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writes:I'm 14 weeks pregnant. I thought everythin was goin fine with my boyfriend. We had our aruegments but who doesnt. he said he needed space.. some time to think. I miss him so much. Hes my everything. I'm goin crazy. what do i do? i need help
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reader, amberlee123 +, writes (2 July 2009):
amberlee123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys. I'm just really stressed... I'm goin to talk to him today. wish me luck!
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reader, flicka23  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 Do you want this child? One thing I know you cannot make a man your whole world, a man cannot be the centre of your universe. Have you and your boyfriend planned having a baby together? Your boyfriend obviously seemed very troubled by this news and please don't give birth to an unwanted child. Think well if you really want this child because you are still young.
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reader, Livelife +, writes (2 July 2009):
I'm hoping not to be the only guy posting because I sense some anger from other posters so...please don't hurt me? :)
To be honest, I agree with what the other posters have said, he's choosing a very bad and very immature time to run away. Yes, having a child can be scary but I'm sure you don't expect him to have all the answers about everything, but being there and being supportive is certainly a start.
I also agree with what was said by others - you definitely can do this alone if you need to, it may not always be easy, but you can do it. Just make sure you do have a plan, and if he decides to come back and try doing this the right way, make sure he knows full well that you can do it without him if need be.
Talk to him about why he needs space, try to find out if he's just scared or nervous or if there's something else going on. Talking is important, especially when such a big life-changing thing is about to happen. I hope things work out, please let us know, sorry I rambled some.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (2 July 2009):
Tell him you need your space too, but it's kind of hard when you have a growing baby connected to you! Guys seriously have no idea what women go through, yet a lot (especially the immature ones) never fail to be selfish individuals. I would say to give him his space, but be very reluctant when you let him back in your life. You need to explain to him later on that when you have the baby, there is no "I need my space." Will he run off anytime things get hard? Like icelordess said, make others plans and get your support together, like your family and friends. You can do it without him, he shouldn't be your everything anymore, the baby needs to be your everything. If he wants to do grown up things, he needs to take responsibility for grown up things.
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