support you. I hope things work out for the best for you.
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reader, U-Bends +, writes (17 April 2009):
 you need to tell your parents and get help.
I was assualt 3 years ago now n the worst thing i have ever done was keep it bottled up and tried to deal with it alone. if u feel you cnt speak to your parents, wat about a teacher, dr school nurse sum one who u can trust. they will keep it confidential
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): Ok, you need to tell your mum or a close family member straight away! Who ever did this to you cannot get away with it and i'm very sorry that you are in this situation. I haven't been in that situation but I can understand that you're of course scared and if it's a family member or someone you know that has done this to you then this makes it a tonne worse. Please tell someone you trust and remember you're not alone, once you have the courage to tell someone you can talk about whether you want an abortion or not. If you can't tell a family emmber or friend, call the police or a confidentional helpline and they give you some support and advice as to what to do. I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Please speak up, the sick **** is in the wrong here, not you. Please remember that. I wish you lots of luck in getting through this.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 this is one of those cases where i think abortion is a plausible option. what do you want to do?
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